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valleyvixen2018
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I am feeling very down about my weight. About 7 years ago I was almost 200 lbs...through a lot of hard work I lost 60 pounds and let it off for 4 years. It's almost all come back...mostly due to complete and tota negligence on my part. I'm an emotional eater, in an unhappy relationship with an ex soldier who has PTSD and a lot of ups and downs, (that cause so much stress). I've been tracking my food for the past three days...like an honest, no filter representation of my diet and now I feel appalled. I don't know where to start but I'm here reaching out. I'm going to be doing some heavy reorganizing of my home to get rid of all of the crap food to start. I need doable baby steps. I've done so much yo yo dieting over the last 3 years I feel like I don't even know how to eat anymore. Can anyone relate or have any words of wisdom? I'm all ears.
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You’ve come to the right place! You’ll find plenty of help here! Sending you a friend request! Xoxo. I’ve just formed a group on MFP where we focus on losing 1 Pound a Week! Join us! It’s called Lose 1 Pound a Week 2018.3
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You don't have to get rid of anything. Just eat within the calories MFP gives you, I ate half a pizza today, lol.
I'm in Toronto
Where in Ontario are you? 3 -
You have now entered a journey of a 1000 miles. It all begins with the first step............and here you are.
I am NOT an expert, but it seems to me you are doing the exact RIGHT THING. Being: You've recognized the problem. You're taking steps to resolve it.
THAT IS A GREAT START!
Please accept Jodie's friend request as she has reached out and wants to help. Did you know that if you have a partner in any diet your success rate goes up 42%? You will find many partners here.
Plus, YOU HAVE A TRACK RECORD. You have lost weight before, you can do it again.
You are going to have to exercise. I'm not saying hit the gym: I'm saying you want baby steps? Take baby steps. Housecleaning burns calories. Find time to take a 20-minute walk-it doesn't matter how far you go, just 20 minutes is 20 minutes more than you're doing now, right?
You're all ears? Listen.............7 -
valleyvixen2018 wrote: »I am feeling very down about my weight. About 7 years ago I was almost 200 lbs...through a lot of hard work I lost 60 pounds and let it off for 4 years. It's almost all come back...mostly due to complete and tota negligence on my part. I'm an emotional eater, in an unhappy relationship with an ex soldier who has PTSD and a lot of ups and downs, (that cause so much stress). I've been tracking my food for the past three days...like an honest, no filter representation of my diet and now I feel appalled. I don't know where to start but I'm here reaching out. I'm going to be doing some heavy reorganizing of my home to get rid of all of the crap food to start. I need doable baby steps. I've done so much yo yo dieting over the last 3 years I feel like I don't even know how to eat anymore. Can anyone relate or have any words of wisdom? I'm all ears.
take one day at a time one step at a time. if you are unhappy you need to figure out what to do for you to be happy and less stressed..your mental well being needs to come first. without that it will be easy to fall back into bad/old habits.stress can inhibit weight loss.so you need to find a way to deal with the stress. once you get those things under control then work on your weight loss. trying to deal with everything all at once is a lot and its going to be hard. you can try to switch out say one bad thing with one good thing a week, or get rid of it altogether IF you cant control eating that thing(say cookies).if you can control it then cut down on the things you are overeating on. it doesnt really matter what foods you eat if you overeat you gain,doesnt matter if its healthy or junk food.
Being under stress can cause you to emotionally overeat,but Im sure you know that.can the two of you seek counseling,or even you alone? is the relationship worth staying in if you get help? or is it so damaged that you know if you dont get out that your mental state will be worse than it is now? you have to look at the things making you emotional and want to over eat. you can also keep a journal when you get emotional and write down how you feel and why . when stressed if able you can always get some exercise in or just go take a walk or something. mediation can help too. you can still eat what you like just less of it to lose weight.
stress can cause a lot of issues so thats the first thing I would work on2 -
Starting is the most important thing. I started by planning what to eat for the day, recording it in my food diary, and sticking with the plan no matter what. Later I was able to make better decisions about what to eat. Also on day one I sought a way to be active and later added more exercise. 1
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You are indeed in the right place! I have done plenty of yo yo-ing myself, in spite of having been at goal TWICE in the last four years. This time determined to get there and stay there. That means food can't be my go-to comfort - because for me, it's about numbing the feelings and the lacks within by stuffing in more than I need and not having to count. That is the behavior that doesn't work for me today.
I can eat as much as I want of some things, and some of anything I want .... I just can't eat as much as I want of anything I want. Some days are harder than others, and this community here is the only thing that keeps it working for me.
Sending you a friend request, you are not alone!1 -
Iwantahealthierme30 wrote: »You don't have to get rid of anything. Just eat within the calories MFP gives you, I ate half a pizza today, lol.
I'm in Toronto Where in Ontario are you?
I'm in eastern Ontario...up in the Ottawa Valley...little village called Wilno.
Thank you @jodiecrandall for reaching out...1 lb a week is a good goal for now. I actually have a gym membership as I'm back in college full time...my 20 yr old classmates exercise with me a few times each week, but I out eat any calories I might otherwise lose.
@TheHawk007 20 minutes is doable and I certainly am not active enough that's for sure. Your words will push me out that door tomorrow.
I seriously was in denial...I blamed my weight gain on all sorts of stuff out of my control, but here it is staring me in the face...this is my fault completely.
@CharlieBeansmomTracey my past year with my partner has been exceptionally stressful...I can see that I'm using food as a coping mechanism and I definately need some help. He refuses to do therapy together, but there is help for spouses of folks dealing with PTSD and I should seek them out. To his credit he is doing his own work, but dealing with him when he is emotional is exhausting. I think it's time to focus on me and my health...hopefully a shift in physical health will inevitably lead to a mental state that is more capable of handing the stress. Oh life eh??!! Wish things could be easy!
