Looking to encourage each other & stay accountable! ❤️

cozy111
cozy111 Posts: 5 Member
Warning: this is very long! Warning to my new-future friends: I always have a lot to sa! God bless you for reading this until the end ❤️
Hello loves!!! I am so excited to be on here.
Community is so important when it comes to our goals coming to fruition! Could we receive all of our degrees and diplomas quietly without help? Nope, probably not! Could we have succeeding in our marriage if we had never gotten outside advice? No, probably not! And just life in general... can we be our very best when we are continuously isolated and alone? No!!! Praise God we are social beings, and praise God for community. ❤️❤️❤️
I would love to lose 40-50lbs to be in the normal BMI range. It's really been a difficult journey for me when it comes to my weight... (well- and life in general although I'm still young) over a year ago I became very obsessive about my weight. In 6 months I went from 230 to 175. I was happy about it, but an endless cycle began... I struggled with binge eating, which resulted from extreme calorie restriction/fasting throughout the days. Binging also came up because of emotional things in my life, but half of the time it was because I never ate enough food during the day so at night I would go crazy. I was a live in nanny at the time in Florida, and my boss started to notice my strange habits... she got very concerned. I started to see a hypnotherapist for my boses peace of mind but after $700/800 out of pocket I can't say there's anything that really stuck with me. On the inside I was not doing well at all. I was miserable, and most of my free time was spent planning my no-eating days and 500 calorie days. I could have been studying for university, strengthening my relationship with God and spending time helping other or doing what I love; like playing piano... but instead I was so focused on what I was worried people would see on the outside. And that would give me anxiety.
All last summer I worked hard to 'lose' weight but it always ended up the same after my restriction/binge cycle. By October I was back up to 200lbs and I was not happy. I got very depressed about the way I looked and lost all will power. I kept trying to lose weight, but it didn't work.
Now it's may, almost June, and I'm at about 195. I really have been focusing on calming down and losing all of the horrible habits I used to have that lead me to binge and restrict so heavily. I really want to focus on health. What will be good for my body in the long run. Who cares how I look to other people. If I were here to please other people, do you think I would be a servant to Jesus Christ? (Galatians 1:10) the truth is, we are not just here to look hot and find a mate. How we look and how people 'see' us is NOT what truly matters. We are here to glorify God and be His Vessel. To live the life He has gifted to us. To enjoy life in this very body we cherish and love! ❤️ But greater than that; the very body GOD created and loves! The very body we spend time with friends and family in! Start filling your heart and mind with truth. No, losing this weight will not make your life complete. No, it can't make anyone love you more. It can't make him come back. It won't make your life more beautiful or more meaningful.
But what might actually change those things is health. Health is full circle; mind, body and spirit. And if you're here living the life, enjoying every bit and loving your body, and your boyfriend doesn't think that 50lbs is coming off fast enough? Well, he doesn't have your best interest in mind then, does he. Just like anything else good in life, it's a process...
This is more than just calorie counting to me. This is about adapting habits to lifelong health and longevity. This is about the whole shebang... our entire self, not just the outside.
And I know I can't do it on my own! I would love love love love a group to support each other. I want to know your heart and I want to know what you struggle with, what burdens you and what gives you joy! (Sorry if it sounds mushy) but I really do wish success on each and every one of y'all. I love and care about you and your HEALTH!

Replies

  • LeslieLuvs
    LeslieLuvs Posts: 1 Member
    Count me in! I feel like we're on the same wavelength. I personally have always struggled with body image horribly, and I'm trying hard to convert my thoughts from comparing myself to others to trying to become a better version of myself inside and out. I want to FEEL better, not just look better- I feel like a lot of my occasional binging comes from stress over college and life in general, and to have a partner in this would make me feel a little more at ease. As a fellow Christian, I agree with all that you've said. Our bodies are temples, and I just want mine to be as healthy and strong as possible for ME. And I don't want my mind to wander and begin comparing my temple to other people's when I get discouraged (my biggest struggle). My goal is just to lose maybe 10-15 pounds and to generally get to a point where I feel healthy- my mind and my body. I'm here for you as well girl!

