Frustrated! Need help with eating out.

onefuzzy
onefuzzy Posts: 33 Member
edited September 30 in Motivation and Support
So I got through my first week of keeping a food and exercise journal. I had some up and some downs. I just keep trying to tell myself, Progress- not perfection-is important.

My BIG hurdle is nights and weekends. My husband and I like to eat out and I am trying to curb this habit becuase, I know that I lose all self control when I am sitting in a restaurant staring at a menu filled with all sorts of calorie filled meals. My hubby is the type of person that can eat a house and not gain a single pound. So he always goes for the cheesiest, least healthy option.

I ALWAYS go out to eat with the best intentions of eating a healthy meal and then I cave into the high calorie, unhealty option that gives me instant gratification. And then I feel like complete crap 5 minutes after I am done eating.

Does anyone have any helpful hints on overcoming temptation?
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  • 46and2
    46and2 Posts: 167
    this is going to come down to good old-fashioned self control. Wish there was a better way.. I don't know of any at least.
  • Heather75
    Heather75 Posts: 3,386 Member
    Oh. Never mind.
  • slimmer189
    slimmer189 Posts: 135 Member
    check on line to see if their menu and nutrition information is posted and try and make the choice before you go, or maybe you decide not to go. I have tried to cut done on dinner's out - We usually stick with Sushi!
  • ameyc2002
    ameyc2002 Posts: 247 Member
    i fell like crap too after a meal out.. what i am going to start doing is checking the nutrition values online of the meals then maybe pick one ahead of time b4 you even get there might help out...
  • rissaface
    rissaface Posts: 129 Member
    I've come to the realization that it was all about my thinking when it came to eating out. I now can choose the healthier options because I tell myself "this is not the last opportunity I'll get to eat out". Once you try the lower calorie options you may be pleasantly surprised. :happy: Kepp your chin up, it gets easier.
  • kdiamond
    kdiamond Posts: 3,329 Member
    Honestly I try to keep the dinners out to once a week. It is just easier that way, and you can get what you really want instead of leaving there feeling unsatisfied.
  • ohchansey
    ohchansey Posts: 10 Member
    I know it's kind of a pain, but pre-recording foods as I go along in the day helps me a lot. That way you have a calorie allowance for certain meals, so when you go out you can guestimate how many calories you've got to spend. I don't know why, but putting a number on everything helps me :) and this way you never find your calories suddenly stacking up at the end of the day. If I'm having a large dinner, I might cut down on lunch to balance. I don't know if it actually works, but it helps me feel a bit more in control :)
  • yeabby
    yeabby Posts: 643 Member
    When possible I look at the menu ahead and decide what I'm having. Then when seated I don't look at it again so that temptation to change is gone. I also log the meal before I leave. For some reason that makes me feel like I have to stick to my choice.

    Good luck!
  • ddecarr
    ddecarr Posts: 103 Member
    This has been a challenge for me also. I try to choose places where I know I can eat healthy and the kitchen is willing to accommodate. I used to starve myself trying to save all those calories for the junk I might eat, but you get so hungry you break down and go wild. I try to shift the calories I need to eat a little later into the day. When I get to the restaurant I'm not famished. and looking to devour everything in sight! Don't be afraid to ask for dishes on the menu to be prepared differently to be healthier. I find most places more than willing.

    Good Luck!!!
  • jessicahelene
    jessicahelene Posts: 77 Member
    I have trouble with this sometimes too. My boyfriend eats what he wants and doesn't gain at all. What I've found works is to give myself two options when I sit down at a restaurant. Either 1) I'll order something healthy which in all cases means some lean meat option (grilled chicken or fish) and veggies or 2) I'll order something not-so-healthy and from the beginning decide to take at least half of it home with me for boyfriend to gobble up for a snack andnotgainapound.

    That being said.... the best way to solve this problem is to go out to eat only as a treat and try to eat at home mostly. Maybe talk to hubby about how going out to eat is making it hard for you to achieve your goals? I know it's tough. Hang in there!
  • Sassy_Cass
    Sassy_Cass Posts: 408 Member
    I feel the same way - some people can eat anything and gain nothing, I can THINK about eating and gain :laugh: What I try and do is substitute the fries with salad - dressing on the side (you feel way better afterward, trust me) and go for more lean meats that actually have a tun more flavour than a burger.

    That being said, meal salads and veggie burgers sometimes have the same amount of calories IF NOT MORE than the "less healthy" options, the difference is in how your body processes these calories.

