Oh gosh !

Avocado_Angel
Avocado_Angel Posts: 2,362 Member
edited November 22 in Chit-Chat
I'm getting BROODY! My friend just told me tonight she's pregnant! I am sooo happy for her. But it got me feeling a bit jealous as well heehee

Sooo iv penciled in 2020 to have a little 1, don't worry iv told the boyfriend of my plan, pretty sure he should also know lol

I am actually excited, never used to want to be a mum but since entering my 30's that's changed. Do you think it's wise to totally plan your pregnancy or just go with the flow? I'm also worried about leaving it too late and being an older mum as i might want to have several who knows. I worry about stuff like early menopause and everything since turning 30 it's crazy. Used to think I had all the time in the world but age waits for no man.

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  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    * shrug

    I've had both kids and dogs

    All things being equal, dogs are better

    My kids would also understand....
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  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    edited October 2017
    See I don't want a kid, I want an adult........the relationship I have with my parents but without all the crap of dealing with and raising a kid in between. I just don't feel that maternal drive....I should probably just stay an Aunt. I mother the hell out of my dogs though.
  • Motorsheen
    Motorsheen Posts: 20,508 Member
    Avocado_Angel wrote: »
    Motorsheen wrote: »
    * shrug

    I've had both kids and dogs

    All things being equal, dogs are better

    My kids would also understand....

    Iv had plenty practice with my cats, they are basically furry babies right

    No.
  • Grimmerick
    Grimmerick Posts: 3,342 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    30s are still young. Don’t feel bad when they call it a ‘geriatric pregnancy’

    Real talk- having kids is the hardest, most miserable thing I’ve ever done. It’s thankless, frustrating, and no fairy tale. Your kids *will* be those jerk kids screaming in Target and/or hurling eggs over the table. They will make you feel like the biggest failure of a human being ever. They will fight you, disrespect you, annoy you, wake you, and fill you with despair.

    There. I wish someone would’ve told me that before I defaulted to ‘married people have kids, that’s just what they do’.

    And yes. I love my kids. I’d throw myself in front of a bus for them. But that doesn’t mean I have to like them all the time. :sweat_smile:

    Just remember the end game...........hopefully you'll have amazing adult children and all the suffering will have been worth it when they take you to your doctors office visits.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Afremov <3
  • KyleGrace8
    KyleGrace8 Posts: 2,205 Member
    I feel like I'm in a similar boat. Not 30 quite yet but I worry about waiting too long. I think having a plan is smart. Have everything in place before the kids come along so maybe it will be a bit easier.
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  • pinuplove
    pinuplove Posts: 12,871 Member
    If you think you're broody now, just wait until you smell that sweet newborn! Nothing wrong with planning, as long as you remember that plans almost always change, go awry, or require modification midstream.

    And yeah, kids can be *kitten* *kitten* But we're still hard wired to want them, and to not eat them once they arrive and start making life miserable :lol:
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Avocado_Angel wrote: »
    I'm getting BROODY! My friend just told me tonight she's pregnant! I am sooo happy for her. But it got me feeling a bit jealous as well heehee

    Sooo iv penciled in 2020 to have a little 1, don't worry iv told the boyfriend of my plan, pretty sure he should also know lol

    I am actually excited, never used to want to be a mum but since entering my 30's that's changed. Do you think it's wise to totally plan your pregnancy or just go with the flow? I'm also worried about leaving it too late and being an older mum as i might want to have several who knows. I worry about stuff like early menopause and everything since turning 30 it's crazy. Used to think I had all the time in the world but age waits for no man.

    For my wife and I, there was some planning and some go with the flow. We were married when we were 30 (I was going on 31) and we knew that we wanted to have some time to just enjoy being married and going through those growing pains of boyfriend/girlfriend to husband/wife. We also wanted to build on our careers and make sure we were financially stable. We didn't really set any kind of date or anything...we figured we'd just know when the time was right...go with the flow.

    About four years later we made the determination that it was the right time. We had our first when we were both 35 (I was on the back end, she was on the front end). It took us almost a year to conceive...so again, go with the flow.

    Our second boy was born when we were 37 (I was on the back end, she was on the front end). We had actually planned that one out in respect to thinking it would take longer to conceive again...but it was pretty much a one shot deal.

    In either case, everything went pretty smooth save for my wife had to had an emergency c-section with our second for breech.

    Most of our friends have had their babies later...we're all in our late 30s/early 40s and our kids are all around the same age, so it's fun...

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  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    Avocado_Angel wrote: »
    I know it probably won't all be ribbons & mittens or unicorns puking rainbows but have you seen the tiny baby clothes ? Aaaaaaaaw

    Yeah. I probably won't sleep again or have any money, or life. Or hope left. Or any tears left to cry..... But. They might be perfect children! I shall train them. Lol

    It can be a PITA and I often say that this *kitten* is a young man's game...but I wouldn't trade it for the world.

    But yeah...my kids are 5 & 7 now and I haven't really slept in about 7 years. I still have a life, it's just a different one...instead of hitting the sports bar on Sunday to watch the games all day I'm out with my kiddos playing put-put...or taking them to flag football and soccer games on Saturday. These are all little things I will cherish forever.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Avocado_Angel wrote: »
    Timshel_ wrote: »
    Afremov <3

    I didn't realise lol just found it online. The colours are lovely arnt they

    I have a few at home.
  • CoriAPearson
    CoriAPearson Posts: 4 Member
    we planned our kids....1st when I was 32, 2nd I was 34 and 3rd baby at 35. I went through menopause at 45...now 49, so glad I did not wait too long, but keep in mind dealing with menopause and post-mp with 3 teenagers is tough (on me and them and husband). I say don't wait too long. Like everyone says above, kids are hard....but so is ANYTHING worthwhile.
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  • toned_thugs_n_harmony
    toned_thugs_n_harmony Posts: 1,001 Member
    hellvee wrote: »
    i will be a surrogate for anyone if they ask me

    will you be my surrogate?
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