at what point can you predict if you are going to have loose skin?
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I am not sure why did you guys assume that I am going to stop losing weight because of my fear of having loose skin.
Of course I am going to be sad if I ended up having loose skin, I am pretty sure no one in the world loves his/her loose skin.
I am not going to stop , but I hope that at the end of this process I won't end up with too much loose skin, that's it.
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I don't think you're going to stop.. my concern is.. youre going to hit goal and go from being unhappy over weight, to being unhappy at a healthy weight..
I am a five foot 3 female.. I weighed just over 300 pounds at my heaviest. I had been morbidly obese my entire life.
I lost 165 pounds and this is what i ended up with
I did not end up with a flat belly like every weight loss commercial and magazine.
My thighs were huge when i was big, as a result the front and back of my legs ended up with loose skin.
Not pictured was my upper arms that had a lot of wrinkles where my bat wings were.
I am going to share something with you that i wrote Sept 1 2016HellYeahItsKriss wrote: »The person standing in this mirror right now is having a really hard time accepting the person i have been left with. I am disgusting. The remains of my 300 pound fat self still clings to my body, it sickens me. Why did i end up looking like a melted grotesque monster?
Being morbidly obese for 29 years has left me with loose skin that only surgery can remove, toning will not improve this mess i have been left with.
People always tell me i look great.. but try seeing what i see every time i look in the mirror.. truth is, without clothes on to hide myself i look like a 90 year old woman.
It's embarrassing, disheartening and no amount of effort I can put in will fix this train wreck i ended up with. The end result is not always a happy ending. Disney movies lie.
That is deep raw hatred that i felt and thought and degraded myself with every single day after my weight loss..
29 years of verbal, mental, emotional, physical and sexual abuse from family, kids growing up and even adults in my 20's all centered around the fact that i was fat and i just continued on with it after putting in 2 solid years of effort of finally taking it off.
I spent every day insecure, unhappy and pissed off. I did not enjoy a single day, I did not appreciate a single day. I did not appreciate the effort i put in. I let it take over my mind to a point where I questioned why i even bothered to take the weight off if that was the result i got.
I want you to see that you are right in the respect that loose skin, its not something people are over joyed about.. But.. when my Binge eating disorder started getting out of control around April this year.. I put on 50 pounds, I have been struggling to keep the gaining under control and struggling even more so to maintain another 8-9 months of deficit again to take it off. My clothes stopped fitting, I feel uncomfortable in my own skin. I am terrified of becoming 300 pounds again.
It wasn't my first time losing weight but it was my first time hitting my goal weight and being a healthy weight.
Losing some weight and regaining it is a defeating feeling but hitting goal weight and gaining has a different kind of feeling, it's almost deeper, at least to me.. with a 165 pound loss i am not even anywhere close to the size i used to be and yet this gain in weight, its left me looking back at the year i wasted hating myself as deep as i did.. You don't have to embrace it and love it.. but don't let the unhappiness of the loose skin being there take over, you probably spent enough time unhappy before, didn't you?
It left me with a better appreciation for what i had. When i regained i realized that while the loose skin was not what i was hoping for.. I would rather that and I have gone from that person who didn't see the point in losing weight to look like that to someone who can't wait to get back to that.
Once i fight with my eating disorder and regain a long term control of it again, i will get back to that and I will not waste a day with self deprecation like i did before.
We can't always imagine how our feelings could change about something we feel/felt so strongly about.. skip my step of regaining, appreciate yourself regardless the outcome.
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HellYeahItsKriss wrote: »I don't think you're going to stop.. my concern is.. youre going to hit goal and go from being unhappy over weight, to being unhappy at a healthy weight..
I am a five foot 3 female.. I weighed just over 300 pounds at my heaviest. I had been morbidly obese my entire life.
I lost 165 pounds and this is what i ended up with
I did not end up with a flat belly like every weight loss commercial and magazine.
My thighs were huge when i was big, as a result the front and back of my legs ended up with loose skin.
Not pictured was my upper arms that had a lot of wrinkles where my bat wings were.
I am going to share something with you that i wrote Sept 1 2016HellYeahItsKriss wrote: »The person standing in this mirror right now is having a really hard time accepting the person i have been left with. I am disgusting. The remains of my 300 pound fat self still clings to my body, it sickens me. Why did i end up looking like a melted grotesque monster?
Being morbidly obese for 29 years has left me with loose skin that only surgery can remove, toning will not improve this mess i have been left with.
People always tell me i look great.. but try seeing what i see every time i look in the mirror.. truth is, without clothes on to hide myself i look like a 90 year old woman.
It's embarrassing, disheartening and no amount of effort I can put in will fix this train wreck i ended up with. The end result is not always a happy ending. Disney movies lie.
That is deep raw hatred that i felt and thought and degraded myself with every single day after my weight loss..
29 years of verbal, mental, emotional, physical and sexual abuse from family, kids growing up and even adults in my 20's all centered around the fact that i was fat and i just continued on with it after putting in 2 solid years of effort of finally taking it off.
I spent every day insecure, unhappy and pissed off. I did not enjoy a single day, I did not appreciate a single day. I did not appreciate the effort i put in. I let it take over my mind to a point where I questioned why i even bothered to take the weight off if that was the result i got.
I want you to see that you are right in the respect that loose skin, its not something people are over joyed about.. But.. when my Binge eating disorder started getting out of control around April this year.. I put on 50 pounds, I have been struggling to keep the gaining under control and struggling even more so to maintain another 8-9 months of deficit again to take it off. My clothes stopped fitting, I feel uncomfortable in my own skin. I am terrified of becoming 300 pounds again.
It wasn't my first time losing weight but it was my first time hitting my goal weight and being a healthy weight.
Losing some weight and regaining it is a defeating feeling but hitting goal weight and gaining has a different kind of feeling, it's almost deeper, at least to me.. with a 165 pound loss i am not even anywhere close to the size i used to be and yet this gain in weight, its left me looking back at the year i wasted hating myself as deep as i did.. You don't have to embrace it and love it.. but don't let the unhappiness of the loose skin being there take over, you probably spent enough time unhappy before, didn't you?
It left me with a better appreciation for what i had. When i regained i realized that while the loose skin was not what i was hoping for.. I would rather that and I have gone from that person who didn't see the point in losing weight to look like that to someone who can't wait to get back to that.
Once i fight with my eating disorder and regain a long term control of it again, i will get back to that and I will not waste a day with self deprecation like i did before.
We can't always imagine how our feelings could change about something we feel/felt so strongly about.. skip my step of regaining, appreciate yourself regardless the outcome.
Thank you for sharing your experience. Wish you the best.0 -
Kris, thank you for being so open and honest. OP, I wasn't implying that you were going to stop losing weight.
I was trying to make a point about feelings regarding body image. Were you happy with how your body looked at your highest weight?
I know I never was. At least, as Kris has learned, when you lose weight and have lose skin, you might not be happy with how it looks (you're in the same position of not being happy with your body), but you've gained the sense of accomplishing something, you've gained better health, you've likely gained greater mobility, you've likely gained longevity.
I don't mean to sound Pollyanaish, but I'm someone who has lost weight in middle age, and the health impacts of losing weight have been real and meaningful. When you're younger, it's easy to focus just on appearance. When you're older, the story changes and priorities shift.7
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