I need help NOT drinking! Need ACCOUNTABILITY friends!

So I've read all of the stuff I could find online about alcohol and its effects on your work out progress. I started drinking a lot more after an injury a year plus ago and basically have a few vodka drinks every night. Its helped me stop working out, get lazy, gain weight and feel like I failed.

I want to stop drinking all together because it doesn't serve me. Every time I do, I find an excuse to have another. I want to challenge myself, but I need some accountability.

I started going to the gym again this last Monday and have been every day except today, but I have been drinking still and it seem so counter productive. I really want to get back on top.

Feel free to share info, stories of overcoming, or just just join me on this personal challenge!

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  • boehle
    boehle Posts: 5,062 Member
    I allow myself one day. I drank a lot after a breakup and it caused fighting with my son and almost destroying another relationship. I now am back in the gym several days a week and allow Saturday to have a few drinks and thats it. Baby steps is what I suggest.
  • boehle
    boehle Posts: 5,062 Member
    PS. Read your on profile:

    About Me:
    I like people with a sense of humor and I hate excuses.

    Focus on what you hate :)
  • JennyRATL
    JennyRATL Posts: 199 Member
    edited November 2017
    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10610475/less-alcohol-nov-2017-one-day-at-a-time/p1

    Thread for accountability and support! Come join us! :)
    Some of us moderate our intake, some abstain altogether.
  • tuddy315
    tuddy315 Posts: 11,589 Member
    ^^^ Agree. Re-read your inspirations. You can do this!
  • jcstevens86
    jcstevens86 Posts: 3,338 Member
    cassirae03 wrote: »
    I got rid of the alcohol in my house and removed myself from social settings where I might be tempted for awhile. After 2 or 3 weeks, my desire to have a drink seemed to dwindle and I had more restraint once I saw and felt the benefits of quitting. It's hard, but worth it.

    Great advice
  • msheatherb23
    msheatherb23 Posts: 4 Member
    Some friends and I are doing a NoDrinkNovember! You could do it with us. I plan on keeping it going after November, mostly because there’s so much sugar in alcohol and I feel more productive when I don’t drink. I’ll hold you accountable if you need it!
  • Scarlettknits
    Scarlettknits Posts: 6 Member
    I am struggling with the same thing- get stressed/have a drink. I do best if I have nothing in the house. If I am going out (which I do a couple times a month) I allow myself a drink or two so I don't feel completely deprived. Tracking each and every ounce of alcohol helps too. It's a good motivator to stop when you're hungry at the end of the day because you've drank your calories.
  • WickAndArtoo
    WickAndArtoo Posts: 773 Member
    You can do this if you put your mind to it! I haven’t had a drink in one year and four month and I have loved every sober minute of it! Make a list of reasons why it doesn’t align with your goals and who you want to be as a person. For me after reading research that showed that even as little as one beverage a day is shown to increase risk of cancer I quit cold turkey. If I think smoking cigarettes is socially and healthfully unacceptable then why show alcohol be too? Good luck in your journey!
  • StatsGuy99
    StatsGuy99 Posts: 35 Member
    If stress is a factor in your drinking, finding an alternative way to relieve stress can greatly help with reducing your alcohol intake. I used to drink quite a bit to cope with stress (though I was also attempting to perfect the old-fashioned). In my case, punching something for half an hour straight turned out to be a great stress reliever.
  • IronDogJourney
    IronDogJourney Posts: 117 Member
    I really appreciate all of the feedback! Feel free to add me as a friend anyone who likes.
  • IronDogJourney
    IronDogJourney Posts: 117 Member
    I've had 1 heart surgery and am going to have one in less than a year. I guess I should take it seriously.
  • Jackie9003
    Jackie9003 Posts: 1,115 Member
    I've stopped buying it so I can't be tempted, and I feel much better, I get around the social element by driving everywhere - nobody questions you if you're the nominated driver.
  • goldentamarin
    goldentamarin Posts: 16 Member
    edited November 2017
    Hi, this has been my struggle too. Alcohol is a slippery slope for me and it always messes up my fitness goals because I tend to eat a lot when inebriated. Horrible combo. I'm 12 days sober and have a mini-goal of going the rest of the year without a drink. I've found this site incredibly helpful. I read the posts there daily. It's worth a browse :)

    https://www.reddit.com/r/stopdrinking/
  • donna_77
    donna_77 Posts: 8 Member
    On the same track as you. It's so hard! I'm a massive binge drinker and at 40, I think its time to grow up. It's messing with the hard work I put in at Crossfit. Will add you as a friend if you like and we can be accountable :)
  • hannahsmithmd
    hannahsmithmd Posts: 4 Member
    As with all goals you need to make them achievable or they will never happen. Removing all the alcohol from the house and stop buying it is very good advice, but remember alcohol is addictive so you might need to replace the drinking with something else, be it going to the gym, running, swimming or just going for a walk.