    Take it one step at a time, water instead of pop or iced tea, side salad or garden veggies instead of fries and maybe only eat 1/2 or 3/4 of the meal - even eat slower so your brain can actually register the food you are eating and you don't over eat.
  • pa_jorg
    pa_jorg Posts: 4,404 Member
    check on line to see if their menu and nutrition information is posted and try and make the choice before you go, or maybe you decide not to go.


    This. Make the decision of what you're going to eat BEFORE you sit down at the restaurant.
  • Dtrmnd86
    Dtrmnd86 Posts: 406 Member
    Take a few minutes before ordering and think of how you're going to feel after you eat a big high calorie meal. Or you can look up the calorie information for the restaurant before you go, choose something healthy and then not even look at the menu when you get there and order the healthy food.
  • wilsonk1
    wilsonk1 Posts: 6 Member
    If it helps--this is tough for me, too. I've started asking for a box right after the food arrives and putting at least half of the dinner in the box right away. Yes, the waitress normally gives me a funny glance, but they're always really nice about it.

    Good luck!:happy:
  • mill1295
    mill1295 Posts: 120 Member
    I check the nutrition information for the restaurant before we go and see how many calories I have left for the day. I usually decide what I'm going to eat before we get there. Seafood is a good option usually if you like it (and it's not fried!). If I go over I go for a walk when I get home.
  • ProTFitness
    ProTFitness Posts: 1,379 Member
    So I got through my first week of keeping a food and exercise journal. I had some up and some downs. I just keep trying to tell myself, Progress- not perfection-is important.

    My BIG hurdle is nights and weekends. My husband and I like to eat out and I am trying to curb this habit becuase, I know that I lose all self control when I am sitting in a restaurant staring at a menu filled with all sorts of calorie filled meals. My hubby is the type of person that can eat a house and not gain a single pound. So he always goes for the cheesiest, least healthy option.

    I ALWAYS go out to eat with the best intentions of eating a healthy meal and then I cave into the high calorie, unhealty option that gives me instant gratification. And then I feel like complete crap 5 minutes after I am done eating.

    Does anyone have any helpful hints on overcoming temptation?

    Dont go out! Cook at home. Most of the heathier choices are still full of salt and added butters sauces ect. Cooking foods yourself is so much better. Try cutting back to 1 time a week. More then that while your trying to loose weight will hold you back
  • Womona
    Womona Posts: 1,776 Member
    I'm going to have that problem coming up this weekend - going back home for a weekend of class and family reunions!

    The best advice I can give about restaurant food is know that what they put in front of you is usually 2-3 servings (unelss it's one of those fancy restaurants that serves small portions beautifully - then you're safe!) I usually only eat half, or if you don't think you can control the temptation, ask the server to box up half and only serve you half a portion.

    Also, try to eat as many veggie-heavy meals as you can. That way you get the yummy taste with way fewer calories. Good luck to you, and boy, I need luck as well!
  • spaingirl2011
    spaingirl2011 Posts: 763 Member
    I choose what I'm going to eat before the arriving at t he restaurant, and then I ask sor a small salad plate to portion my meal out and have the rest boxed up. That usually helps quite a bit!
  • When I know I'm going to eat out I usually jump online before I go and look at the menu. I'll see what I like and compare calories. Deciding ahead of time really helps. I also remind myself that it's okay not to eat everything on the plate since the portions are usually pretty big. And an added bonus, if you don't finish it, you can take some home for another time.
  • tararocks
    tararocks Posts: 287 Member
    There is no easy trick, I agree this has to be something you have self control about. I also agree to look at the menu ahead of time and see what you can get. Check the calories and decide what is worth it, then when you get there do not even open the menu, it will save you from seeing all of the other things you may want. Choose healthier places to eat out, obviously portion size and such are a problem everywhere but some places are certainly healthier than others. Other options when you feel like you cannot control your desire to eat the yummy cheesy goodness (we all have those days) is to either order it as an appetizer size or like many others before me suggest, get a to-go box right away and put half in it. I have also been known to ask for double veggies instead of the loaded mashed potatoes, the cheese and white sauced topped chicken is bad enough, at least I can save a little damage by doubling up on veggies. Good luck to you!
  • Jemmuno
    Jemmuno Posts: 413 Member
    I've gotten my boyfriend on board. I flat out told him it doesn't help when you eat the crappiest thing on the menu because then I want to eat that as well, then all my hard work all week goes to crap. He used to shoot back with my body is different then your so I can eat this. But once I shot back with yea you may not gain any weight but think about what its doing to your heart and organs. He came on board with me a little bit and thought a little bit more about what he was ordering to help me and himself out.

