I have no WHY to keep me going.
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fatty2sixpack
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I am depressed and don't care if I live or die. I have no WHY to look back at if I ever start thinking about quitting. I am morbidly obese almost at a very unhealthy 500 lbs. How am I supposed to push myself to keep going on trying to lose weight if I don't really care about losing weight or dying?
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you need to treat the depression first. speak to a friend or family member and see the doctor.19
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If you are depressed you need to seek professional help and work on your thought processes as well as lose weight. Otherwise you could just end up in a vicious cycle.
Being happy and healthy in life is as good a why as any.6 -
Please contact someone immediately to help you with your depression. I too, suffered and got the treatment I needed; you can overcome this.7
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Seek professional help. Sometimes we need to be made aware that we want help. You care, or else you wouldn't have posted here. I think you do. We on the forum can't do anything but point directions. Professionals can help you.
Eating better, taking care of your health, losing weight, building habits and setting boundaries, will most likely make you feel better. Knowing that you don't have to push as hard as you may be think you have to, but at the same time be aware that you can't just try, can make it easier.
Your diet is what you eat, you can't stop eating. You don't have to eat strange things, or very little, but you have to eat a lot less than you're used to, and do it forever. Change is hard, but not impossible. Forever seems like a long time, but it's just one day at a time.7 -
Agree, you need to find some mental health professionals to help treat your depression.
But this question occurred to me, what if you weighed 250lbs? Do you think you'd feel differently?
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Well you are here asking the question so you must care at least a little. As others have noted you need to treat your depression first. See a doctor.1
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Likely the main problem is depression and the side effect was weight gain. Treat the main problem and you will be more able to fix the side effects. Of course you have no motivation. That is not the problem to solve right now.
Muster up the energy you do have and talk to a mental health person and get your feelings back in a good range. Either you have a medical issue that made you depressed out of the blue or (more likely) bad crap happened and you never knew how to deal with it, so you ate because food = chemicals. The good news is, you can fix that, and then the rest of your issues will fall into line. This is a fixable problem. Just see a doctor.
Feel better soon and good luck with it. Going to therapy changed my whole life. I never would have known such a good life was possible and I never would have expected to find losing weight so (relatively) easy once the emotional stuff was resolved.4 -
I want to help you fight this battle and be there to support you.....friend request sent. Hang in there, you can do this!
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I know it sounds odd but if you work on becoming fit and losing weight you will feel better mentally and physically. It won't be easy and is better described as hard work but so worth it. If you can work on three things they would be calorie deficit, fitness and better nutrition from quality foods. See losing three hundred pounds as a goal and go at it.2
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I feel like this sometimes. I just don't have any support in life. I decided to take a break from losing weight because that is not going to fix my problems. I listed 2 things in my life I want to change and that is, to find more support and to switch jobs. Even though I am overweight I still know I am a good person. My inherent qualities don't change no matter what I weigh. When my mind is in the right place I can continue on my health goals. I suggest you look into some local groups. I went to church for the first time in 20 years last Sunday. I was greeted and talked to by several people. They have groups that meet up throughout the week. And so, I am going to try these out.15
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I have no idea what to say in these situations... so this is probably the wrong thing to say...
My husband suffers from chronic anxiety and depression and recently read a book called Inside Out written by a guy called Sven Hansen. Sven is apparently the founder of the resilience institute and it had a few tricks in it that sounded useful? At least my husband says so... though he did say there are large sections of the book that were pure science waffle that bear no resemblance to helpful advice lol. Even so, he said it's worth a skim through for the actually useful techniques and tips. Coming from him, that must mean it's half decent.0 -
Look into YouTube about subconscious reprogramming! There is often a lot of spiritual stuff tied into these techniques, but you can find ones that aren't all about that. The point is a lot of things in your mind were put there and you can get rid of them! Your bad thoughts and feelings, your bad habits, including over-eating and bad food choices. (I bet whoever raised you is overweight too, right?) This is just something I want to put out there in addition to the advice to seek help. That's obviously good advice, but I also feel like, if you had that opportunity, you might not be here asking a forum. I've been in your shoes. I hope you feel better. If you just want someone to talk to, you can talk to me. 1
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See a professional--you need support. As for losing the weight, alot of people have done it here on MFP. They are just normal people that started out with small changes and kept going. Do a search and you'll be amazed. Good luck and remember that you're worth saving.1
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Please seek professional help.
