Need encouragement on becoming a healthier me

Mom2ACJC
Mom2ACJC Posts: 36 Member
edited November 2024 in Motivation and Support
This week has been really challenging. Monday was my mom's birthday and she passed away in 2008. I found myself snacking late at night several nights this week. Sometimes I have tension in one of my muscle groups and it makes me not want to workout. I don't like the whole logging process. There is a part of my mind that says what is the point in all of this? a friend came in town the other day and instead of eating, I didn't and for some reason the last 2 days I really haven't wanted to eat. Having to make myself get my calories in. I have been satisfied with the food choices I am making. Not sure if this is a grief thought process and my body's response to it. Any encouragement is appreciated.

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  • Fursian
    Fursian Posts: 567 Member
    These words always sound so empty, but I'm sorry to hear about your mom.

    "There is a part of my mind that says what is the point in all of this?" - It's a powerful question, one that is really troublesome to argue with.

    I began to look it like it, yeah...there may or may not be a point to all of this, but I want to at least try get healthy and try not to be saddled with as many health issues as possible. If I don't do anything I'm just going to deteriorate further and be even more discouraged.

    Any idea at all why a friend coming into town would curb your appetite?
  • Mom2ACJC
    Mom2ACJC Posts: 36 Member
    @fursian, thank you for responding and for your condolences. Good question to ask about why that would curb my appetite? Something for me to think about. I wondered if subconsciously before she got here when I was snacking a bit if I was trying to compensate for my overage. I know I was excited about her being here and didn't want to really bother with measuring, cooking etc. so we had mcdonald's (bad habit still there - however i ate a salad) then i didn't eat at dinner time and it got really late with us catching up so didn't want to keep that late night eating thing going.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,746 Member
    I too am sorry about your mom. The grieving process is different for everyone so just let that happen and ride it out.

    You mentioned twice that you don't like measuring and logging. Not my thing, either. You also mention emotions or feelings as to whether you feel you over or under ate so maybe you'd benefit more from a journal / diary type logging process? That's what I do.

    I don't go into major detail and keep it as brief as possible but I record what I ate, the approximate quantity or size and how I'm feeling both mentally and physically. I find it much more helpful to look back on and figure out what's working and what isn't. Just a suggestion.
  • Mom2ACJC
    Mom2ACJC Posts: 36 Member
    @BZAH10 thank you for your kind words. I appreciate your suggestion on journaling. I am currently doing that to pinpoint triggers and ways of thinking that are causing my responses with food. Some of it is learned behavior and I am having to choose a better path of health with regard to not comforting with food. Also, listening to my body when it is tired and resting instead of pushing it.
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    Yes. Appropriate rest will work. Also find ways to reward yourself with a good week.
  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    I'm sorry to hear about your loss. You are troubled with many sad things. Maybe you can improve your health - and your mood - if you focus on something you could want to do and be able to do consistently. Instead of working out, is there any physical activity you like, or something that has to be done? Dancing, playing, errands? Would you be willing to give up snacking, if that means you can stop logging your food intake? Instead of forcing yourself to eat, can you see yourself eating regularly because you've planned great meals?
  • Mom2ACJC
    Mom2ACJC Posts: 36 Member
    @RodaRose and kommodevaran thank you very much. Both of you provided very encouraging words. Last night I got a good night's sleep. k, thanks for the ideas.
  • roachie68
    roachie68 Posts: 1 Member
    Hello,
    I truly understand how you feel. I lost my husband/best friend in 2012. He died 2/6 and on 10/28 I was blessed with our second child. We did not know I was even pregnant when he died. Being depressed and having the wonderful gift of life can really screw with you. I was in a pit of survivors remorse. What you are going through is normal but dangerous at the same time. This summer I reached 296lbs. I couldn't walk my kids to the bus stop cause I was so winded.
    The snack catch up to you. I had know idea I had gotten that heavy. I would avoid the scale and mirrors.
    I'm back at the gym and feeling good. I love my children and while I feel horrible all the time that my husband is missing this I feel the real horror is not living for him. Live for your mom. I believe our loved ones still live through our eyes. Give your mom something to see!
  • Mom2ACJC
    Mom2ACJC Posts: 36 Member
    @roachie68 I am so sorry for the loss of your husband. Thank you for your kind words. Yes, children are indeed a blessing.
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
    Good luck to you. <3
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