So I have this friend...

BeautyFromPain
BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
edited September 30 in Chit-Chat
She is my best friend and she means the world to me. I love her heaps and we always used to tell each other that but now if I tell her I love her (just as a friend/sister) she will make some comment like "love is for the weak." But still when she talks to other friends she tells them she loves them all the time. It feels like something has changed but I don't know what?!

We are together a lot of the time, nearly every day but it feels like a lot of the time she will only call me when she needs a lift somewhere.

Also, she thinks that she is always right...... if I have a different point of view to her and tell her my point of view she will be all like no that's wrong and laugh at me. :/

What do you guys think, cause this all actually hurts a bit but seems like she doesn't even give a ****??

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  • fionarama
    fionarama Posts: 788 Member
    Sounds like you need to give each other a bit of space. Also losing a lot of weight (I am looking at your stats, impressive!) maybe there's a bit of jealously or something involved. Maybe 96.7 kg Ellie Bellie she felt a bit superior to or something but 88.9Kg Ellie Bellie makes her a bit nervous or something.

    Just give her space and don't see her for a while. If she's a true friend when she's ready she'll show up again.
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    You think so, I don't know? She's only been inbetween 46-50 kilos for all the 5 years I have known her :/
  • Lovinmyself1st
    Lovinmyself1st Posts: 19
    Yes I agree that it could be your weight loss causing jealousy. I have had friends that was all smaller then me but when I lost weight and got near their weight things change and our friendship was never the same. It's sad but true in some cases. I hope that's not the case with your friend.
  • VolatileChocolate
    VolatileChocolate Posts: 116
    I agree, there are some peopl who have a vain streak and think that by hanging out with friends who are bigger, makes them look better/slimmer!!! I've been there and seen it.

    You also need to assess what your friendship is like - is it a lot one sided - she wanting you to do what she wants but not keen to do things you want to do?

    I was in a friendship with someone where it was always about them etc needless to say after a couple of years I'd had enough, she has now moved on to do same with someone else.

    x
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    And it doesn't really seem like she has noticed, or if she has she has not said anything...
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    Oh yeah plus every time she has a problem I will come running to help her but last time I wanted to go to her for help she flat out told me that she doesn't want to hear it and to go talk to a help line. What do you think that says? :S
  • Charlie003
    Charlie003 Posts: 1,333 Member
    i HAD A SIMILAR SITUATION. I actually stopped talking to my best friend of 15 years for 1.5 years. We needed time apart to grow. We did and have been best friends for the last 15 years as well.
  • PoisonBloodBerries
    PoisonBloodBerries Posts: 20 Member
    I honestly believe that the only way to figure out the truth would be to ask rather than making assumptions. You could be way off, perhaps she is struggling with something she is afraid to talk to you about. Or she could very well be jealous. Perhaps the relationship has just died down? Either way the only thing you can do is talk to her about it. Explain how your feeling, tell her you are concerned that you have upset her. Carefully watch her reaction and I"m sure you will be able to see if she is lying or if she is worth keeping around. Remember that you are an amazing person who does not deserve to be used! If she is not holding her end up then it is time to move on.
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    I have tried talking to her about it, but everytime I do she changes the subject :/
  • BeautyFromPain
    BeautyFromPain Posts: 4,952 Member
    so I talked to someone she was friends with in primary school, apparently she was the exact same then.

    that everything is always her way and nothing she does is ever wrong :/
  • PoisonBloodBerries
    PoisonBloodBerries Posts: 20 Member
    Since you have already spoken to her and she is clearly avoiding the problem I suggest taking a break, tell her the reason in full detail about why you want some time apart and if she doesn't come around then it is her loss, it is more of a struggle keeping someone around who is offering you nothing, than to let them go.
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