    Another approach is get what meal you want, but don't eat it all. Take it home and eat over a course of a few meals. A lot of meals are like 1500 calories by themselves and if you split them up into 3 or 4 meals that makes them less that 500 calories a meal.
  • MrBrown72
    MrBrown72 Posts: 407 Member
    I think lots of people do this. Either it's the "getting my moneys worth" or just plain old temptation. It takes some time to be able to focus on getting your moneys worth in the mirror instead of on the plate.

    As for temptation, that depends on what you order. Depending on the order you need to find what it is you're really craving and find a healthier alternative. For instance, if you are a steak person, chances are you're craving salt. Try the fish. If you're NEED to have the pasta dish, you're likely after the sweetness in the sauce, try a glazed chicken breast. Or if like me you just must have a steak, find a place that serves it as a salad. The few slices you get are not that high in calories and the salad fills you up.

    The biggest issue is the starch that comes with everything. Like the baked potato or pasta. Remember though restaurants are a service industry. They will exchange or omit sides for you.

    however, in my opinion it's really not about necessarily about NOT having what you want, but having reasonable portions of it. Most of us are just fine with three ounces of ice cream. Sadly we do HAVE to finish the whole bowl because it's there, and we wouldn't want to WASTE it, and it wont ship well to those starving children. It's better to put a little more decadence into eating out, and leave it on the plate.
  • CharlieBarleyMom
    CharlieBarleyMom Posts: 727 Member
    I've come to the realization that it was all about my thinking when it came to eating out. I now can choose the healthier options because I tell myself "this is not the last opportunity I'll get to eat out". Once you try the lower calorie options you may be pleasantly surprised. :happy: Kepp your chin up, it gets easier.

    ^this, definitely

    Also, I check the menu on line and check the nutriitional values - add everything I plan on eating into my food log and if I have room for something more, I'm pleased to add something else... if not, I make the decision as to whether I go out to dinner or just stay home and eat something more nutritious for myself. You'll get there. Hang on.

    Edited to add: Also, since you eat out often, it's not really a "treat" - so don't treat it that way. This is your meal. This is your fuel. This is your food... this is not a once in a while treat that you allow yourself. Think about that and see what happens to your choices.
  • TheNewLK
    TheNewLK Posts: 933 Member
    Well i was going to say ......**rereads topic** oh THAT EATING OUT.....damn i had some helpful hints too :wink:
  • Miss_Chievous_wechange
    Miss_Chievous_wechange Posts: 1,230 Member
    Well i was going to say ......**rereads topic** oh THAT EATING OUT.....damn i had some helpful hints too :wink:


    Bwahahaha. Oh how I love you girl! :laugh:
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  • MrBrown72
    MrBrown72 Posts: 407 Member
    Well i was going to say ......**rereads topic** oh THAT EATING OUT.....damn i had some helpful hints too :wink:

    No worries, that's what got me here as well.
  • Thomasm198
    Thomasm198 Posts: 3,189 Member
    False advertising! :grumble:
  • onefuzzy
    onefuzzy Posts: 33 Member
    Thank you for all of your ideas!

    I think I need to have a sit down with the hubby. I have to explain to him how much this means to me. Eating out once a week would not only help my body but our wallet! I spent most of Sunday preparing meals for lunch this week. Which has worked out well. I need to take that and apply it to dinners.

    After reading all of your posts one major thing stuck out- PLAN AHEAD and find some willpower!

    Thank you and keep em coming!
  • maxymom
    maxymom Posts: 35 Member
    When I started MFP, I complained of my problem with restaurant food calories, and received some good advice from barbiecat and some other successful losers on the Women 50+ page. She said order chicken fajitas, and then just eat the grilled meat and veggies. If it's a place where they automatically put out tortilla chips or bread, ask them not to, or make your husband keep it on the far side of the table to avoid mindless munching (a big problem of mine). Look up food choices before hand. If you want chips find out how many is a serving size and put that many on your plate or napkin. With careful planning you can have some of your favorite foods when you go out. Since you eat out a lot, you can have a little of something you want each time. And try asking for a to-go container right away, and put half your food in it right away and close it up. That way you can eat it later, or if it's the greasy, cheesy part of the meal, have your husband eat it. And finally, use moderation, not total denial. I could never stick with a plan where I could never ever eat the foods I love! Just one at a time, and not a whole, huge serving. This has helped me, and I hope it helps you too!
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