Wife needing advice for her Hubs

If he is oly eating one meal a day his body will go into starvation mode and while at first he will lose weight Soon his boy will just store EVERYTHING... Be th nagging wife try to find a way to encourage healthy eating. Not saying anything will not do him any favors in the long run.

My hubby and I are doing WW together and that makes it easier. In the past, when he wasn't on board with me, I just tried to fix healthy food and eat properly. Maybe by you doing it, it will rub off on him. He's gotta make the choices for health himself. I would just be there for him when he wants to talk about it, and demonstrate good habits the rest of the time. He'll see you having success, feeling better, etc., and come around. Good luck!

That's a tough one. I'd say let him give it a go for awhile. Eventually he will realize how much easier it is just to eat 5 small meals a day.

What he is doing is very unhealthy. It will send his body into starvation mode and only make him hold on to weight and/or he will lose some weight but be so hungry that he'll binge and put it all back on. Talk to him about healthy eating, everything in moderation, portion distortion... Eating healthy does not have to be painful; you don't have to be a martyr to lose weight. By using MFP, I have been able to work my favorite snacks, junk foods, even fast food into my healthy eating plan by "saving" some calories when I know I will be splurging. For example, if I know we're doing a family movie night, I'll have a big salad for supper and save some calories for the chips later on. And I'll weigh my chips on my food scale so that I know exactly what I'm eating rather than blindly reaching into the bag.

If he is oly eating one meal a day his body will go into starvation mode and while at first he will lose weight Soon his boy will just store EVERYTHING... Be th nagging wife try to find a way to encourage healthy eating. Not saying anything will not do him any favors in the long run.

That's not true. It takes 72 hours of extreme reduced caloric intake to effect metablism. It doesn't really matter at what time or at what frequency meals are consumed. It only comes down to calories in vs. calories out.

ONE MEAL A DAY WILL NOT CAUSE SOMEONE TO GO IN TO STARVATION MODE. It's probably not sustainable - and he's probably not being truthful, either. He's telling you that to get you off of his back.

Being a nagging wife won't help. Only keep healthy food in the house. Make healthy dinners. Offer to pack lunch. Suggest a walk in the evenings.

If it is that important to YOU, you should offer to make it as easy as possible for him. Otherwise you're just a nag.

Personally I don't feel nagging is the way to go. I would offer him something healthy you were eating if he wasn't eating. Maybe eat with him when he does eat and make it enjoyable so he will want to eat other meals with you, thus eating more healthy meals! Let him know, as you probably already have, about MFP and how supportve we all are.
My hubby needs to lose weight, has for quite a while. Now the doctor said he needs to lose 50 lbs, but would be ok with 40 lbs lost. He is on PB meds, cholesterol meds, and is now pre diabetic. Still not doing much about it. Comes up with one excuse after the other as to why he "can't exercise". Makes me crazy but I give up! My bugging him about it, both nicely and hurtfully, doesn't work. He won't go for walks, do dvds with me, nothing! I can only do so much!!

I would say something, just once- like "I am so ridiculously proud of you for making an effort to take this under control. I really don't think they way you are doing it best serves your body, and if you are interested in looking into it I can show you (article or summary about the site or starvation mode or something). But if this is the way you want to do it, I will support you and am here for you whether or not you change your mind."

My bf goes on "the soup diet" as he calls it- which mostly is just having a light soup for dinner instead of anything else and while I don't think it's super healthy, it works for him.

Don't lie and say you are enthused, but don't nag either. Be there for him and let him know it.

Hi! I had this issue w/my husband too. He wasn't very heavy but as I was on a path to "moderation" and learning to be healthy, it definitely had me stewing when I would sit there not eating sweets, and he would not eat breakfast, eat huge lunches at work, then huge dinners w/big snacks at 10 at night.

He wouldn't really listen to me when I would hint at some of the things I learned here until maybe a year and a half later. He was on a work trip and read an article on the obesity epidemic in the US, and saw a chart showing where people stand on the scale based on height and weight. I don't know where he stood, but he came home very open to change....finally! So once he was open to it, and only then, did he listen to me. I opened an MFP account for him and at first logged everything in for him. Then when he found out how easy the iPhone app was, he took charge and used it, and I would plug in any recipes for dinner to make it easy for him. He started eating breakfast. Started exercising. And learned really quickly what he needed to do to earn enough calories to have that big snack at night that he loves. So, he lost 15 or so pounds and is now attempting to maintain but not logging anymore.

I guess my experience is he has to be open to listen, and it sounds like your husband might be, by trying to cut back at least? I would stress the importance of eating enough and spread throughout the day. Maybe instead of you nagging, you can leave some articles about it out somewhere so he can read something from the experts, not necessarily from you? And just try to be super accommodating while he learns.

It's definitely tough...I feel your pain. I hope it works out for both of you!

Nagging him won't work. But I would at least ask why he thinks 1 meal a day is the way to lose weight, and go from there.

But you can't force anyone onto a program. They have to own it in order to be successful.

"Honey, I was just reading some posts on MFP and it looks like you can actually eat more than just one meal! All these people who have lost a lot of weight say that they did it just by paying attention to portion sizes, but still ate meals and snacks. But whatever works, I'm just so glad that we can get healthier together." (Then consider making some sexy time to encourage an association between health and sex. You know, for added motivation for him.)