friend and suitcase dilema

rubixcyoob
rubixcyoob Posts: 395
edited September 2024 in Chit-Chat
So, a week on Saturday I'm going to Tenerife with 3 other friends - two girls and a guy (a couple and another friend).

The couple are sharing a room, obviously, and me and my friend E are sharing a room.

However E didn't want to check a baggage in and so she only has 10kg handluggage allowance, whereas I paid for a case so have 15kg checked in and 10kg handluggage.
I said to E that she could pop a few things in my case if needed but now she somehow has it in her head that she has full use and equal share of my case - which was not the agreement.

It has now fallen to me to have ALL the toiliteries because she can't take more than 100ml due to safety reasons on planes now.

So my case that was only around 9kg with almost all my stuff has went up to just over 15kg because I need to take all the toiliteries for two people instead of it being shared.

E now wants to put heels in my case so they don't take room in her case and said I could just take a mini case handluggage. Yet way back at the start I said I wanted to avoid that and just have my normal bag/beach bag.

So now I'm stuck, I can't take her stuff but I've got no way of nicely saying "I can't take your stuff because I don't have enough room or weight since you didn't want to pay". I mean I managed to fork out £50 for my case to use it all - yet she just expects it for nothing!

Anyone have any advice/tips etc?

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  • angiemartin78
    angiemartin78 Posts: 475 Member
    If E is really your friend, then the two of you could talk about this like adults. If E gets mad at you because you can't have all of her crap in your case, then she's immature and selfish, and I don't know about you but I don't need so called friends like that.

    Good luck!
  • SimplyDeLish
    SimplyDeLish Posts: 539
    tell her the truth....that there's no more room in your suitcase!
  • plagirl227
    plagirl227 Posts: 134
    Just be straight. You don't have to nice about it (Being truthful is not being mean). Tell her you don't have the room for all her stuff. She'll need to scale back or check a bag...

    Period.
  • cjsgrimlin
    cjsgrimlin Posts: 246
    only thing i can say about that is to talk to her, see if she can either pay a little to you or remove some stuff. Suggest sharing since you'll be in the same room.
  • Jessabelle12
    Jessabelle12 Posts: 145
    Just say sorry, I havent got enough room. Or if she wants to try and sort it out to give you half the money?
  • flea2449
    flea2449 Posts: 499 Member
    Just tell her straight out what you just wrote on your post:

    "I can't take your stuff because I don't have enough room or weight since you didn't want to pay"

    She's your friend, she should understand. Or, just pack your stuff and if there is room left put what you can of hers and tell her that that is all that will fit.
  • fitmommy2012
    fitmommy2012 Posts: 451 Member
    Yeah I agree, just let her know that this isnt what you agreed on and that even though you sympathize with her, you just cannot have all of her stuff in your suitcase and if she wants to take all this stuff then she needs to pay a little extra so that she can bring another bag for herself. It can be hard to stand up to people sometimes, but it is best to do it sooner than later, because it is clear that she is taking advantage of your generosity! :frown:
  • dez_yaoichan
    dez_yaoichan Posts: 454
    if you don't want her to know it's her fault: tell her that you've each got to pick maybe 3-4 things to leave behind because you've gone over the limit and tell her you've already picked out your 4 and just need her to pick hers.

    if you don't have a problem letting her know it's her fault: take out all her stuff, put in everythin you want/need and then tell her what ever she can fit in without going over the limit, she can take.
  • chelekaz
    chelekaz Posts: 847 Member
    Honesty is the best policy. Tell E politely and honestly that there is not enough room to be able to get everything that you need and paid extra to be able to take. Advise E that they either need to downsize what they are taking OR purchase the baggage allowance. Tell her you want to help her out but simply cannot take all of her items.

    If she is a real friend she will understand.
  • thedreamhazer
    thedreamhazer Posts: 1,156 Member
    So now I'm stuck, I can't take her stuff but I've got no way of nicely saying "I can't take your stuff because I don't have enough room or weight since you didn't want to pay".

    I personally think that that is a nice enough way to say it. She's taking advantage of your kindness, you should definitely call her out on it. Tell her you don't have room for all her stuff, you need to be take your own.
  • daniface
    daniface Posts: 338 Member
    tell her to pay half of your luggage fee or to stop being such a cheapskate and just pay to check her own bag SHEESH
  • kim_mc
    kim_mc Posts: 321 Member
    Just tell her......Maybe she doesn't know that you're over weight limit on the luggage. It's still your bag and if she needs more room than whatever you had leftover for her, she'll need to pay up. You'll just have to tell her that she can have whatever room's left, but you still need room for YOUR OWN STUFF!
  • rubixcyoob
    rubixcyoob Posts: 395
    We are already sharing sun cream, after sun, shampoo, conditioner and I'm going to assume she needs my hairspray etc since you can't get them under 100ml. This wouldn't be an issue if the weight was being distributed evenly but its not. I have enough stuff for 2 people, instead of minis for one, which is double the weight I need. I'd be fine otherwise!

    I have said my case is bang on 15kg already and I've scaled a few of my personal items back and she just says "it will fit don't worry". I feel like just going "I'm not worrying all MY stuff fits in my case" - not to sound like a tight *kitten* but £50 is a lot of money and I expect to get my money's worth without people wanting me to basically pay for them too.

    The most annoying part is she makes more money than me but couldn't afford it even though £50 is like 3 days babysitting for her (she also has another job) but just spends her money on nights out!
  • JessicaMarie9382
    JessicaMarie9382 Posts: 197
    I would simply tell her that you paid the money to have more room and while you are willing to let her put A COUPLE of things in your suitcase, you need to be able to fit your stuff in there as well. I don't wanna sound mean, but that' rude of your friend to just take over your stuff and tell you how things are going to go after you forked out all the money!
  • pumpkinmoccasin
    pumpkinmoccasin Posts: 316
    I'd suggest that she maybe bring minimal toiletries/put her liquids in airline sized containers anyway, even if they're going in your bag (though, if they are and they're small enough to carry on the plane she should really just put it in her own bag). Maybe an ultimatum: it's the toiletries or the heels. Just have a conversation with her about it and if she reacts childishly just put your foot down. I know you'll be sharing a room with her so try not to upset her but it's not your responsibility to shell out extra dough because she didn't want to.
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