I need to loose a lot of weight... Approx 35-40 Kgs..... Need motivation
dubaispecial
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I had joined here long time back but did not do anything. Now again have come back and hope to loose weight. I have joined gym also. but i feel i don't have any self control.... every day i come up with excuses for not going to gym....
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What are the top 3 things you hate the most about being overweight? What are the top 3 most appealing things you can think of about reaching your goal weight? People run away from pain or towards pleasure for everything they do.
Which pain is bigger? Getting yourself to the gym or staying overweight, unhealthy, unhappy, and probably self-conscious in certain circumstances?
Which pleasure is greater? Getting to avoid another day of taking control of your life or having the pride of knowing that you are improving your health, getting stronger, more fit, getting years added back to your life, looking better, feeling better?
Excuses and motivation live in your head, and they come from the thoughts you allow yourself to think. You have to change that little voice in your mind. Thoughts > Actions > Results
You can do it and you have to know that deep down inside. It has to be a foundation of your thoughts. Right now you have made the thought that you have no self-control a foundation.7 -
Don't worry too much about the gym for now. Focus on weighing all your foods and counting your calories accurately. I find that if i pre-plan everything, it's much easier to stick to it. Once you've got that sorted and it becomes a habit for you, then slowly start adding in work outs you enjoy. Pushing yourself to do things you don't like, won't help as you'll eventually give up and go back to your old ways.
This should be a life long journey as you're trying to change your life style and eating habits so that you maintain the weight you lose. So take baby steps, don't be too hard on yourself and do things you enjoy doing! =D
A good motivator for me is a horrible couple of pictures i took. I keep them printed in my bathroom. They show me at my heaviest weight and next to them are pictures of me when I was very healthy. Every time i see that i remember why i don't need to eat that extra slice of cake and why i should check to make sure I've recorded everything in my diary. Keep going! Don't give up and when you feel like you're getting off track, come back to the forums and we'll still be here to support you
You can do this, just don't stop weighing and recording your foods accurately and the weight will come off.2 -
Okay. Here's some motivation. Or, at least the kick in the pants I needed.
Roughly 13 months ago, my left leg turned bright red, heated up, and started swelling. A trip to the emergency room led to a diagnosis of cellulitus, IV antibiotics, and a prescription for a course of oral ones. A day later, the leg erupted in water blisters. I followed up with my family physician (note: I'm in Canada and hospitals here in Toronto generally don't admit you if they can patch you up and send you home to visit your GP) and they diagnosed lymphedema, lanced the blisters, bandaged up a weeping wound and had me report in daily to have the dressing changed until they got me on the roster for home-care nurse visits. They also referred me to a vascular surgeon who was able to diagnose the root cause: at 5'3", I weighed 254 lbs (normal BMI range is 108 to 140 for this height). And, under the strain of having to carry too much... me, the veins in my legs collapsed. Also, the extra bulk impacted my lymphatic system, causing blockages. The fluid had to go somewhere... so it did. Those blisters.
The wound was infected and, by the time they figured out the correct antibiotic, it took three courses to heal.
The vascular surgeon had two pieces of advice for me: get compression stockings... and lose weight. I did both.
Dropped 90 lbs.
A little over a month ago, I developed a symptom that had me running to my doctor in a panic. Turned out to be bladder cancer. They're resecting the lesions on Thursday. It's under general anesthetic, which would be a lot riskier if I still had those 90 lbs.
In retrospect, the lymphedema was a good thing, because it gave me all the incentive I needed to lose weight and get healthier. Which makes the surgery I need now a good deal safer. Blood pressure is great. Overall fitness has improved. I didn't see any of this coming last year, but I can't deny that I'm in a better position to deal with it.
Don't wait for a major health issue. Take care of this now.9 -
You have to do something to lose weight - or, actually, you have to NOT DO something to lose weight: Eat less. You can't just hope to lose weight, you can't just exercise to lose weight, and you don't have to hope or believe in it to lose weight, you don't have to exercise to lose weight, but you have to eat less. And you need to eat less consistently, and for a long time. MFP helps you with that, by showing you how much you can eat and still lose weight, and how much you should eat to be healthy and not particularly hungry, and how much you actually are eating, if you use it correctly. If you use that data, you will find out what you should eat in order to be happy, energized, and lose and then maintain weight.
(Sobbing and waiting for motivation is not going to help you.)2 -
When I first started I felt discouraged by the amount of weight I had to lose: 37-42kg, but I realized that being scared by that number wouldn't make it go away, I had to take responsibility for my actions and change my lifestyle because no one else could lose weight for me. The longer it takes you to realize that weight loss is dependent on only you the sooner you will move forward.
I've lost 17kg so far in an eleven month period. That reduces the 37-42kg to 20-25kg.