    Some people might gain weight after giving up alcohol, as they will replace the drinking with eating which why it a good idea to think about what you want to replace the alcohol with rather than just going cold turkey.

    It is good that you have realised that you have a problem and want to stop it before it becomes a bigger problem.

    It does sound a cliche, but you really need to take it one day at a time.
  • amyf2000
    amyf2000 Posts: 44 Member
    Hi there. I quit drinking two years ago. I drank every day and it just became incompatible with my life goals, including my health and fitness goals (I am a figure skater. A 41 year old figure skater). What ended up getting me to quit was going to AA. Every time I tried on my own I just started drinking again and every time I started drinking I went right back to doing it every day. I needed to be around people who knew what I was going through. Quitting drinking honestly was a lot harder than I thought it would be for a lot longer than I thought it would be. I don't say that to scare you, only to encourage you to play the long game. Getting through that, my life has improved like 1000%, but it's also very different. Like others who have commented, I had to remove myself from situations where I would drink, which meant not only not going to bars but also not making dinner at home for a long time! I filled my life with other activities. Like, I learned how to play the violin, so now I play the violin in a community orchestra and other pick-up ensembles. Feel free to add me. You can do it and you will so glad you did. One day at a time.
  • MrSith
    MrSith Posts: 1,636 Member
    As with all goals you need to make them achievable or they will never happen. Removing all the alcohol from the house and stop buying it is very good advice, but remember alcohol is addictive so you might need to replace the drinking with something else, be it going to the gym, running, swimming or just going for a walk.

    Some people might gain weight after giving up alcohol, as they will replace the drinking with eating which why it a good idea to think about what you want to replace the alcohol with rather than just going cold turkey.

    It is good that you have realised that you have a problem and want to stop it before it becomes a bigger problem.

    It does sound a cliche, but you really need to take it one day at a time.
    As with all goals you need to make them achievable or they will never happen. Removing all the alcohol from the house and stop buying it is very good advice, but remember alcohol is addictive so you might need to replace the drinking with something else, be it going to the gym, running, swimming or just going for a walk.

    Some people might gain weight after giving up alcohol, as they will replace the drinking with eating which why it a good idea to think about what you want to replace the alcohol with rather than just going cold turkey.

    It is good that you have realised that you have a problem and want to stop it before it becomes a bigger problem.

    It does sound a cliche, but you really need to take it one day at a time.
    It's not addictive, it's a crutch people use to deal with problems. It slows the heart down, therefore, reducing anxiety and making you feel better at the TIME of use.
  • CoachNickMack
    CoachNickMack Posts: 1 Member
    Congrats on the win! I know this is a public group, but if you feel comfortable can you write out why you feel the urge to drink? What thoughts and emotions do you feel that make you want to grab a drink?

    All this encouragement is great, but it will only take you so far. You need to tackle the underlying issue.
  • Trish1c
    Trish1c Posts: 549 Member
    Keeping it out of the house helped me. I tend to drink more because it's there. So when it's not there it's easier to be good.
  • browsingchiklet
    browsingchiklet Posts: 13 Member
    I decided the other day enough was enough, I have been feeling crappy from drinking way too much (for way too long), eating even worse, and lack of sleep.
    Last night was the first night in I can't remember how long, I didn't have a glass of wine. Oh, I wanted to about 9, but just started puttering around the house, and went to bed early.
    It is definitely baby steps, it helps that my other half is away (he is definitely my enabler), so I will take the next week and get myself into new habits not involving alcohol, and hubs and I will be having a serious conversation about it when he gets home!
  • mgalsf12
    mgalsf12 Posts: 350 Member
    I work my wine into my calorie count...sure does make me drink a lot less.
  • Hecka_Rebecca
    Hecka_Rebecca Posts: 50 Member
    I've been sober for almost 9 months now. It's been hard, but quitting both smoking and drinking have kick started a much healthier life for me (physically and mentally). My biggest tips early on: get yourself a few cases of sugar free sparkling water, avoid temptation, and make the choice every morning when you wake up "I will not drink today". And check out r/stopdrinking on Reddit. It's a great community.
  • I totally understand. I drink every couple of days (6 cans of bourbon) and it's been hard not to. Take each day at a time and don't think ahead, every drink less is a victory!! Good luck!!