Procrastionation and excuses

Try not hating yourself for wanting to sit on the couch after work. First, hatered seems a pretty strong reaction for such an innocent thing. Second, the couch is a reasonable reaction to done with work.

But part of you thinks it's not the best choice for you in the long run. Both reasonable positions. This is inner conflict. If you don't work it out, as you know, you end up paralyzed and unhappy.

Curious. What do you do at the gym? Some people avoid the gym because they talk themselves into some double hard butt busting workout that is unsuitable for a beginner. Again a problem brought on by going to extremes.

Can you walk at the gym? Can you walk 1/2 of the time you want to be there and workout 1/2 of the time?

BTW, I agree the couch is a dangerous place.
How about finding some basic at home workouts on YouTube? First rule of exercise- something is better than nothing.

Just work on building a habit. No couch until after workout. Workout does not have to be at the gym. This worked for me. I eventually got bored with my home workouts and went to the gym.

It sounds like you need/want to relax after work.

Can you get up early and go to the gym in the morning?

What about going to the gym after work for only 30 minutes? If you feel like doing more, fine. If not, then you made your commitment for the day.

You might try writing gym time on your calendar.

Another idea that works for me is to pack a gym bag with workout clothes and shoes and water. Sometimes I pack something to listen to (Spanish lessons for me). The gym bag all ready to go makes me feel more committed.

This was me earlier this year, Warcraft and everything! I started by changing my diet only, and lost 25 pounds that way, still playing WoW. At 25 pounds down (halfway to my goal) I was so excited by my results that I wanted to keep it going and see what else I could do, so I started a couch to 5k program. Now I'm 35 pounds down and rarely have time for Warcraft! I'm trying new kinds of exercise and questing IRL.
What is your goal? Focus on the things you CAN do to move toward that goal.
I do miss WoW - I'll be doing something totally different and start thinking about Zangarmarsh for no reason - but WoW will be there when I've maxed out my rep with MFP.
Also, check out NerdFitness.com if you haven't already.

I have to say I've fallen into the same pattern. Two years ago I was in a great workout schedule then suffered a frozen shoulder. Once that shoulder healed I thought great, back to work. Now the other shoulder has frozen. In the meantime, I've gained 10 pounds. Sometimes those things can knock the wind out of your sails. I believe if I keep focusing on my goal my want to will return. While I'm in Physical Therapy for my shoulder I come home and hit the couch too. Very disappointed in myself but know it's a passing thing. Just work on your diet. Once you begin losing it will motivate you to start moving. Keep your chin up and believe in yourself.

If it's up to me, I'll never go to the gym. I'm not motivated enough on my own. What I did was sign up for a Crossfit gym, which included 6 introductionary personal trainer sessions. After shelling out $250, I went, because I didn't want to waste the money. After those sessions finished it became easier to keep going. But even now, if you told me to go to a regular gym and do my own thing, I probably wouldn't. I like being guided and told what to do on what day. This way I get cardio and strength workouts tailored to me and I don't hurt myself.
Maybe find something active you might enjoy? Sign up for a month of Zumba classes, or Yoga classes, or something like Tennis lessons? That way at least you'll have motivation to do it for just that amount of time. If you don't like it, you can always try something else.

