Have you?

Staceym2112
Staceym2112 Posts: 892 Member
edited November 2017 in Chit-Chat
Have you ever cheated in a serious relationship and if so what were your reasonings behind it?

Update: I put this in the chit chat area just to open a discussion and get an idea of people's thoughts on this subject without detriment to anyone. Not the fun and games section, due to trying to get a series of HONEST answers.
Yes the title was changed because people need concise directions like children and were butt hurt over the title. Yes, I took the no judgements part off because as you can see we're not mature and like to pass off steam by judging others when we say we want to get away from that exact thing in everyday life.
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  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    Are you too good to use the other True Confession thread?
  • Staceym2112
    Staceym2112 Posts: 892 Member
    edited November 2017
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    Are you too good to use the other True Confession thread?

    The other true confessions thread is for you to just throw in a confession of your own on any topic. I'm asking a specific question on a specific topic...
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  • Versicolour
    Versicolour Posts: 7,164 Member
    No. I haven't. Do to others as you want them to do to you.
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
    edited November 2017
    Have you ever cheated in a serious relationship and if so what were your reasonings behind it?

    I wouldn't say what you and I had together was a serious relationship.
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    A sequel already? True Confessions 2: No Judgment Day.

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  • Caporegiem
    Caporegiem Posts: 4,297 Member
    I have before. Why you ask? Because she went back and edited the title of her thread, causing my initial post to make no sense.
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    To answer your question. No I have not. Honestly it's just not in my personality or nature. If I felt it was so bad or over, I'd pack my bags and leave. I figure go out with my dignity in tact.
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  • Staceym2112
    Staceym2112 Posts: 892 Member
    Caporegiem wrote: »
    I have before. Why you ask? Because she went back and edited the title of her thread, causing my initial post to make no sense.

    You have to give concise directions sometimes for people to understand clearly.
  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    I did it all for the nookie. Limp Bizket.
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  • WorkerDrone83
    WorkerDrone83 Posts: 3,195 Member
    When you cheat upon someone else, you're also cheating yourself; of your own dignity, integrity, etcetera! I'd never, harm myself!

    Lol. Good thing OP took out the "no judgment" part of the title.

    I don't think that's always true. I certainly wasn't born with that kind of crippling Catholic guilt. I suppose it depends on how you actually feel about the person you cheated on. And how they feel about you.
  • Staceym2112
    Staceym2112 Posts: 892 Member
    _MistahJ_ wrote: »
    Define cheating.

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    That completely depends on your values as a person. Some may say cheating is sexual contact with another while in a serious relationship. Others may add in emotional cheating (looking for someone else to help you through problems or to talk to rather than your partner), sexting, sending nudes, or something as simple as kissing another person. What's cheating mean to you?
  • iamthemotherofdogs
    iamthemotherofdogs Posts: 562 Member
    Nope.

    As the daughter of a man who cheated for years and lied, who had to get her mom through the following years when it all came out and she had to stand on her own for the first time in 25 years... Cheating disgusts me. It is unnecessary and negates the point on a monogamous relationship. If you're over it, be decent and let your s/o know and save both of you the trouble.

    I never have and I never will.

    I try pretty hard not to judge others on it, because every situation involving the heart is different... But, I am adamantly against it. Stay in your lane. Eyes on your own paper.
  • HalloweenHighness
    HalloweenHighness Posts: 53 Member
    When you cheat upon someone else, you're also cheating yourself; of your own dignity, integrity, etcetera! I'd never, harm myself!

    Lol. Good thing OP took out the "no judgment" part of the title.

    I don't think that's always true. I certainly wasn't born with that kind of crippling Catholic guilt. I suppose it depends on how you actually feel about the person you cheated on. And how they feel about you.

    I didn't see the thread, prior to the "no judgment"; portion being removed! However it wouldn't have changed my answer, since I used "you"; generally instead of specifically & specifics might've been, an inaccurate assumption because the OP, never indicated that she; was a/the cheater!

    I am actually, irreligious but spiritual!
  • Staceym2112
    Staceym2112 Posts: 892 Member
    MrSith wrote: »
    @Staceym2112

    We get it.........you cheated........

    I didn't but thanks for the ASSumption
  • SomebodyWakeUpHIcks
    SomebodyWakeUpHIcks Posts: 3,836 Member
    This one time we stayed up past midnight drinking sodie pops.
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  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    I don't think anyone would actually fess up to that on a public forum simply because you ask. The only comments you'll probably get on here will be jokes and the judgy "holier than though" folks chiming in on what they think.

    That being said, this could get interesting. I'll go get popcorn.
  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    MrSith wrote: »
    @Staceym2112

    We get it.........you cheated........

    I didn't but thanks for the ASSumption
    then why is it so important for you to get it clearly defined from array of different people on the internet?

    I feel you are looking for justification for a behavior you have exhibited or thought about doing in the near future.
  • Just_J_Now
    Just_J_Now Posts: 9,551 Member
    MrSith wrote: »
    MrSith wrote: »
    @Staceym2112

    We get it.........you cheated........

    I didn't but thanks for the ASSumption
    then why is it so important for you to get it clearly defined from array of different people on the internet?

    I feel you are looking for justification for a behavior you have exhibited or thought about doing in the near future.

    You never know, maybe it's just research for a school project or something. B)
  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    Just_J_Now wrote: »
    MrSith wrote: »
    MrSith wrote: »
    @Staceym2112

    We get it.........you cheated........

    I didn't but thanks for the ASSumption
    then why is it so important for you to get it clearly defined from array of different people on the internet?

    I feel you are looking for justification for a behavior you have exhibited or thought about doing in the near future.

    You never know, maybe it's just research for a school project or something. B)

    I tried that once ....video taping how females feel undressed compared to being dressed. Thank God for the informed consent forms.
  • cee134
    cee134 Posts: 33,711 Member
    I also want to know who's cheated. It is definitely NOT because I want to know who to PM later or who may be PMing my "special friend".
  • Staceym2112
    Staceym2112 Posts: 892 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    MrSith wrote: »
    @Staceym2112

    We get it.........you cheated........

    I didn't but thanks for the ASSumption

    Stacey, aren't you a bit ahead of yourself? Before cheating can be asserted, commitment must be clearly, and often legalistically, defined.

    And the modern day definition of commitment is something along the lines of Okay, it's our third date and we've had sex and you won't be with anyone else but me from now on, right? Right? Okay good. I won't be with anyone else but you either. Yay! I feel so secure now, so complete!


    Cheating. Hah!

    That is true which is why I stated serious relationship. Thanks for bringing that point up...I'm sure serious relationship to anyone would be one with exclusivity that has already been discussed prior to taking anything further. I myself would say a serious relationship is one where you have been together for more than a year, possibly living together, and have already had the exclusive talk.
  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    newmeadow wrote: »
    MrSith wrote: »
    @Staceym2112

    We get it.........you cheated........

    I didn't but thanks for the ASSumption

    Stacey, aren't you a bit ahead of yourself? Before cheating can be asserted, commitment must be clearly, and often legalistically, defined.

    And the modern day definition of commitment is something along the lines of Okay, it's our third date and we've had sex and you won't be with anyone else but me from now on, right? Right? Okay good. I won't be with anyone else but you either. Yay! I feel so secure now, so complete!


    Cheating. Hah!

    That is true which is why I stated serious relationship. Thanks for bringing that point up...I'm sure serious relationship to anyone would be one with exclusivity that has already been discussed prior to taking anything further. I myself would say a serious relationship is one where you have been together for more than a year, possibly living together, and have already had the exclusive talk.
    This isn't a college course......Adults know better.
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