    Being with family and traveling give me the greatest joy! What about you?
  • fitnessandrealm
    fitnessandrealm Posts: 2 Member
    cozy111 wrote: »
    Warning: this is very long! Warning to my new-future friends: I always have a lot to sa! God bless you for reading this until the end ❤️
    Hello loves!!! I am so excited to be on here.
    Community is so important when it comes to our goals coming to fruition! Could we receive all of our degrees and diplomas quietly without help? Nope, probably not! Could we have succeeding in our marriage if we had never gotten outside advice? No, probably not! And just life in general... can we be our very best when we are continuously isolated and alone? No!!! Praise God we are social beings, and praise God for community. ❤️❤️❤️
    I would love to lose 40-50lbs to be in the normal BMI range. It's really been a difficult journey for me when it comes to my weight... (well- and life in general although I'm still young) over a year ago I became very obsessive about my weight. In 6 months I went from 230 to 175. I was happy about it, but an endless cycle began... I struggled with binge eating, which resulted from extreme calorie restriction/fasting throughout the days. Binging also came up because of emotional things in my life, but half of the time it was because I never ate enough food during the day so at night I would go crazy. I was a live in nanny at the time in Florida, and my boss started to notice my strange habits... she got very concerned. I started to see a hypnotherapist for my boses peace of mind but after $700/800 out of pocket I can't say there's anything that really stuck with me. On the inside I was not doing well at all. I was miserable, and most of my free time was spent planning my no-eating days and 500 calorie days. I could have been studying for university, strengthening my relationship with God and spending time helping other or doing what I love; like playing piano... but instead I was so focused on what I was worried people would see on the outside. And that would give me anxiety.
    All last summer I worked hard to 'lose' weight but it always ended up the same after my restriction/binge cycle. By October I was back up to 200lbs and I was not happy. I got very depressed about the way I looked and lost all will power. I kept trying to lose weight, but it didn't work.
    Now it's may, almost June, and I'm at about 195. I really have been focusing on calming down and losing all of the horrible habits I used to have that lead me to binge and restrict so heavily. I really want to focus on health. What will be good for my body in the long run. Who cares how I look to other people. If I were here to please other people, do you think I would be a servant to Jesus Christ? (Galatians 1:10) the truth is, we are not just here to look hot and find a mate. How we look and how people 'see' us is NOT what truly matters. We are here to glorify God and be His Vessel. To live the life He has gifted to us. To enjoy life in this very body we cherish and love! ❤️ But greater than that; the very body GOD created and loves! The very body we spend time with friends and family in! Start filling your heart and mind with truth. No, losing this weight will not make your life complete. No, it can't make anyone love you more. It can't make him come back. It won't make your life more beautiful or more meaningful.
    But what might actually change those things is health. Health is full circle; mind, body and spirit. And if you're here living the life, enjoying every bit and loving your body, and your boyfriend doesn't think that 50lbs is coming off fast enough? Well, he doesn't have your best interest in mind then, does he. Just like anything else good in life, it's a process...
    This is more than just calorie counting to me. This is about adapting habits to lifelong health and longevity. This is about the whole shebang... our entire self, not just the outside.
    And I know I can't do it on my own! I would love love love love a group to support each other. I want to know your heart and I want to know what you struggle with, what burdens you and what gives you joy! (Sorry if it sounds mushy) but I really do wish success on each and every one of y'all. I love and care about you and your HEALTH!

    I totally agree that Health is full circle: mind, body and spirit. What's really matter is to not quit and continue our journey. Even if we have different sizes, races, religions and cultures, we have the same goal... TO CONTINUE LIVING and STAY HEALTHY. I believe that we should never give up and continue to encourage ourselves. MFP is a great tool for all of us but still... we have to work hard for our mission.

    Today, I lost pounds and gain pounds from time to time but I keep myself motivated even if sometimes I lose hope. I believe that we need a company for our journey whether it's career, relationship or wealth. We need motivations every now and then. My family is very supportive on my weight loss journey but sometimes they are irritating because they pressure me hehehe. But, at least, they are really concern on my health and I love them for being pushy. It's reminds me that I really need to push harder everyday.

    MFP is very challenging for me because most of verified foods are not available in Philippines but I make sure that I keep tracking my food everyday. If you need company, you can add me as friend. By the way, thanks for a very long inspiring message!

    XOXO
  • Ariillynn
    Ariillynn Posts: 23 Member
    Read every word. Inspiring! Good luck to you! Hope we can be fit friends and keep each other going!
  • CynoO
    CynoO Posts: 161 Member
    Sounds like a country song! hahaha I agree with the health circle complete I am sure you will do fantastic welcome
  • briannaleger
    briannaleger Posts: 1 Member
    I would love to join this group if you all are still looking for new friends.
  • Winterlover123
    Winterlover123 Posts: 352 Member
    Feel free to add me! ~ :)
  • Befitorbesorry
    Befitorbesorry Posts: 30 Member
    Fantastic post! I feel you. I'm looking for like minded friends. The journey is hard but not impossible! This is no longer an option, it's something we must do for ourselves. Once we accomplish this obstacle, we will get closer to the best version of our selves. Not just physical but mind, body, and soul! Best wishes everyone! I'll send out a request so we can continue to inspire each other!
  • nikki_challenge
    nikki_challenge Posts: 4 Member
    Hey everyone! I'm also looking for accountability/ and friendship! Feel free to add me too
  • abbeyfitness123
    abbeyfitness123 Posts: 19 Member
    Count me in! I've always struggled with body image and I want to be held accountable when I leave for college in just over a month. I have gone from 170 to a low of 151 and now back up to 155. I got very obsessed over calories and logging every bite, I stopped logging for awhile but started again so I could get adapted to portion sizes and such in college. I want to get back down to 151 or even 145 by Thanksgiving break or Christmas!
  • gr8fulheart
    gr8fulheart Posts: 1 Member
    Same here. Please count me in.
  • ReesyIsLivingOnKeto
    ReesyIsLivingOnKeto Posts: 38 Member
    Hi there. Add me as a friend.
  • RebeccaWestrate
    RebeccaWestrate Posts: 1 Member
    Me me! I'm all about creating these life long habits, not this vicious roller coaster weight loss and gain that I've been on. I recently started reading two Bible Study books that focus on reforming my mindset towards food because Jesus desires our best and the best for us, which includes our health! It took me too long to realize I go to God about everything else, and not my health and eating struggles. Down 3.8 lbs this week and don't feel deprived or scared that I'll just fall off again. I feel closer to God and that with Him I can change my life, not just my weight!
  • MarvinsFitLife
    MarvinsFitLife Posts: 874 Member
    Here to support you God bless