350+ pounds Support for Men & Women

@gin_rummy that’s shocking! What a dreadful thing to say to you. I’m glad you found your way here! Nobody needs a doctor like that! Well done for fighting your way past it.

pstimie79 wrote: »

leeonmcdaniel wrote: »

I've noticed not a lot of guys have commented on this thread and that kinda makes me hesitant to disclose my particular weight. However I'm young at 23 going on 24 as of end of March. My whole life I've always been bigger. In High school it was fine because I played football and it didn't seem like my weight was a issue due to always running and weight lifting in gym for conditioning. however I've been out of school since 2012 and just never kept up the strict diet and weightlifting routine I had back in the day. at this current point in my life I'm over the 350 threshold and my goal is to be down to 275. It is a lot of weight to lose but that was my weight as a senior on the offensive line and I want to get back into shape. My fiancé has started something called the military diet and she has lost 5 pounds already and I plan to stick to this diet strictly along with some excising, such as walking my dogs and such. I'm hoping that this will be a good community to be apart of and not feel so judged.

keep us in the loop my man, as this is a huge journey, its good to have all the support of youre fiancé. if indeed possible, where can we have a look at this military diet, im very curious.

pstimie79 wrote: »

leeonmcdaniel wrote: »

I've noticed not a lot of guys have commented on this thread and that kinda makes me hesitant to disclose my particular weight. However I'm young at 23 going on 24 as of end of March. My whole life I've always been bigger. In High school it was fine because I played football and it didn't seem like my weight was a issue due to always running and weight lifting in gym for conditioning. however I've been out of school since 2012 and just never kept up the strict diet and weightlifting routine I had back in the day. at this current point in my life I'm over the 350 threshold and my goal is to be down to 275. It is a lot of weight to lose but that was my weight as a senior on the offensive line and I want to get back into shape. My fiancé has started something called the military diet and she has lost 5 pounds already and I plan to stick to this diet strictly along with some excising, such as walking my dogs and such. I'm hoping that this will be a good community to be apart of and not feel so judged.

keep us in the loop my man, as this is a huge journey, its good to have all the support of youre fiancé. if indeed possible, where can we have a look at this military diet, im very curious.

she was able to find it here http://themilitarydiet.com/military-diet-plan/. we are on our second week on our 2nd day ( gonna be eating dinner as soon as I get off) but she's lost as of this morning 14 pounds on this diet and that was with us cheating Sunday night for a birthday party at a hibachi restaurant. I can say when on the 3 days when your restricted to what you eat it can be really hard especially in the beginning

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she was able to find it here http://themilitarydiet.com/military-diet-plan/. we are on our second week on our 2nd day ( gonna be eating dinner as soon as I get off) but she's lost as of this morning 14 pounds on this diet and that was with us cheating Sunday night for a birthday party at a hibachi restaurant. I can say when on the 3 days when your restricted to what you eat it can be really hard especially in the beginning [/quote]

O WOW ill have a look at it, i take it like this, every diet or life style change is a huge step, and very hard to get use to.. keep on losing those pounds

evilfairies wrote: »

I have had three different primary care doctors over the last 5 years (due to moving, not because I'm picky!) and each one of them right off the bat took one look at me and said I need weight loss surgery. My current doc told me there's no other alternative. I have low blood pressure, cholesterol, and no other health issues besides my weight, so for him to tell me there's no alternative was infuriating.

I know several people who have had surgery with great success, but I also know a couple who fell into old habits and ended up gaining their weight back anyway. You get out of it what you put into it.

yep - this infuriates me as well. Some doctors just throw WLS out there as the end all be all method of weight loss and treat it like this vast panacea and the solution to the "obesity epidemic". The truth is, its not an easy solution, it is very expensive, not all medical plans cover it, and it has its own health risks. The best doctors know this and will evaluate their patients on a case by case basic to determine if WLS is an appropriate approach for that patient instead of just tossing it up to anyone. There are some folks for whom WLS was absolutely the best thing they could have ever done for their health and for whom it was a life saving intervention. But that's not true for everyone.

thankfully, fairies, I only ever had 1 doctor tell me that and I quit seeing him because he was also one of those types of doctors who won't listen to a patient and blows them off. Those are the the kind of doctors who will take a cursory look at a patient and make a snap judgement that the complaint they are in for is because of their weight, assuming that all their health issues are due solely to their body mass, and could potentially miss something that turns out to be unrelated to the body size or at least only partly exasperated by it.

