I'm Feeling some kind of weigh right now. I NEED SOME MOTIVA

michaelynj
michaelynj Posts: 29
edited September 30 in Motivation and Support
I'm sitting here watching HEAVY on netflix and I'm getting kinda emotional. Its good seeing them lose weight, but I wish I can do the same and whats getting me kinda depressed is that they have a buddy motivating them. I wish I had that but most of the people I know aren't motivated. Its easier said then done, but when it comes to finding someone to work out consistently, I don't have anyone. I'm afraid I might relapse again. Of course its about me losing weight, but its always good having a friend along for the ride. Any suggestions??????

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  • AnneGenevieveS
    AnneGenevieveS Posts: 441 Member
    I know how you feel. *hug*
  • Jade_Butterfly
    Jade_Butterfly Posts: 2,963 Member
    I'm sitting here watching HEAVY on netflix and I'm getting kinda emotional. Its good seeing them lose weight, but I wish I can do the same and whats getting me kinda depressed is that they have a buddy motivating them. I wish I had that but most of the people I know aren't motivated. Its easier said then done, but when it comes to finding someone to work out consistently, I don't have anyone. I'm afraid I might relapse again. Of course its about me losing weight, but its always good having a friend along for the ride. Any suggestions??????

    Well I would recommend joining a team challenge if you need a boost in your weightloss. . Then you have others to converse with that are also after the same goal. . . Whatever that may be. . . Good luck with your weightloss journey.:smile:
  • aprilgrl27
    aprilgrl27 Posts: 176 Member
    I know how you feel but I think you and I both realize that we need to do it on our own. Don't count on anyone else. Take care of you. I know easier said that done, but in the end, you are the only one will do that. I'm trying to get used to this fact myself. Best of luck to you :)
  • taso42_DELETED
    taso42_DELETED Posts: 3,394 Member
    To really succeed it has to come from you, from within. Buddies sure do help motivate, but success or failure ultimately depends on you. There are plenty of motivating and inspiring people here on MFP that you can buddy up with and get some virtual support. That's a huge bonus. But start out by being your own cheerleader. Visualize your goal and work toward it every day.
  • TruckerChick
    TruckerChick Posts: 263
    I use my dog as my exercise buddy. Of course, it helps that she really, really likes taking walks in the evening... so much so that she bugs me when I don't feel like walking ... so in essence, she is MAKING me take my walk!!! If you don't have one, and can afford it... a dog is a great workout partner!!

    Just a thought.
  • aprilgrl27
    aprilgrl27 Posts: 176 Member
    *i meant you and I both NEED to realize....
  • Janie5605
    Janie5605 Posts: 182 Member
    I'm in a similar place. I just moved away from home so have NO ONE to work out with....asking the other wives here on base to work out with me if just weird after only hanging out a couple times. My best friend back home WAS my motivational friend and we were doing this together but now it just feels like I'm dragging her along via AIM and Skype forcing her to feel guilty for the cupcake she just ate. I have always relapsed on diets. ALWAYS. I'm only 25% of the way there (YAY!) but I know the difference this time around...MFP. I've gotten so much support here I'm working out on my own (something id never have done before) you can do this. I have faith in you. Its more fun to have a weight loss buddy but once you start doing it yourself you'll feel so much better about yourself and it wont feel like a big deal...because i know how big a deal it feels like right now.

    You can do this even without people right next to you. We here at MFP are all with you rooting for you.
  • JessLacheta
    JessLacheta Posts: 8
    Im in the same boat. I watch biggest loser and my fiance's like why are you watching that. For inspiration if anything.
    None of my friends are my size, my own mother is slimmer than me oh and fiancee too. I feel embarassed. So embarassed that i work out the the 'ladies' section of the gym, although sometimes its just nicer to be quiet.
    Needless to say i feel noone understands what im going through. But everyone on here has their own story. If you need a pick me up, just add me and i'll kick ur *kitten* to the gym, or for a walk or to pick up that apple instead of........ We all need motivation, mine is that one day (hopefully my wedding day) i will be a confident young women who people will oooo and aaa at :)
    Also, a good trick, have you got a dress you used to wear that no longer fits? If not, buy one thats too small.... then, week by week you'll be hang on lemme see, lemme see and before you know it bam, oh well look at me! I went to a shop recently and fit into a size i havent properly for a while (not ideal size mind you) and zipped up and i was like hmmm keep going.
    You are going to have a crap day for sure, it will happen, but sometimes those days come so that the next will be more rewarding. Does my ramble make any sense? Im sorry if it doesnt. Just wanted you to know you are not alone!
    Jx
  • TruckerChick
    TruckerChick Posts: 263
    And Yeah!!! What Janie said!!!! :happy: :bigsmile:
  • JessLacheta
    JessLacheta Posts: 8
    Alternatively join boot camps, they do them in parks and you have to work in pairs (so meet new people)
    Jx
  • michaelynj
    michaelynj Posts: 29
    I know how you feel but I think you and I both realize that we need to do it on our own. Don't count on anyone else. Take care of you. I know easier said that done, but in the end, you are the only one will do that. I'm trying to get used to this fact myself. Best of luck to you :)

