When will my head catch up??

Izzy62
Izzy62 Posts: 62 Member
edited September 30 in Health and Weight Loss
I have lost 95 lb on my weight loss journey since April 2010. I KNOW I have lost weight, I wear smaller clothes and get lots and lots of lovely comments from people.
I also know I still have a way to go before I get to a healthy weight and am aiming to lose another 28 lbs.

Why is it that when I look in the mirror I still see a fat blob? I really see very little difference from when I started out, although logically I know there must be a difference.

I worry I will never be happy with how I look because I can't see I look better.

When will my head catch up with me??

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  • bklyngirl71
    bklyngirl71 Posts: 381 Member
    congrats on your loss!! u should be very proud of yourself. you'll get used to your new look. just look how far you've come
  • erinoldham19
    erinoldham19 Posts: 74
    you should def be happy with your loss but i can completly see where your coming from.. i lost 80lbs and i see a person much bigger in the mirror.. its a horrible thing but i'm right there with you.. i wonder the same thing..
  • erinoldham19
    erinoldham19 Posts: 74
    btw you look great to me
  • JCubbins
    JCubbins Posts: 92
    If I were you, I'd take a pic of myself right now, then look for old photos and compare them to the recent one.
    That worked for me :)
  • SandraMtaylor
    SandraMtaylor Posts: 101
    You look wonderful!!! but i know what you mean. I too have lost weight but when i look in the mirror, i still see the old person. We have to start to think of ourselves as beautiful!!! Keep up the good work... one day you will wake up and realize how far you have come. GOOD LUCK!!!!
  • Irene8509
    Irene8509 Posts: 381 Member
    Izzy, I understand this completely. I was just talking about this with my husband yesterday...how I know I've lost 30 lbs and see a difference but when I look in the mirror I still see how far I have to go. I can't believe I let myself get to this point and I am worried if I don't pay attention I will go back someday.
  • Izzy62
    Izzy62 Posts: 62 Member
    "A man is but the product of his thoughts. What he thinks, he becomes". ~ Mahatma Gandhi

    Wow your quote there sums it all up really!

    Thank you all for replying, I need to start rearranging my thoughts. Good luck to you all and thanks :))))
  • clioandboy
    clioandboy Posts: 963 Member
    I dunno, I haven't lost anywhere near as much as you but I experience the same thing, I know my clothes are sizes smaller, I know I look different better even... But I don't feel it and I see the spare flesh more than I ever did (maybe I look at me more), the wobble more, I have even said from time to time that I looked better before coz I was firmer, my partner just laughs n says I am being ridiculous, but I am not joking when I say these things.... I really want to see me as others do coz then maybe I will invest in keeping this way or maybe even reach goal instead of procrastinating around 10-20off maybe I do this coz I cannot value where I am at yet????? Hmm getting a bit deep best go am having a bit of a negative day.... Ignore all of the above 
  • Izzy62
    Izzy62 Posts: 62 Member
    Oh Clio - you soumd just like me!
    I was told I was being ridiculous too, that really doesn't help much does it.

    I am sure that there must be some proper psychological name for this, I'm sort of releived it isn't just me that feels this way. I'm not being negative here, it doesn't stop me wanting to finish this journey, it just frustrates me that I can't appreciate it as much as I want to.

    I want to be able to wake up and look in the mirror and think Wow Izzy - you really did it!

    I'm going to start saying that to myself every day now, even if I can't quite see it yet, and one day I hope, I'll think it before I say it (if that makes any sense at all lol!)

    Thanks all of you xx
  • whitejessamine
    whitejessamine Posts: 166
    Don't know if this will be useful or helpful information, but studies have shown that people with poor body esteem often do not see themselves accurately when they look in the mirror--their minds stack on all the flaws they are afraid might be there. It is especially common in people with eating disorders, but it is not at all uncommon for others, either. I experienced it myself, and a photograph was what set me straight. This was when I was sixteen and wore a size 1. I still thought I was fat. Then, a couple of years and a pregnancy later, I saw a pic of a bunch of my friends in a group, but couldn't figure out who the stick with them was, but it sure looked gross...then I saw she had my face, and I suddenly realized I had been thin and never knew it. Now I know I cannot trust what I see in the mirror, and that helps me not believe in it. Of course, now I'm 100 lbs overweight, instead of 20 lbs underweight, but it's still about the body image. If you can learn to believe in your body, you should be able to start seeing it as it is. Good luck!
  • clioandboy
    clioandboy Posts: 963 Member
    I want to be able to wake up and look in the mirror and think Wow Izzy - you really did it!

    I'm going to start saying that to myself every day now, even if I can't quite see it yet, and one day I hope, I'll think it before I say it (if that makes any sense at all lol

    Sounds like a plan, I think I'll follow suit, er starting tomorrow tho lol! No point starting on a crappy day (they aren't all like this thankfully) tomorrow I'll examine myself with a positive slant ahem....
  • dad106
    dad106 Posts: 4,868 Member
    It's called Body Dysmorphia.. You could be really thin, but when you look in the mirror, you see a really heavy person.

    I also have the same thing at a 23 pound loss. I look in the mirror and still think that I am that bigger girl..and that this is all just a fluke and I will gain this weight back.
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