Lost 35 pounds and now lost motivation

riveraashley08
riveraashley08 Posts: 1 Member
edited November 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
I’m 19 and in 2016 I was weighing almost 250. I started working out and eating WAY less. I managed to lose 35 pounds without really any excersize just dieting. Now it’s been almost 4 or 5 months and I’ve been stuck at my weight of 205. I eat really bad now with fast food almost everyday but I’ve managed to maintain my weight. I just need tips on how to keep myself motivated. I want to reach 180 and it’s so close yet I always fall back to eating bad food I know I shouldn’t. I over eat A LOT. It’s gotten to point where I can’t even see anything good about myself. I just see all the flaws I have. It’s really effecting me emotionally because I feel like a failure for not being able to stick to my diet again. Any tips would be helpful. I’ve never told anyone this

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  • DISCIPLINEEQUALSFREEDOM
    DISCIPLINEEQUALSFREEDOM Posts: 1,384 Member
    Motivation does not keep you going. Habits and discipline will. Remember why you started, whether it's you want to look good in whatever you wear / health reasons / revenge on an ex, and press on. Stop over-thinking and beating yourself up. Just get it done.
  • HellYeahItsKriss
    HellYeahItsKriss Posts: 906 Member
    motivation never stays for anyone, determination to keep going it what will get you there, stop expecting that new diet motivation to last the whole time and work on making your habits simply routine, you don't do the dishes only at times youre motivated to, you do the dishes because you have to or they will mold and attract bugs and eventually you will have nothing to eat on.
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,750 Member
    You've made good progress already! Get rid of all the negative self-talk. Treat yourself the way you would a friend.

    You CAN eat fast food regularly and lose weight. You just need to have smaller portions. And you should include it in your diet if that's what you enjoy otherwise eliminating things you like is too hard to sustain long term.

    Change your mindset and look at this as taking care of your overall health and not just a number on the scale. When you do reach your goal weight you'll still need to keep eating mindfully and tracking calories so the sooner you make it a habit the better.
  • Athena98501
    Athena98501 Posts: 716 Member
    If you can't see anything good about yourself, it goes much deeper than food, and it would help to address that. There are people who punish themselves by keeping themselves overweight (not saying that's you, but it might be something to think about). There are also people who keep themselves overweight to keep other people at arms length. There are many reasons we do these things, on a subconscious level, and many of them are rooted in trouble with self-esteem. People who care about themselves and their health as they should are more likely to have the self-motivation required to take charge of their health, and make choices to give their bodies what they need to benefit their health.

    You deserve better. You deserve to be healthy. You deserve to feel good. You need to want to do this for yourself. There's no other way to get there.
  • jessiferrrb
    jessiferrrb Posts: 1,758 Member
    i agree that motivation is fleeting and habits are what carries me through the rough days. but, when i feel like i just need a quick pick me up i visit the success stories thread

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1167854/photo-only-success-stories

    and the non scale victories thread

    https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1275030/whats-your-most-recent-nsv/p1

    honestly, so many success stories on here say something like "if i can do it anyone can" or "i didn't think i'd ever be able to do it" and the element they all have in common is that they just did it. despite the self doubt and the rough days and the stalls. they just kept doing it.
  • ttreit
    ttreit Posts: 59 Member
    Make a healthy change and do it religiously for 30 days no matter what. At the end of the 30 days you can completely dump it if it doesn't suit you.

    If you're sleep isn't perfect that'd be my first recommendation. Get 8 hours every night for 30 days.
  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    You eat really bad now, but what's the alternative? Just as bad? If so, why? Were you undereating? Did you force youself to eat strange food, or at strange times? Did you deprive yourself of foods you like? Couldn't there be a better alternative? How would that be?

    Many of us have (had) thoughts like you have, "eating bad food I know I shouldn’t". Demonizing foods we like, makes us overeat. Then we feel bad, and overeat to make that feeling, as well as the "bad" foods, go away.

    Your diet is just what you eat. You can lose weight eating anything. You can gain eating anything, too. Of course a healthy diet is good for you, but a healthy diet also makes you feel good.
  • tuolon
    tuolon Posts: 107 Member
    You are not a failure. It's only food. You need food for energy. Don't put to much emphasis about what you did wrong. Don't feel bad about it. Feel good about what you accomplished. Your self esteme should not be determined by food. You are such a pretty girl. Maybe you could take a break on focusing on food and come back to it later when it doesn't stress you out. Or focus on exercise and walking instead of food deprevation.
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