I regretfully went to the freezer boo hooing, now I'm even m

nurseaim
nurseaim Posts: 146
edited September 30 in Motivation and Support
My boyfriend says that after 3 years that he's still not ready for marriage. I went to the freezer boo hooing, and did something that I'm not proud of in the least. On Friday, I ate a whole container of Ben and Jerry's "Coffee Heathbar" Ice cream. Now I'm even more depressed. I'm not wanted and I'm gonna be rolly polly again if I don't stop. I should've gone for a run, but instead I sat on the couch and ate and cried.

In his defense, I met him after his wife left him. They divorced and then we started dating. Now 3 years later we're still dating (committed to one another), but not any closer to marriage. And my kid sister is about to be proposed to. I'm happy for her, but I feel like folks must be looking down on me...I know I am looking down on me.

Anyway, enough with the pity party. I just needed to get it out, hoping this will stop the eating and crying. Thanks for allowing me to cry on y'all shoulders.

I'm looking forward to sunny days in my world.:flowerforyou: I need prayers that my luck will change for the better...or something. Thanks again MFP friends/family.

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  • JeanWalker109
    JeanWalker109 Posts: 220
    You absolutely must consider what is best for you, at this point in your life. It will be hard to consider moving past some things; however, your health is at stake. Please do not look to others to define your worth, look to God for that. What others think does not matter. If, in fact, you are happy being with your boyfriend as you are - then be that. If it's you that wants to be married, that's one thing. If you want to be married b/c you think everyone else thinks you should be married - let that go. Figure out what it is that will make you happy, not what will make everyone else happy - and go with that.

    Your health and happiness are the most important.

    I pray that you find peace & resolution over this situation.

    *hugs*

    Jean
  • healthysew
    healthysew Posts: 105 Member
    awe that stinks. Well you guys need to do things on your timetable, not anyone elses. Way easier said then done Im sure. and at least your recogniznig the B&j's incident, now you can move on :)
  • italiansweetheart
    italiansweetheart Posts: 24 Member
    Marriage isn't all its cracked up to be, be thankful you have a good man who loves you and is committed to you. And its ok to have a weak moment and eat all the ice cream, we've all done it!! Get your head straight and start fresh!! You can do it!!:smooched:
  • JediMaster_intraining
    JediMaster_intraining Posts: 903 Member
    You do what's best for YOU and your health. You can create your own happiness by staying confident and loving yourself. Men are jerks and even the best of them can somehow find their inner jerk at the worst of times! Just forget about the ice cream and make everyday count! :smile: You can do it girl!


    Best wishes! Good luck on your journey and wherever it takes you!
  • LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo
    LaMujerMasBonitaDelMundo Posts: 3,634 Member
    Don't feel bad about it, maybe its not yet your time to get married. Also keep in mind that your boyfriend had been in a broken marriage and which is why he's just being careful when making commitments but don't lose hope and take it easy, enjoy your moment together. More importantly its not good to destroy your health and all the hardwork that you did in losing the weight by bingeing. Well its good that you're now making up with it and start living healthy. I know you can do it. Good luck on your journey!!!
  • Gemini_at_36
    Gemini_at_36 Posts: 207
    Tomorrow is a new day, cry as much as you need today. Tomorrow go for a run. Tell yourself that you and only you come first. Why do you want to get married? Is it because everyone expects you to get married? Do you want to be married? Or do you want to marry your boyfriend? Many years ago I wanted to be married, married to my daughter's father.....things worked out in time...we never got married and I thank god now. :flowerforyou:
  • sffre
    sffre Posts: 19
    Don't feel bad. We've all had those days of running to food and a moment of eating ice cream is way better than a week of bad eating habits. I was a smoker for over 18 yrs so instead of getting a cigarette, I reach for food......
    As far as marriage goes, my 1st marriage was not good(separated after 9yrs).I have been with my man for almost 11 yrs. I have 3 daughters and my boyfriend and I have a son and have lived together for over 10 yrs. Personally, I think the commitment is way more important than a paper saying we are man and wife.
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