Kinda Upset...

Saksgirl1
Saksgirl1 Posts: 248
edited September 30 in Motivation and Support
I didn't realize how much I really have been alienating my "friends" until tonight. I've been so focused on working out and eating healthy that I really haven't payed much attention to people I thought were "friends!"

Tonight was no exception! I went to the gym at 10pm... around midnight I went to grab my keys to leave and my car completely didn't start. Well being alone outside at midnight is a little scary. I went inside and asked random people if they had jumper cables.... unfortunately it was to no avail.

I called my roadside assistance who never showed up (by the way!), but as I'm waiting I posted on facebook about being stranded and asking if there was anyone (who wasn't drunk) who could help me! It's really sad, 2 people responded - which I wasn't expecting a lot more than that on the Friday night before school starts back! But both of the people are people I haven't seen since high school! One of them actually told me he was getting dressed and he'd be there in 5 minutes!

Luckily I didn't need him, some guy ended up calling his roommate to come jump my car... there were some really nice people at the gym tonight.

What does that really say about my "so-called current friends?" Am I too focused on being healthy that I've lost all of them?

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  • aippolito1
    aippolito1 Posts: 4,894 Member
    If focusing on YOU GETTING HEALTHY loses you friends, they're not true friends. Don't beat yourself up about it.
  • lsd007
    lsd007 Posts: 435
    Maybe your friends just weren't on Facebook at the time. I am not right now. If my friend needed jumper cables and posted it as a status...I wouldn't even know about it.
  • aa1440
    aa1440 Posts: 956 Member
    Not trying to sound mean but, you should ask your friends. How understanding are they about your weight loss journey? Or maybe they do feel that you have abandoned them. You will never know until you ask them.

    P.S. Thank God there are nice people in this world. There is nothing worse than being stranded with no one to help.
  • abcerc
    abcerc Posts: 58
    It doesn't sound like you are the problem. I think when we're in need is when we find out who our true friends are.
  • rikisue206
    rikisue206 Posts: 99 Member
    True friends would not only understand, but they would support you and maybe even go on the work out journey with you. If they are true friends they will be there when you are ready to pick up more of your social life. Do sweat it!
  • ♚SuperHeather♚
    ♚SuperHeather♚ Posts: 118
    I wouldn't be upset. Some times we all have to take "ME" time! Weather it be 30 mins or 3 years. You are focused on your goals and true friends would find a way to ALWAYS be there for you no matter what!
  • Saksgirl1
    Saksgirl1 Posts: 248
    It doesn't sound like you are the problem. I think when we're in need is when we find out who our true friends are.

    Yes... it's the people who we haven't seen since 1996? :)
  • fitnessjen9
    fitnessjen9 Posts: 9 Member
    arielle0489 is right. They should be supportive and understanding of you.
  • em1976
    em1976 Posts: 119 Member
    Some friends (I find)can last a lifetime,others pass through depending on where you are at any given moment in your life.We have childhood friends,then ones to party with,then parenthood can step in,gym friends etc.Some carry through from one lifestyle(i spose you could say)to another,others enrich your life for a small time.

    Being healthy,going to the gym,losing weight(which is a lifestyle change) can put off some who choose to not focus on the healthier aspects of life:)If a person is lazy,drinks alot,cares little for their weight last thing they want to hear is how motivated,healthy and aware of yourself you are!Is one reason,could be countless others.

    In my opinion and its just an opinion,if you have chosen a goal for yourself,Strive for that goal.Balance what you can,friends and gym as long as the balance is healthy and you don't overdo it,the friends that are true ones will remain when your done.Those that didn't.well perhaps they were there at a time in your life when you needed each other.
  • av8rblond
    av8rblond Posts: 140
    That is awful..so sorry to hear that and thankful it turned out better for you. Being stranded can be scary. As for your friends..maybe they are jealous of your rockin bod? lol
  • Nana_Anne
    Nana_Anne Posts: 179 Member
    just out of curiousity...you called roadside assistance. How come you didn't call a friend? I don't check FB and I notice alot of my kids and grandkids even aren't on as much either. So, if someone posted on FB they needed help I would be clueless. But now if someone calls me, especially in the middle of the night (which they have) I have been there. Maybe this is just me but I would ask my friends before assuming and write them off. I still don't get why can't you call them even if you were to wake them?
  • TropicalKitty
    TropicalKitty Posts: 2,298 Member
    it's true, you learn who your friends are in through these situations.

    But really, you posted it on FB! What did you expect? If you needed help, why not contact them directly? You already acknowledged that it's Friday night, so why would you expect people to be hanging on fb this late. (unless they can't sleep like me... *sigh*)

    One thing I realized in my life has been that it's not completely others. Sometimes we push them out by what we do. I was wondering why I never heard from some of my friends very often and I realized that I had told them enough times that I was busy or things were too late for me. So they've stopped asking.

    I do give you props on focusing on your health! And that's lame about the roadside assistance. I'd complain.
  • sknopps
    sknopps Posts: 166
    If focusing on YOU GETTING HEALTHY loses you friends, they're not true friends. Don't beat yourself up about it.

    this.
  • Saksgirl1
    Saksgirl1 Posts: 248
    To answer that question... that was my point of the original post. After finding out that no one in the gym had jumper cables, I called my "friends" who were so drunk (or annoyed that I've been so focused on me lately), that they didn't answer. That was when I posted on facebook and actually saw who my real friends are (people I haven't seen since 96!)
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