Cutting Wedding Costs

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  • Bekah7482
    Bekah7482 Posts: 246 Member
    Thank you all for your suggestions.

    This is really the only thing that me and my fiance dont 100% agree on. My fiance is very traditional and wants to have a full wedding. I am not at all traditional and dont care if we never get married as long as we are happy. I live in California where everything is insanely expensive so even finding a venue under $10k has been a struggle.

    We have a friend doing our photography for free, I found a girl who does baking out of her house that makes amazing cakes for cheap, we are DIYing our own decorations, no wedding favors since i know no one will use them, etc.

    I was so close to convincing my fiance to go to the courthouse and use our money for our house and a really nice honeymoon, but he really wants the wedding so I will pull out some tricks so that he gets his wedding and I dont feel so bad about how much money we are spending.
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    Bekah7482 wrote: »
    Thank you all for your suggestions.

    This is really the only thing that me and my fiance dont 100% agree on. My fiance is very traditional and wants to have a full wedding. I am not at all traditional and dont care if we never get married as long as we are happy. I live in California where everything is insanely expensive so even finding a venue under $10k has been a struggle.

    We have a friend doing our photography for free, I found a girl who does baking out of her house that makes amazing cakes for cheap, we are DIYing our own decorations, no wedding favors since i know no one will use them, etc.

    I was so close to convincing my fiance to go to the courthouse and use our money for our house and a really nice honeymoon, but he really wants the wedding so I will pull out some tricks so that he gets his wedding and I dont feel so bad about how much money we are spending.

    If your fiance wants it bigger then your fiance should be doing the work of making his style of wedding happen not you. Sit him down and make him take on the lion share of planning, budgeting, finding a venue and maybe he'd scale down his ideas.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Bekah7482 wrote: »
    I am actually looking for some real suggestions on cutting wedding costs.

    Don't do ANYTHING through companies that specialize or focus on weddings.

    Keg at store - $90
    Keg at reception hall - $200

    Cake at normal store - $100
    Cake at wedding store - $500

    Takeout from good restaurant - $15 to $20
    Catering from wedding company - $25+ per plate, two choice of chicken or beef. Both geriatric.

    You get the drift.

    The more you can do yourself the better. We've done plenty as backyard family parties with everyone bringing a dish and drinks.


  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    Civil court.

    My sister got married on Feb 14 at the County Justice Of The Peace office.
    Four years later, she divorced that bum.

    Three years later, she married again on Feb 14 at the County Justice Of The Peace office.
    She didn't invite guests to either marriage. The second one has lasted 40+ years. It works as well as an overpaid social splash.
  • Bekah7482
    Bekah7482 Posts: 246 Member
    _barefoot_ wrote: »
    wow ... usually it's the woman that wants all the bells and whistles not the man .
    Big wedding are just a show off , everyone forgets at the end of the day , but you are left with a huge bill .

    You are smart use the money for the house or honeymoon .

    We are a total role reversal when it comes to weddings. I am totally fine with eloping, he wants a damn parade with me coming in on a carriage with fireworks lol. It's funny when I talk about the wedding because I totally sound like a dude complaining about my wife going overboard.
  • Bekah7482
    Bekah7482 Posts: 246 Member
    Lounmoun wrote: »
    Bekah7482 wrote: »
    Thank you all for your suggestions.

    This is really the only thing that me and my fiance dont 100% agree on. My fiance is very traditional and wants to have a full wedding. I am not at all traditional and dont care if we never get married as long as we are happy. I live in California where everything is insanely expensive so even finding a venue under $10k has been a struggle.

    We have a friend doing our photography for free, I found a girl who does baking out of her house that makes amazing cakes for cheap, we are DIYing our own decorations, no wedding favors since i know no one will use them, etc.

    I was so close to convincing my fiance to go to the courthouse and use our money for our house and a really nice honeymoon, but he really wants the wedding so I will pull out some tricks so that he gets his wedding and I dont feel so bad about how much money we are spending.

    If your fiance wants it bigger then your fiance should be doing the work of making his style of wedding happen not you. Sit him down and make him take on the lion share of planning, budgeting, finding a venue and maybe he'd scale down his ideas.