Compared to the majority of MFP users my weight loss is incredibly slow, but it is consistent and it doesn't feel impossible. The biggest mistake a person can make is to try and lose as much weight as possible in a short period of time, which will lead to extreme measures being taken and eventually discouragement and failure.
Accept that it will take a while for you to become accustomed to making changes, and that it's okay not to see results instantly. Rather treat yourself kindly and allow yourself a chance to succeed by starting off gently.
You can eat whatever you want - just in moderation. Log everything you eat during the day accurately. Weigh solids and measure liquids. It's a tedious task but it's a lot easier than simply going on a diet with a blind fold on. Equip yourself with knowledge - read these forums - and you will realize that losing weight isn't as hard as you once thought it would be.
If you really want to lose weight then you will put in the extra effort. It doesn't require much from you in the beginning, but it should come from you. No one else can do it for you.
All the best on your journey. Feel free to add me and message me if you'd like. It's not impossible, it just takes a little effort, a little patience and a lot of self-love.
PS: I don't go to the gym. I walk about 10km a week for exercise. No need to go overboard with something you won't enjoy and you won't be able to maintain.6 -
krótko, chcesz, albo nie, MFP daje Ci pole do popisu, robisz jak piszą albo, nie . Mi się udało 1,5 roku z 79 kg na 70 kg, powodzenia Krzysiek z Polski. biegam w wolnym tempie 3 razy na tydzień (tracę kilogramy, spalam tłuszcz ) około 40 km na tydzień . pozdrawiam 50 lat mam,pozdrowienia-4
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Hello there- for me it just got to the point that I hated being fat more than I hated the idea of the changes I'd have to make; I simply became disgusted with myself. I'm 60, and because of a messed up arm/shoulder, I've been walking as my primary exercise. I've done lots of different exercise programs in the past, but walking outside is what makes me feel best- you can burn calories and it's just great to spend some time outside. Start slow-set mini-goals rather than looking at the big picture- I've found it helpful to focus on 5 pound goals. But, after all is said and done- only you can make this happen-you've got to really want it.1
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I'd break it up into stages; lose 10kg or so to start with. I've just reached that point, still have another 30kg to go but I have so much more energy now it's brilliant can't wait to see how much energy I have when I'm a healthy weight (or even not obese!).1
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Thanks all for inspiration. I did go to gym y'day and did excercise and planning to stick to that. I need to improve on my eating habbits though...3
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When I started MFP I knew I would have to do something for exercise. Now 2 years later and 85 pounds lighter all I do is walking daily. I will eventually do some weight training but you don't have to start there. To lose weight it is about 80% eating less. The exercise for me lowers my stress level and helps to reduce my appetite but now at 5 pounds from goal I only get an extra 130 to 150 calories a day for 10,000 steps. The real bonus is how good it makes me feel. Find something you like to do, doesn't have to be the gym or walking just moving in some way. You will stick to it that way. Remember this is not a temporary change it's a permanent one. You have to be able to continue with it for life.2
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Exercise is a great place to start no need to do everything all at once!
Actually, I find that running is a good way to keep myself in check; if I eat too much junk the day before, my run the next morning is really difficult. And I enjoy the running!1 -
dubaispecial wrote: »I had joined here long time back but did not do anything. Now again have come back and hope to loose weight. I have joined gym also. but i feel i don't have any self control.... every day i come up with excuses for not going to gym....
I would definitely agree going to the gym and/or doing any type of physical activity motivates you to keep going; but weight less is absolutely more about calories in/calories out. It takes me two miles of jogging to burn 200 calories and I can stuff 200 calories in my face in less than three minutes, or a day can spin out of control and no amount of exercise can fix it.
One thing that helped me early on was not having that absolute mind set - if I ate something bad, the day was over, may as well eat pizza, have beer, whatever. Just move on. Another thing I did was figure out my calorie intake per day; multiply by 7, and make sure I stayed within that for the WEEK. In other words, if my calories are 1600 a day and I have 2000 one day, I cut 100 per day for the next four days, or vice versa - save 400 calories two days in a row so I can have drinks with friends on Friday. That kind of thing. Its a long process and it has to be able to accommodate your lifestyle or you will give up easily.1 -
As for the gym don't let it be an option to not go.
I go to the gym every day unless I'm out of town. Once I get there I allow myself to turn around and leave immediately. I don't have to do any kind of work out but I do have to walk in the door. I've never yet left without doing at least something - once you do that for a month it's just total habit.
Make sure you find a gym you like. Mine is very bare bones and people go there to work. It's privately owned not a chain and has a ton of free weights and all the machines are well used but well maintained. I love it so much more than all the fancy gyms because it's just a place that everyone goes to do their workout.2 -
Thank you guys.... most of you are right... this is what my gym instructor has told me.... excercise will help but loosing weight depends 50% on your diet.... you are what you eat... so need to work on it.... I had exceeded my calorie intake everyday... need to work on it....1
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