Should I tell my hubby...
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CoCoMa
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Last night while working out, my hub asked me how much did I weigh!! He’s never asked me before, but since joining MFP, we’ve been talking about diet and exercise much more. I asked him to guess and he said that I couldn’t possibly be more than 180lbs! He’s always been in to nutrition and fitness and I’ve been the opposite. I suppose I hide my weight well because even my closest buddies (who are at healthy weights) think I weigh less. It’s been bugging me because when I lose a pound or two, I want to share it, but I figure I’ll be found out later down the road. Should I just come out and say it, or hold on to my secret.
It’s easier to talk with all of you because most of you can relate.
Thanks, Felicia
It’s easier to talk with all of you because most of you can relate.
Thanks, Felicia
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tell him you are embarassed to say what you weigh now but would like his support and would like to tell him each time you have lost., have confidence, you deserve to feel good about yourself0
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If you don't want to tell him the exact number that is okay! Guys should know that rule! But also don't hide it when you lose some either! He can be supportive to you even if he doesn't know the number! So tell him how you feel, he is your husband! You will be just fine I know it!0
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I don't reveal my weight to anyone except my doctor (this includes anyone I'm dating, married to, or related to). Obviously, based on my ticker, I do share how much I've lost
Do what you are comfortable doing. It is absolutely NOBODY's business if you don't want to divulge it. If someone asks you how much you weigh, say "less than an elephant". If they ask how much you have lost, tell them "I'm getting closer to my goal." If they continue pressing, repeat until they understand you are not willing to share. With your husband, I would sit him down and tell him you're uncomfortable giving him that information and to stop asking you.
There are a lot of folks on here who do say what they weigh, and that's their choice of course -- I'm not saying they don't have the right to do that as well!0 -
He's your husband. If you can't share something as simple as your weight with him, who can you? If he's asking you and normally wouldn't it's because he's noticed that you've lost. That's a good thing since we guys usually wouldn't say anything until we're pretty damn sure we're right about that. Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I don't get what the big deal is about weight and letting someone close to you know what yours is.
Plus, I'm of the position that there shouldn't be secrets between a husband and wife.0 -
I use to not tell anyone my weight! Not my fiance, my family, my friends and I would NEVER tell a bunch of strangers on MFP but then one day I just felt I needed to let it all out, get it off my chest in a sense. I needed and wanted someone I could talk to about it. Someone who could relate. I felt like it was a dirty secret and I needed to tell someone. Finally I told one person, then another and another and it just kept going from there on. Now I am proud (not proud of my actual weight) that I can let it out there especially on here so I can relate to people, people can relate to me and we can help each other. It feels good to know I have something in common with someone else and were going through the same thing.0
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Hey Felicia!
I think it's great that you two are talking about diet and exercise. You really need to follow your gut on this one. I'm not sure how you're marriage is.... if he's a total sweetheart and could care less about the #, you could tell him. OR just tell him that you want that # private, but you could tell him if you lose a few lbs etc... Or if he isn't a very nice husband and might use it, or throw it back at you at some point.. then I definitely wouldn't give him any ammo. I REALLY hope he's the sweet kind!! But hon, that's your private info!!
Much love and support with your success!!0 -
He's your husband. If you can't share something as simple as your weight with him, who can you? If he's asking you and normally wouldn't it's because he's noticed that you've lost. That's a good thing since we guys usually wouldn't say anything until we're pretty damn sure we're right about that. Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I don't get what the big deal is about weight and letting someone close to you know what yours is.
Plus, I'm of the position that there shouldn't be secrets between a husband and wife.
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What is it with guys wanting to know our weights......does it matter....just tell me i look sexy after all it's not about the numbers :laugh:0
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He's your husband. If you can't share something as simple as your weight with him, who can you? If he's asking you and normally wouldn't it's because he's noticed that you've lost. That's a good thing since we guys usually wouldn't say anything until we're pretty damn sure we're right about that. Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I don't get what the big deal is about weight and letting someone close to you know what yours is.
Plus, I'm of the position that there shouldn't be secrets between a husband and wife.
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I agree......I was super embarrassed to tell my hubby cuz I gained alot....but he is really supportive of me....and I can't wait to tell him my progress when i lose....I tell him what I lost to the decimal....and he is my biggest motivator.
He wouldn't be with you if he didn't love you and the way you look....I wouldn't be worried about it....It may make you feel much better!0 -
What is it with guys wanting to know our weights......does it matter....just tell me i look sexy after all it's not about the numbers :laugh:
Its not a matter of being judged based off a number. If a husband cares enough to ask, why should it be kept a secret?0 -
He's your husband. If you can't share something as simple as your weight with him, who can you? If he's asking you and normally wouldn't it's because he's noticed that you've lost. That's a good thing since we guys usually wouldn't say anything until we're pretty damn sure we're right about that. Maybe it's because I'm a man, but I don't get what the big deal is about weight and letting someone close to you know what yours is.
Plus, I'm of the position that there shouldn't be secrets between a husband and wife.
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This can go both ways...if he asks, then yes, we should tell (part of marriage). But he needs to understand it's not important what the number on the scale reads. What's important...YOU LOST 2 lbs!!!
I'm a BIG fan of using the mirror and clothes and state of mind/mood as the judge of how my fitness plan is going. All this focus on weight seems like a lot of unneeded pressure. Just because the scale reads a number you think you want to be, doesn't mean you'll be happy when you get there. Get to a healthy feeling, looking weight and regardless of what that number is.
Congrats to your healthy lifestyle and way to go with your efforts and weight loss!
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If you tell him, what's he going to do - divorce you?
I'd go with the honesty, no secrets policy. But it is up to you.0 -
What is it with guys wanting to know our weights......does it matter....just tell me i look sexy after all it's not about the numbers :laugh:
Its not a matter of being judged based off a number. If a husband cares enough to ask, why should it be kept a secret?
Is it that they care, or are they just being nosy? If it's the latter, then I would say "I weigh 5 lbs" and leave it at that. Just because I'm married to someone doesn't give them the right to know. This situation is not a matter of trust or something central to a relationship; after all, as you all have pointed out, it's just a number.0 -
I tell my husband everything. He's my husband. He loves me. I trust him. We have no secrets between us.
I know that not every marriage is as good as mine, but if yours is, then tell him.0 -
all my friends think i weight about 180 and are shocked when i tell them i weigh0
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I think u should tell the truth to yur husband.....because its about being honest with u...and yur weight. we as humans need to accept that we have some weight that needs to be taking off. just like we pick up the fork and we need to take responsiblities for eating the way we have done. its just like telling yur husband the truth.....and im sure he will understand and u would feel better about yur self when u tell him. Plus it sounds like he loves u and cares for u.....im proud of u0
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He has (presumably) seen you naked. He knows what size you are. Having him know the actual number shouldn't change anything.0
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What is it with guys wanting to know our weights......does it matter....just tell me i look sexy after all it's not about the numbers :laugh:
Its not a matter of being judged based off a number. If a husband cares enough to ask, why should it be kept a secret?0 -
You guys are truly awesome, thank you so much for sharing your opinions!!
My hub is the nicest, sweetest, most non-judgmental guy. We have always been best friends first, and we’re also music partners, workout partners, meditation partners, and partners in everything else. I know that revealing my weight to him has been my own fear, which is holding me back. The logical part of my brain knows that he wouldn’t care about the number, it's the irrational part that seems to take control most of the time *sigh*
So….I will get over the fear and reveal my weight to him tonight!! Thanks again all for your input, it’s much appreciated!
Felicia♥0
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