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gracerichter3213
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I've gained back the 7lbs I've lost. I'm back to the start. I'm so mad at myself. Why do I do this??? Why do I cheat and eat bad knowing that it effects my body? I'm so upset and depressed. I just want to cry.
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It's a question a lot of us has asked! Do you think you're depriving yourself too much? Or do you find yourself eating more when stressed, or any other emotional state? Do you lose and figure you can just eat just a tad more thinking you'll catch yourself before you gain weight? Do you stop logging or weighing food (assuming you do). Those are some reasons why i gain what I lost.
How long did it take you to lose those 7?
Either way, you can regroup and start over!8 -
CeeBeeSlim wrote: »It's a question a lot of us has asked! Do you think you're depriving yourself too much? Or do you find yourself eating more when stressed, or any other emotional state? Do you lose and figure you can just eat just a tad more thinking you'll catch yourself before you gain weight? Do you stop logging or weighing food (assuming you do). Those are some reasons why i gain what I lost.
How long did it take you to lose those 7?
Either way, you can regroup and start over!
Yes to every question!
It took me a little over a month to lose the 7lbs and I have 25 total to lose.0 -
Can you take a hold right now and concentrate on stopping the gain? 7 isn't 17! Remove all crap from your house - if any is there. I was in the same boat - and started back on track last week. I was sick of the yo-yo- and hoping I will stick with it. Motivation is nice and all but what I was missing is discipline. I feel better already. Moving more, eating more veggies, small moves.1
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How long did it take you to regain the 7 lbs? Of you regained it over less than a month I have some good news: some of it is probably water.
In any case, you need to look at what is driving you to overeat. Until you address that you will be locked into the same cycle of loss and regain.
For example, I overate last night but I know it was stress driving it: husband was sick, work is quite stressful, and I'm running my first race on Sunday. Recognizing why I was cramming food in my face meant that I stopped pretty close to my maintenance calories for the day. But I had to take the time to stop and think: Why am I eating all the things? Good luck. You got this!6 -
gracerichter3213 wrote: »I've gained back the 7lbs I've lost. I'm back to the start. I'm so mad at myself. Why do I do this??? Why do I cheat and eat bad knowing that it effects my body? I'm so upset and depressed. I just want to cry.
Take a breath. This is a lifestyle, and there is no failing. Each time this happens, you can learn from it. What triggered you to go back to old habits? Was it a particular food? Were you hungry all the time? Only you can figure out why it is happening. You're not doing it to yourself, and there is no need to blame yourself for it. You just ate food, that's all. It's the way our brains are wired for survival.1 -
It's really hard to get it on your first try, don't beat yourself up! Believe in yourself, get back on it. Is there a part of you that thinks there is no point because you'll just get back to it anyway?1
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I have done the same to myself many times, OP. I can commiserate with the feeling of having let myself down after so much hard work. I'm still working through it myself, but I hope you can find a way to start again - because you're worth it!
I've been doing better with a high fat low carb diet, seems to be helping with my tendency to stress eat. Not sure if that'll help, but it's worth experimenting to see what works for you
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gracerichter3213 wrote: »CeeBeeSlim wrote: »It's a question a lot of us has asked! Do you think you're depriving yourself too much? Or do you find yourself eating more when stressed, or any other emotional state? Do you lose and figure you can just eat just a tad more thinking you'll catch yourself before you gain weight? Do you stop logging or weighing food (assuming you do). Those are some reasons why i gain what I lost.
How long did it take you to lose those 7?
Either way, you can regroup and start over!
Yes to every question!
It took me a little over a month to lose the 7lbs and I have 25 total to lose.
You were starving yourself.
If you only have 25 lbs to lose, you should only aim to lose 0.5 lbs a week.
No wonder you couldn't stick to it. That's the mistake most people make.
The successful people lose weight slowly and sustainability. A small calorie deficit will help you last the distance.13 -
Simple. You're not ready yet.
Only when you decide to commit to your new habits consistently will you be ready.1 -
It happens me all the time trust me but just think of it this way if u lost those pounds once you can do it again1
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It happens me all the time trust me but just think of it this way if u lost those pounds once you can do it again
You're describing yo-yo dieting. Not a good goal.
Read the Helpful Posts stickies and learn how to stick to your calorie limit whatever your goals.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10300319/most-helpful-posts-general-diet-and-weight-loss-help-must-reads0 -
The simple answer is that you cheat yourself because you want to. The simple solution is that you decide you don't want to cheat yourself. That' hard. I wish you well.1
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Losing weight is technically the easy part .... its a mechanical process of CICO ..... its the mental battle of changing potentially a lifetime of habbits / pain / upset or whatever else drove you to break your routine ...
This is the problem with the weight loss industry - we're not taught how to deal with that side of it ... just given 'systems' .... You have to sit down and understand in your own mind what's doing this .... it's not quick nor easy but for me its seen a real change in both my approach to losing and how i go about it ...
I came so close this weekend to pigging out on something i thought i wanted .... but i managed to catch myself in that moment and in essence talk to myself and talk me down off that binge ledge .... Think about yourself a lot more0 -
It happens me all the time trust me but just think of it this way if u lost those pounds once you can do it again
You're describing yo-yo dieting. Not a good goal.
Read the Helpful Posts stickies and learn how to stick to your calorie limit whatever your goals.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10300319/most-helpful-posts-general-diet-and-weight-loss-help-must-reads
Yes I know but im not letting it happen again 3rd time lucky0 -
It happens me all the time trust me but just think of it this way if u lost those pounds once you can do it again
You're describing yo-yo dieting. Not a good goal.
Read the Helpful Posts stickies and learn how to stick to your calorie limit whatever your goals.
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10300319/most-helpful-posts-general-diet-and-weight-loss-help-must-reads
Yes I know but im not letting it happen again 3rd time lucky
I think the point is that the OP probably lost that weight as quickly as she did because she was following an overly restrictive diet that was unsustainable. Yo-yo dieting is really hard on your body and often leads your high weight number to creep up over time. I've seen some studies that it's better just to be fat than to keep losing the same lbs over and over again.
To the OP, I'd recommend setting your weight-loss goal to 0.5 a week and seeing how that goes. It's easier to stick to small changes than big ones, and without much to lose, you need to come to peace with the idea that either you take it slow and stick to your changed habits, or set yourself up to regain again and again.1 -
The problem may be you view "fun" food as "cheating". It's been said many times on here that food is nutritionally dense or not and calorie dense or not. If you regained, it's likely because you abstained from "fun" foods and then gorged on them due to it.gracerichter3213 wrote: »I've gained back the 7lbs I've lost. I'm back to the start. I'm so mad at myself. Why do I do this??? Why do I cheat and eat bad knowing that it effects my body? I'm so upset and depressed. I just want to cry.
The way I believe people should eat is to enjoy everything you like, but make sure you accounting for calories. If you do, then you should be able to maintain once you get to goal weight.
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This DOESN'T address how to manage the "crap" if you want to eat it. As has been mentioned before, there are really no "crap" foods. If one intends to indulge, then they just need to be aware of how many calories they are consuming. If they can't learn how to control it, they likely never will and will end up having to AVOID foods they like for life.CeeBeeSlim wrote: »Can you take a hold right now and concentrate on stopping the gain? 7 isn't 17! Remove all crap from your house - if any is there. I was in the same boat - and started back on track last week. I was sick of the yo-yo- and hoping I will stick with it. Motivation is nice and all but what I was missing is discipline. I feel better already. Moving more, eating more veggies, small moves.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
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