My Unhealthy Family
maxamilliond
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Ok, so this is just one example, but this happens often.
I am still 15, so i live with my dad, stepmother, and two brothers. They are completely unhealthy. And most of the time I can let them live like that and not say much, but tonight they are having brats for dinner(which THEY do alot). Most of the time I choose to not eat with them and have something healthy. Well, my stepmom said that tonight i have to eat dinner with them, and is forcing me to eat what they eat. i personally do not want a piece of meat that is 270 calories(without the bun) and 22g of fat. what should i do about them...?
I am still 15, so i live with my dad, stepmother, and two brothers. They are completely unhealthy. And most of the time I can let them live like that and not say much, but tonight they are having brats for dinner(which THEY do alot). Most of the time I choose to not eat with them and have something healthy. Well, my stepmom said that tonight i have to eat dinner with them, and is forcing me to eat what they eat. i personally do not want a piece of meat that is 270 calories(without the bun) and 22g of fat. what should i do about them...?
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you can't do anything. If they want to change, they will. I've been there, and you just eat it and move on. On days when they dont make you, you thank God.
Let's be honest. You need to gain weight. So why are we sweating this?0 -
Well if i wanted to gain weight, id want to at least do it on healthy foods..0
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Oh dear - sorry to hear your problem. My suggestion would be to try to explain to them in a reasonable and rational way the reasons why you do not want to eat this food - you never know you may help to educate them into understanding the nutritional value of food. Fingers crossed!!
What are brats by the way?? (I'm from UK)0 -
Agreed, losing or gaining weight can and should be done with healthy food. The nitrates, saturated fat, and sodium in brats is not good for anyone.0
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There are plenty of worse thing than brats out there. Fat and calories are not bad for you, especially if like the above poster said, you are trying to gain weight… eat up. If you are concerned about it, just alter the rest of your day to account for the “unhealthy” dinner.
Are your parents over-weight/obese or have other symptoms of being unhealthy?0 -
Oh dear - sorry to hear your problem. My suggestion would be to try to explain to them in a reasonable and rational way the reasons why you do not want to eat this food - you never know you may help to educate them into understanding the nutritional value of food. Fingers crossed!!
What are brats by the way?? (I'm from UK)
Brats are just....big Sausage links with waaay too much fat in them0 -
I agree with Jenn.
I really wanted to be a vegetarian when I was in high school. I loathed the idea of eating meat. I told my mom. She said, "Well, as long as you're living in my house, you'll eat what I make."
We didn't eat wildly unhealthy food (brats every once in a while, though), but it wasn't my first choice. In a few years (not far away AT ALL!), you'll be on your own making your own food choices. You'll be able to buy what you want, eat what and when you want, and you'll follow your own rules. But until then, you're in your family's home, they're buying the food, and sadly, you've got to suck it up.
With all that said, I'm 34 and have the diet of my dreams! Because my sister and I both maintain a pescatarian diet (fish only) with tons of fresh fruits and vegetables, my mom has had to adjust her cooking to OUR diets if she wants us to eat dinner at her house!
It's not too far off. Patience.0 -
I'm more concerned that you are only eating on average 600-1000 calories per day and exercising on top of that (if your food diary is accurate). Because you are only 15, you have to eat the right amount of calories because you are still growing. I understanding wanting to lose weight, I would hate for you to stunt your growth as well.
A brat every now and then isn't going to hurt your progress and it looks like you have plenty of calories to spare even with the brat figured in.0 -
There are plenty of worse thing than brats out there. Fat and calories are not bad for you, especially if like the above poster said, you are trying to gain weight… eat up. If you are concerned about it, just alter the rest of your day to account for the “unhealthy” dinner.
Are your parents over-weight/obese or have other symptoms of being unhealthy?
Sorry, but I think this is a totally irresponsible post - 'Fat (and calories) are not bad for you' - are you joking? Fat eaten excessively is extremely bad for you and 22 gms of fat is excessive. If the guy needs to put on weight it can be done by eating healthy food. Maybe you would advocate eating McD for breakfast, dinner and tea .......0 -
Well if i wanted to gain weight, id want to at least do it on healthy foods..
Been there, done that. But it's not going to kill you for one night, if you've stated you usually eat your own thing.
fit it into your macros and you'll still wake up in the morning
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There are plenty of worse thing than brats out there. Fat and calories are not bad for you, especially if like the above poster said, you are trying to gain weight… eat up. If you are concerned about it, just alter the rest of your day to account for the “unhealthy” dinner.
Are your parents over-weight/obese or have other symptoms of being unhealthy?