I'm like you - I had no underlying health issues whatsoever. As far as health markers were concerned - blood pressure, cholesterol levels, blood sugar - I was healthy as a horse. I was just severely obese. What I think finally clicked and got my willpower and my desire to lose weight lined back up was knowing that as I aged, the risk factors for developing heart problems and diabetes - both which are in my family - increased dramatically and would be compounded drastically by my body weight. I don't want to be diabetic!

fatoldladyonamission wrote: »

I must admit I’ve done the conversation with my doctor about having WLS. I wanted it, he didn’t want to refer me. Even though my BMI was shocking before I started doing MFP again, and probably still is! I’m kinda glad he didn’t. There’s risks with surgery and I’m a wuss. That said a friend who was a little lighter than me had it done and swears it was the best thing she ever did. She’s less than 18 post surgery though.

I figured if I can make this work then for me it’s a whole lot cheaper than WLS and possibly easier to maintain because I’m changing my lifestyle. That doesn’t mean it’s wrong for anyone else though, just that I’ve decided to give this a go. Whatever you decide I wish you well and I hope you’ll stick around and let us continue to support you.

I know folks who say the same thing, lady - that WLS was the best thing they ever did. I also know some folks who wish they hadn't done it. Like fairies said, it really is no different than any other diet approach in the long run - making it successful takes a lot of hard work!

I'm with you - I want to try to lose my excess weight on my own. I feel that it will be a better way for me, in the long run, to develop the healthy eating habits I need to sustain it in for life, and that its much easier on my health. And its definitely easier on my wallet! (though my wallet it taking a pretty good hit in the wardrobe area as all my previous clothes are now way, way too big!)

EvilFairies... I read these blogs to keep me on track, get me in a positive mood for the day & at the end of the day to keep my head & hands busy away from snacking . You are the 1st to prompt me to reply. My family is far, genuinely concerned, but don't quite "get it". Sleep wins. I'll put on my sneakers, head downstairs to feed the cats, then lay back down on the bed with sneakers on to sleep for another hour. People suggest a light walk, my knee hurts, I limp the whole way. I detest walking. Bingeing is a box, not a sleeve. I've started to get healthy at 335, the 3rd time in my life. It's possible but it SUCKS & it's hard and worse each time, age is not my friend. Down 2.5 lbs week 1. Can't look long term, weekly goals only. I am forcing myself to sit on the kitchen chair to eat. My butt hurts, my thighs fall asleep, makes me less likely to want to stay here to binge. Couch is a no-no zone. Im sharing MFP with my Mom to keep track of food. I say and hope exercise will be easier with less weight, no time or $ for gym. I've done this before.. yo-yo. Time to break the string on the down drop. I love music, so I crank it up & find I'll dance before I walk. Great videos. I have a bike... promising myself to stay motivated and try every day. One day I'll stay awake, get moving & sit in a chair without my feet falling asleep. Evil fairy.. add someone who does not judge to your friends on MFP. I GET IT, get you. My job is 24/7 365... love my job but fitting in fitness is not easy. Keep going... we can do this together.

@rabidhamster87 I'm glad you liked it. I found it really inspiring as well.

Good morning (or evening or midday) to you all! And welcome to all the new people! @Tayykisses you are absolutely welcome here!

I noticed there has been a lot of discussion on WLS over the last day or so and I wanted to throw my two cents into the bucket. My dad had his first WLS (lap band) back in 2005. He was about 600 lbs at the time. Over the next year he went from a size 64 pants to a size 44. It was phenomenal... but buy 2009 he started regaining weight. The lap band was giving him trouble, wouldn’t stay in place and he learned what foods he could eat more of. Unfortunately, those foods happen to be things like ice cream and potato chips because, while calorie dense, they don’t take up a lot of space. By 2010 he gained all of the the weight back. In 2015 he had a second surgery (gastric sleeve) he lost maybe 100 lbs but gained it all back. The problem is, he never learned how to eat right and the surgeries pretty much keep him from eating nutritious foods.

I realize that there have been many success stories with WLS, but there have been many horror stories as well. I encourage everyone who is considering it to read both sides. Doctors sell it as a miracle cure, but it is far from that.

Over here with wls on the nhs You have to do tier 3 ( which I am on) it's a 6 or 12 month program IF you complete that and loose 5%plus of your weight it can then take up to a year for the op so up to 2 years loosing 5%and maintain that weight till surgery ( then you have to see a psychatrist ) i told them i binge eat. Before the end of tier 3 (this month is month 6 ) you see thr psychatrist and have therapy so my TRIP to wls maybe a very l9ng one due to my mh priblem they have sugeeseted i do a years worth of therapy too - leaning to control my binges - I have learnt if I eat more protein I feel fuller - it's a baby step BUT it's a step. I VERY much doubt I will actually be able to loose another stone and level that for 12 month so doubt I will get the WLS so I am hoping CICO will work for me ( i went from 18 stone to 10 stone unhealthy by eating under xxx cals AND that is a bad, I wish to NEVER go down that route again)

Day 2 for me.... has been ok kept under cals and drank 2 liters of water AND green tea Xxxx