    I understand that I have to do it on my own, but I always fail worse than me having a partner. I'm trying, I exercise 6 days a week and end up not finishing an exercise. I'm feeling bad afterwards and its getting to the point of giving up
  • JessLacheta
    JessLacheta Posts: 8
    I understand that I have to do it on my own, but I always fail worse than me having a partner. I'm trying, I exercise 6 days a week and end up not finishing an exercise. I'm feeling bad afterwards and its getting to the point of giving up


    Dont give up. What you need is some music! Or try something different. Maybe the reason you're giving up is too hard too soon, or bored? Can you spend some money on a trainer? Or try a class instead?
  • michaelynj
    michaelynj Posts: 29
    Im in the same boat. I watch biggest loser and my fiance's like why are you watching that. For inspiration if anything.
    None of my friends are my size, my own mother is slimmer than me oh and fiancee too. I feel embarassed. So embarassed that i work out the the 'ladies' section of the gym, although sometimes its just nicer to be quiet.
    Needless to say i feel noone understands what im going through. But everyone on here has their own story. If you need a pick me up, just add me and i'll kick ur *kitten* to the gym, or for a walk or to pick up that apple instead of........ We all need motivation, mine is that one day (hopefully my wedding day) i will be a confident young women who people will oooo and aaa at :)
    Also, a good trick, have you got a dress you used to wear that no longer fits? If not, buy one thats too small.... then, week by week you'll be hang on lemme see, lemme see and before you know it bam, oh well look at me! I went to a shop recently and fit into a size i havent properly for a while (not ideal size mind you) and zipped up and i was like hmmm keep going.
    You are going to have a crap day for sure, it will happen, but sometimes those days come so that the next will be more rewarding. Does my ramble make any sense? Im sorry if it doesnt. Just wanted you to know you are not alone!
    Jx

    One of the reasons I stop going to the gym is that I feel discouraged around skinnier people and I hate watching fitness commercials. If its not for MFP I would say forget it. I appreciate all of the comments
  • michaelynj
    michaelynj Posts: 29
    Dont give up. What you need is some music! Or try something different. Maybe the reason you're giving up is too hard too soon, or bored? Can you spend some money on a trainer? Or try a class instead?

    Right now I do not have a car and that would be nice to head to a gym
  • JessLacheta
    JessLacheta Posts: 8
    You need to go to a gym that YOU feel comfortable in, so its like your second home.
    I did an essay on it at university.
    If you dont feel comfortable you wont succeed, not because you dont have the motivation but the gym gives you nothing in return.
    Personally, when i see bigger than me people at a gym i smile at them because a) know how they feel b) give them credit for trying, but i know what you mean. I HATE the feeling of being judged by smaller and thinner people.

    This is brave of you to admit by the way. But maybe we can help you to gain some more confidence and find the root of the problem - i.e. the current gym you are at.

    So back to my original question, can you find another gym??
  • marleneakameme
    marleneakameme Posts: 9
    I am the opposite, I don't want a buddy to actually workout with physically, but as far as motivators, positive supporters and circles of influences to hold me accountable to a degree, that I want and need. I will help you in that way if it will help. But if there is no one in direct contact for you, stand firm in goal, they will come as they see you changing. They are not in a place to change yet, you will be a leader. You already are, you just havent seen it yet. Remember there is always someone looking/ watching you, as a role model. Hope this helps. I am going to request you as a friend.
  • Painten
    Painten Posts: 499 Member
    Dont give up. What you need is some music! Or try something different. Maybe the reason you're giving up is too hard too soon, or bored? Can you spend some money on a trainer? Or try a class instead?

    Right now I do not have a car and that would be nice to head to a gym


    What you really need to do is stop making excuses to yourself. Something i'm all too familiar with myself. You are doing this for YOU. Yes i'd imagine a buddy would make it easier but a buddy isn't the one that ultimately has to get their *kitten* moving, that is you and you CAN do it on your own or not. Something i have to tell myself all the time, looks like you could do with telling yourself too.
  • JessLacheta
    JessLacheta Posts: 8
    What you really need to do is stop making excuses to yourself. Something i'm all too familiar with myself. You are doing this for YOU. Yes i'd imagine a buddy would make it easier but a buddy isn't the one that ultimately has to get their *kitten* moving, that is you and you CAN do it on your own or not. Something i have to tell myself all the time, looks like you could do with telling yourself too.
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    Ditto!
  • michaelynj
    michaelynj Posts: 29
    I am the opposite, I don't want a buddy to actually workout with physically, but as far as motivators, positive supporters and circles of influences to hold me accountable to a degree, that I want and need. I will help you in that way if it will help. But if there is no one in direct contact for you, stand firm in goal, they will come as they see you changing. They are not in a place to change yet, you will be a leader. You already are, you just havent seen it yet. Remember there is always someone looking/ watching you, as a role model. Hope this helps. I am going to request you as a friend.

    I appreciate it. I need all the help I can get
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