Struggles

It's wonderful that you're ready to work on your mindset. Because first you need to relearn what healthy eating is. A healthy diet is getting enough of what you need every day, and not too much of anything over time. No foods are in themselves healthy or unhealthy, you can eat anything you like in moderation. So there is no one way to eat right, there are a billion different ways to eat well. Healthy eating is a healthy diet and a healthy relationship with food: You're mindful about getting in proper nutrition, but you're also relaxed and eat what you enjoy, and enjoy what you eat. You eat too much sometimes, but you don't consistently overeat. You eat for nourishment and pleasure, not to ease emotions or chase boredom.

Demonizing foods, food groups and nutrients will not make you want them less, it will intensify your cravings. When your goal is to eat perfectly, even a lick of a banned food will mean that you've failed. Feeling of failure often, will make you want to give up. It's easy to give up. Make it as easy as possible to continue.

You can't lose a ton of weight by July this year unless you have a lot to lose. You can expect to lose up to 1% of your body weight per week if you are obese, set your calorie target properly, log correctly, and hit your calorie goal every day, never cheat, never guess, never forget, never give up. Your weight also fluctuates, so don't expect to see your loss as a straight line.

You're not supposed to starve or otherwise suffer to lose weight. When you set a reasonable calorie target and eat a varied and balanced diet, you won't feel hungry all the time. If you eat what you like, you won't feel deprived. You will be hungry before meals, and you will want to eat more and other things sometimes, but you have to learn to say no to yourself. It takes discipline, but it's easier when you're kind to yourself and give yourself what you need.