    He has been part of every step in our planning but if I handed all the planning over to him he would spend all our money lol. I am controlling the budget so he doesn't overspend. We went hiking at this one place and I told him it would be a beautiful place for a wedding. The venue alone was $20k and now he wants to go with that venue because it will "make me happy". Ummm.....i just made a comment, I would never spend that much on a wedding.
  • fdhunt1
    fdhunt1 Posts: 222 Member
    Buy a pair of Nikes ($80.00 ) & run like hell! Cheapest wedding ever.
  • notsolittledebi
    notsolittledebi Posts: 5 Member
    Hi, I would like to call myself an expert on cheap weddings, as mine cost about $200 including the license, and I didn't have to cut ANYTHING out entirely. Here are tips I used:

    Ask a friend to take pictures instead of a professional and don't get real flowers for ANYTHIG (except your bouquet if it's really important to you) (I made my own out of $9 worth of fake flowers, and some ribbon)

    Some churches are willing to hold and officiate weddings for free, but normally only if you or a family member belong to that church.

    Don't blow your budget on a dress, try to find second hand boutiques or good sales. Even look at other options like Amazon or a mall and get creative! You could easily get a white cocktail dress and a long tulle skirt to go over it, then take off for the reception, making it 2 dresses in one! And don't blow money on shoes either. A cute pair of white heels could be as low as $10 and you could always add rhinestones yourself.

    Don't blow money on a cake either! Cheapest way to go is get a small one layer round pretty decorated cake for the bride and groom, and then just one or two large sheet cakes for the guests.

    Don't serve alcohol. You may want it but it's SO expensive. Also a buffet is cheaper than individual meals because you can mix expensive foods with cheap ones.

    You may big big on DIY projects, or you may not. But decorations are a thousand times cheaper if you make them yourself. A bolt of tulle is around $10 and could successfully decorate at least 25 chairs. By simply tying it around the back and into a bow.

    Hope at least some of this helped!
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    I bought my dress at David's bridal, lol. Didn't bother with fancy haircut or make up, or flowers. We just had a wedding at a church, nothing fancy, then went to a restaurant for dinner, didn't bother with music or any of that stuff. But it was easier/cheaper to get a room at the inn and pay for a meal for everyone than having to rent a venue and pay for catering/entertainment/decorations. We did buy a cake.

    Also didn't have a honeymoon.


    My first wedding ages ago, we just had a party in parents backyard with buffet food after the ceremony, and finished with dinner with family at my inlaws.

    I HATE being the center of interest so that really worked well for us, no bridesmaids, toast and all that stuff...
  • LiftingRiot
    LiftingRiot Posts: 6,946 Member
    Midget Elvis is worth every penny.... pony up
  • emjay6x3
    emjay6x3 Posts: 213 Member
    I love wedding stuff, so I'm just here to be nosy.

    Congratulations on your engagement. :smile:
  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    fdhunt1 wrote: »
    Buy a pair of Nikes ($80.00 ) & run like hell! Cheapest wedding ever.

    I am with @lstrat115 and @fdhunt1
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  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    fdhunt1 wrote: »
    Buy a pair of Nikes ($80.00 ) & run like hell! Cheapest wedding ever.

    I am with @lstrat115 and @fdhunt1

    Will you marry me? Then divorce me? Then date me on the side?

    Can we just fast forward to the part where I get half your paycheck?
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  • caco_ethes
    caco_ethes Posts: 11,962 Member
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    caco_ethes wrote: »
    lstrat115 wrote: »
    fdhunt1 wrote: »
    Buy a pair of Nikes ($80.00 ) & run like hell! Cheapest wedding ever.

    I am with @lstrat115 and @fdhunt1

    Will you marry me? Then divorce me? Then date me on the side?

    Can we just fast forward to the part where I get half your paycheck?

    Done. How much is half of nothing?

    More than nothing, I know that much.
  • mram3582
    mram3582 Posts: 2,482 Member
    I got married at a state park for free and then we had a big picnic. I made a lot of the food myself and then my close relatives also brought some dishes. Total cost for 50 people was under $400
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