Opinions please..

Sounds like low self esteem. Or they feel they've been criticized for everything no matter what they do.

Many people cannot except themselves for who they are or have been because they tend to view themselves through others eyes rather than their own. So the comment "Was I that disgusting before" makes sense when put in that perspective. It's sad because true change begins when accepting what is and embracing what can be!!

It can be tough to believe that people actually like something about you when you don't much like yourself. It may not be a desire to be miserable but instead a total lack of confidence in yourself and zero self love.

I would joke around with my man and do the same thing but I never meant it. He compliments me so often I'm used to it lol. But i know what your talking about, my roommate is the same way. She'll cry if she cant find the remote. It's ridiculous. Honestly I would stop complimenting the person then. I mean it's a loose loose situation ESPECIALLY if they are serious and get emo about it. Sry you have to deal with someone like that, hope it gets better for you

Koosdel...have you been talking to my ex?

It can be tough to believe that people actually like something about you when you don't much like yourself. It may not be a desire to be miserable but instead a total lack of confidence in yourself and zero self love.

For the record...I agree with this...but, also...that misery is a comfort zone. When you feel happiness, you always risk losing it. When you're always depressed, you never feel the pain of loss on top of it. This is why I've never been able to hate my ex for her actions. Imagine the torture she and others like her endure...trapped in that world of their own creation.

No thanks.

When "You look amazing!" results in "Was I that disgusting to you before?"

Answer #1
Yes, you were that disgusting before. You were even more disgusting to yourself and you know it. That's why you went to all this effort to lose weight and earn the "You look amazing!" comment. But you weren't just told you WERE disgusting, you were told you look amazing. Why are you still holding on to feelings that were attached to fat that isn't there anymore? And worse yet, why are you making other people suffer over your irrational feelings? You and you alone are responsible for coping with your feelings.

Sometimes I think that being too cautious with someones feelings is dangerous as apparently it weakens their spirit.

That's a nice fluffy way of putting it. Life isn't all sunshine and lollipops. People have become such p*ssies that they can't even handle honest words anymore. What the hell people? Save your crying for when someone is throwing stick and stones and dirty toilet brushes at you. Add backbone to your list of strength training activities. Or you can just keep doing what you've been doing and be a hot shell around a weak character.

And by the way ladies, why do you think you need to talk to your man about everything he does that doesn't make you happy? When you do this, all your doing is adding to his mental list of things he shouldn't mention anymore because he doesn't want to have yet another one of these conversations with you. You aren't making him open up. You're shutting him down even more. Accept realities. He notices attractive women. That doesn't make him disrespectful and it's not all about you. If you want to be adored you have to be adorable. Shut the ef up and go put on something skimpy.

Answer #2
BECAUSE RALLY CAR

As long as I'm respectful when I speak to people, I don't worry about how my words were received. Their issues are their issues, not mine.

It can be tough to believe that people actually like something about you when you don't much like yourself. It may not be a desire to be miserable but instead a total lack of confidence in yourself and zero self love.
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This is exactly it....especially when you are constantly put down that you start to believe it!

I'm coming out of the other side if this.... The mire good comments you hear the better you feel the more able you are to cope with things..... Confidence and self love/self esteem are very important! And so are friends who speak the truth - albeit in a tactful way!