Thank you for taking the time. I'm truly grateful
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If you are in the gym, congrats! That is ANOTHER positive step! You are winning and don't even know it! Since you are back in college, time is of the essence. Obviously, walking for 12 hours would burn more calories, but nobody on planet Earth wants to do that. So, make your 20 minutes on a treadmill count! See how far you go in 20 minutes, and try to increase that by even a tenth of a mile. Don't blame yourself. Congratulate yourself on a new direction. Accept bright resolve's friend request.1
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Ok, you know how to lose weight and more importantly you know how to keep it off. Work on doing that again.
Where you dropped the ball is when you stopped tracking your weight. Put the emotions aside; they're not going to serve you well. Put a plan in place and get the weight off sensibly.
Here's the big thing for you: set up a weight trending app - Libra, Happy Scale, or Trend Weight are all good. Use it to keep an eye on your progress over time.
Once you reach your weight goal use the trend line so you can tell when your weight starts to creep up out of a range (you can decide later what that range needs to be) start pulling back on your calorie intake until it comes back into range.
This will go so far in prevent a large weight increase. You'll know within a few pounds when you're getting off track and can course correct much sooner.
Of course, it's on you to actually track your weight so it doesn't get out of hand again. Life is always going to throw curves at you. The trick is to stay on track anyway.
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valleyvixen2018 wrote: »Iwantahealthierme30 wrote: »You don't have to get rid of anything. Just eat within the calories MFP gives you, I ate half a pizza today, lol.
I'm in Toronto Where in Ontario are you?
I'm in eastern Ontario...up in the Ottawa Valley...little village called Wilno.
Thank you @jodiecrandall for reaching out...1 lb a week is a good goal for now. I actually have a gym membership as I'm back in college full time...my 20 yr old classmates exercise with me a few times each week, but I out eat any calories I might otherwise lose.
@TheHawk007 20 minutes is doable and I certainly am not active enough that's for sure. Your words will push me out that door tomorrow.
I seriously was in denial...I blamed my weight gain on all sorts of stuff out of my control, but here it is staring me in the face...this is my fault completely.
@CharlieBeansmomTracey my past year with my partner has been exceptionally stressful...I can see that I'm using food as a coping mechanism and I definately need some help. He refuses to do therapy together, but there is help for spouses of folks dealing with PTSD and I should seek them out. To his credit he is doing his own work, but dealing with him when he is emotional is exhausting. I think it's time to focus on me and my health...hopefully a shift in physical health will inevitably lead to a mental state that is more capable of handing the stress. Oh life eh??!! Wish things could be easy!
Thank you for taking the time. I'm truly grateful
you are welcome and I hope you get things sorted and on track.0 -
Just wanted to offer my sympathy and support. My father was a soldier, I'm married to an ex soldier, it can be difficult. Reach out for all the help you can get in your family and community.
If you're eating because you're unhappy, it's vital for your success not to try to deprive yourself of the pleasure you get from food. Figure out low calorie and healthy foods that make you happy. For me it's cinnamon almond milk lattes with dark chocolate. Herbal teas. Good lean meats like marinated chicken and pork tenderloin. It can take a little more time and effort to have healthy stuff on hand until you get used to it, but once you have a routine it's not much harder to eat good food than junk food - of course, you can also eat smaller portions of junk, but the problem for me with junk is that it's not satisfying unless you eat way too many calories!
Wishing you luck on your journey.1 -
Hey cat, where you at?0
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You can join us, or keep crying...what do you want in your life?-1
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TheHawk007 wrote: »You can join us, or keep crying...what do you want in your life?
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The first thing you should do is recognize that you are a pretty lady with skills. You do not need an ex-soldier with PTSD! You need positive things in your life. Take it from someone who has lived with a wife who is not helpful at all and in my opinion has contributed to my weight. It's my fault, but you are are young enough to change your life. Loosing 60 pounds is not that hard if you stay consistant. I life the YouTube video from "Butter Bob" look him up it works. I am 62 years old male from the Airzona and know one thing, low carb under 20 grams works, negative people or people with problems will delay or prevent your weight loss or happeness in life. START LIVING, throw out the trash, carb food and than ex-Soldier. Spring will be here soon and new life will be starting to grow, and so should you.0
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By the way the picture is of my dog who is also a little overweight 2 lbs. but she has been the comfort of my life. Loosing weight has been much easier with her at a my side. 0
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IMO, one of the very first things you should do is consult with a therapist. I can't tell you how many female clients that I've had that have done so much better when I mention they consult with a therapist to help with the mental aspect of self improvement along with the physical improvement.valleyvixen2018 wrote: »I am feeling very down about my weight. About 7 years ago I was almost 200 lbs...through a lot of hard work I lost 60 pounds and let it off for 4 years. It's almost all come back...mostly due to complete and tota negligence on my part. I'm an emotional eater, in an unhappy relationship with an ex soldier who has PTSD and a lot of ups and downs, (that cause so much stress). I've been tracking my food for the past three days...like an honest, no filter representation of my diet and now I feel appalled. I don't know where to start but I'm here reaching out. I'm going to be doing some heavy reorganizing of my home to get rid of all of the crap food to start. I need doable baby steps. I've done so much yo yo dieting over the last 3 years I feel like I don't even know how to eat anymore. Can anyone relate or have any words of wisdom? I'm all ears.
You likely know how to work hard. It's the other stuff that's attributed to your weight regain.
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