coming from someone who use to be you... You don't want it, its not a priority to you... I am not saying this to be snarky or mean. I say this out of a lifetime of experience... I am a lifer to the world of all things "diet"... gain, lose, gain again, lose some gain even more, never sticking to it... I feel ya, I made every excuse in the world on why I "can't" and well I didn't! And the sad reality was it just wasn't important to me, yes I hated being over weight, I hated that I was in pain all the time and out of breath, I loved my couch and my couch loved me. I loved the idea of being thinner and healthy but the comfort in the food and the comfort of my big comfy couch after a long day of work, kids, cleaning, cooking etc. Did I mention, I LOVED MY COUCH!!! healthy lifestyles are a lot of work and I just wasn't willing to commit to that kind of WORK. Until last November, something in me clicked and I was like no more, enough with the excuses you have to take control of this before you end up in an early grave... It was the hardest thing I ever did, I pushed myself through all the excuses and believe me there were many. I started off with getting my mind right with food. I had such an unhealthy relationship with food, it was sad. I did that for a few months until I was use to eating a certain way. Then I started walking during my lunch break, nothing fast just a simple walk. I committed to that every day M-F rain, sleet, snow I was out there walking. After a while I add a Zumba class on Monday nights, that turned into a second Zumba class as it wasn't really exercise, it was dancing and having a good time right?!? As I started to lose weight and feeling really good about this getting fit, I added a Pound class into my week. Healthy eating just became a way of life, and the exercise was just part of the routine. I have just recently started jogging, that's a first in my 48 years of life, and I have added in some strength training into my routine as well as a morning walk in addition to my lunch walk. Don't get me wrong, i still have days that I just don't feel like going to Zumba or doing any other of my workouts but I push myself through and always feel amazing after I finish. On days that I don't feel like it I know I need to be strict with my calories or eat a maintenance for that day. Find something you enjoy doing and go with it... As the saying goes, if its important you will find a way, if not you will find an excuse.

Good luck! Stick to it, your future self will thank you!!!

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coming from someone who use to be you... You don't want it, its not a priority to you... I am not saying this to be snarky or mean. I say this out of a lifetime of experience... I am a lifer to the world of all things "diet"... gain, lose, gain again, lose some gain even more, never sticking to it... I feel ya, I made every excuse in the world on why I "can't" and well I didn't! And the sad reality was it just wasn't important to me, yes I hated being over weight, I hated that I was in pain all the time and out of breath, I loved my couch and my couch loved me. I loved the idea of being thinner and healthy but the comfort in the food and the comfort of my big comfy couch after a long day of work, kids, cleaning, cooking etc. Did I mention, I LOVED MY COUCH!!! healthy lifestyles are a lot of work and I just wasn't willing to commit to that kind of WORK. Until last November, something in me clicked and I was like no more, enough with the excuses you have to take control of this before you end up in an early grave... It was the hardest thing I ever did, I pushed myself through all the excuses and believe me there were many. I started off with getting my mind right with food. I had such an unhealthy relationship with food, it was sad. I did that for a few months until I was use to eating a certain way. Then I started walking during my lunch break, nothing fast just a simple walk. I committed to that every day M-F rain, sleet, snow I was out there walking. After a while I add a Zumba class on Monday nights, that turned into a second Zumba class as it wasn't really exercise, it was dancing and having a good time right?!? As I started to lose weight and feeling really good about this getting fit, I added a Pound class into my week. Healthy eating just became a way of life, and the exercise was just part of the routine. I have just recently started jogging, that's a first in my 48 years of life, and I have added in some strength training into my routine as well as a morning walk in addition to my lunch walk. Don't get me wrong, i still have days that I just don't feel like going to Zumba or doing any other of my workouts but I push myself through and always feel amazing after I finish. On days that I don't feel like it I know I need to be strict with my calories or eat a maintenance for that day. Find something you enjoy doing and go with it... As the saying goes, if its important you will find a way, if not you will find an excuse.

Good luck! Stick to it, your future self will thank you!!!

I really love your post. Thanks for the realness and the inspiration.

Resistance is there everytime we try anything. You have to push against it.

I read this book about procrastination...and learned that us serial procrastinators all have underlying reasons for doing so. It isn't simply laziness or lack of discipline. It is usually related to fear and anxiety. Fear of failure and fear of success are two big ones, but there are all kinds of possibilities. Procrastination is a way of sabotaging yourself--again, explore and dig deeper concerning why you want to sabotage yourself. I still struggle with this issue--so I mean no judgement. It has helped me to figure out why and then to start working on the deeper issues.