Life is a gift. Take this as an opportunity to start a bright new beginning. Good luck,1 -
Agree, you need to find some mental health professionals to help treat your depression.
But this question occurred to me, what if you weighed 250lbs? Do you think you'd feel differently?
If I weighed 250 pounds would be less depressed and more capable of pushing myself to eat right and move more. I would also be able to go out in the world and create a life for myself resulting in e becoming more happy.1 -
fatty2sixpack wrote: »Agree, you need to find some mental health professionals to help treat your depression.
But this question occurred to me, what if you weighed 250lbs? Do you think you'd feel differently?
If I weighed 250 pounds would be less depressed and more capable of pushing myself to eat right and move more. I would also be able to go out in the world and create a life for myself resulting in e becoming more happy.
You have more "care" than your allowing yourself to recognize. You envision a different you (at 250 lbs), and your moniker exudes hope as well. I too, have been through the "I don't care" phase (and it was a long one in which I gained 40 lbs). One of the things I did to pull myself out of it was to change my internal voice. I started out saying to myself "I DON'T care"! I decided to be hyper-aware of when I was saying that to myself. I then changed my inner voice to "I don't care" to saying the 'don't' more and more softly each time. Eventually the 'don't' became such a soft whisper that I found my inner voice saying "I CARE". It is a very liberating thing.
When you're done reading this, please go back and read all the responses in this thread. You just gave yourself the gift of your reason why. You called out, and we all responded. WE have now become your reason why. Like it or not, we're all now thinking about you and caring.
Professional help is a good idea. Allow yourself to be happy - no- insist on it! You ARE worth it! Now, stop letting the inner voice rule you and start ruling the inner voice.6 -
I hope you know that in the midst of depression your judgement is impaired. Initiatives that seem pointless aren't really. Two natural ways to boost mood is to follow a regular sleep pattern and to walk. Both also help regulate your weight.
Someone as articulate as you are has a lot to contribute to the world. Don't cut that off short.5 -
fatty2sixpack wrote: »I am depressed and don't care if I live or die. I have no WHY to look back at if I ever start thinking about quitting. I am morbidly obese almost at a very unhealthy 500 lbs. How am I supposed to push myself to keep going on trying to lose weight if I don't really care about losing weight or dying?
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First thing is first, this post is a request for help. It may have been subconscious but that is what it is.
I have been through depression and manage it daily myself, it's a big thing you've done already to admit it and either consciously or subconsciously ask for help.
I have been working with both depressed and overweight clients for some time.
Have you asked yourself what is making you feel depressed? Could it be your weight and thus opinion of yourself? Not many people share the low opinion you may hold of yourself right now.
I promise you, you can change both your physical situation and mental wellbeing through the process of exercise and changing your body shape. (Exercise and weight loss are 2 of the key changes people make when depressed that change the sufferer's sense of worth.)
If you want to chat privately, hit me up on email (dg-pt@outlook.com) or on MFP messenger.
I'd be happy to take the time to help work with you.
Remember the first steps can sometimes feel impossible and you won't want to continue, you may even feel demoralised, but once you make it past those and start to see results, the rest of the journey you will not only want to take, you'll enjoy the journey.2 -
Hey!
I believe that deep down you really do care, you know why? Because you took the action step to get on myfitness pal to start tracking your food. Sometimes when you first get started it can be so hard....I know what its like as I started off at over 400lbs, but you have to start somewhere.....I now im nearly 170lbs down with around another 100to go, so im living proof that you CAN do it and ALL things are possible. I sent you a private message with my friend request. Check it out! :-)fatty2sixpack wrote: »I am depressed and don't care if I live or die. I have no WHY to look back at if I ever start thinking about quitting. I am morbidly obese almost at a very unhealthy 500 lbs. How am I supposed to push myself to keep going on trying to lose weight if I don't really care about losing weight or dying?
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Read this thread: http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10601644/new-drivers-lic-photo-just-shocked-me-270-pounds-lost-so-far#latest
Be inspired and maybe ask the guy from this thread some questions... I saw that thread and immediately thought of you. It is possible! Good luck on your journey, do see a therapist though.0
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