And yes, my Dad and one of my brothers are overweight, and my Stepmom and other brother are obese.0 -
There are plenty of worse thing than brats out there. Fat and calories are not bad for you, especially if like the above poster said, you are trying to gain weight… eat up. If you are concerned about it, just alter the rest of your day to account for the “unhealthy” dinner.
Are your parents over-weight/obese or have other symptoms of being unhealthy?
Agreed with this. Fat is a wonderful thing, especially if you exercise a lot, because it helps keep your joints working well and helps prevent overuse injuries. A dinner for a growing teenager should probably contain at least 600 calories, more if you are exercising a lot, to help fuel all of the growth, repair, and changes in your body.
Yes, there are healthier places to get your fat and calories than processed meats, but unless you are eating them every day, I wouldn't worry about it. As another poster said, you can make yourself a healthier diet when you live on your own. And hopefully that healthy diet will include adequate amounts of both calories and fat.0 -
My suggestion and the one that always worked best with my parents, offer to make dinner for the whole family. That way you all eat healthier and you don't have to worry about eating unhealthy foods but still get to spend time with your family at meal time (which I'm guessing is what your mom wants). When you don't eat what they eat and make your own food it may be insulting to whoever took the time to make the meal. It's hard cooking meals that everyone will like and it's really frustrating when you have someone that continually refuses to eat your cooking, despite your best intentions. So chin up, you will soon be cooking for youself but in the meantime try bringing them on board with your own cooking a couple times a week.0
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Well if i wanted to gain weight, id want to at least do it on healthy foods..
Been there, done that. But it's not going to kill you for one night, if you've stated you usually eat your own thing.
fit it into your macros and you'll still wake up in the morning
And thank you Jen, you always have something to say when i have a question on here (:0 -
Sorry, but I think this is a totally irresponsible post - 'Fat (and calories) are not bad for you' - are you joking? Fat eaten excessively is extremely bad for you and 22 gms of fat is excessive. If the guy needs to put on weight it can be done by eating healthy food. Maybe you would advocate eating McD for breakfast, dinner and tea .......
Well...fat and calories AREN'T bad for you, by definition. You need them to live. Like everything else, they're bad for you in EXCESS, but it's not irresponsible to say that you need to eat fat and calories. Eating one bratwurst, at 270 calories and 22g of fat isn't BAD for you. It's certainly not advisable to do it every day, no. But I don't think the above poster was making a blanket statement about it being healthy to eat them all of the time or in excess. In the context of this post, and by this particular poster, I don't think it was irresponsible to say that it's not horrible to eat fat/calories, especially if you took the time to view the posters diary, and take in to account the fact that they're 15 and still learning how to cope with food and nutrition in the proper ways in their life.0 -
There are plenty of worse thing than brats out there. Fat and calories are not bad for you, especially if like the above poster said, you are trying to gain weight… eat up. If you are concerned about it, just alter the rest of your day to account for the “unhealthy” dinner.
Are your parents over-weight/obese or have other symptoms of being unhealthy?
Sorry, but I think this is a totally irresponsible post - 'Fat (and calories) are not bad for you' - are you joking? Fat eaten excessively is extremely bad for you and 22 gms of fat is excessive. If the guy needs to put on weight it can be done by eating healthy food. Maybe you would advocate eating McD for breakfast, dinner and tea .......
22 grams of fat isn't "excessive". Again, ideally, fat would be more polyunsaturated and monounsaturated, rather than the saturated and trans fats found in processed meats. But a teenager weighing, say, 100 pounds can - and should! - consume at least 40g of fat per day.0 -
Alright, thank you to everyone who posted. I appreciate all the feedback that I got. I guess that for tonight I will just man up and eat what is given tonight. I think that starting tomorrow, I am going to try and help my family eat healthier though.0
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Sorry, but I think this is a totally irresponsible post - 'Fat (and calories) are not bad for you' - are you joking? Fat eaten excessively is extremely bad for you and 22 gms of fat is excessive. If the guy needs to put on weight it can be done by eating healthy food. Maybe you would advocate eating McD for breakfast, dinner and tea .......
Well...fat and calories AREN'T bad for you, by definition. You need them to live. Like everything else, they're bad for you in EXCESS, but it's not irresponsible to say that you need to eat fat and calories. Eating one bratwurst, at 270 calories and 22g of fat isn't BAD for you. It's certainly not advisable to do it every day, no. But I don't think the above poster was making a blanket statement about it being healthy to eat them all of the time or in excess. In the context of this post, and by this particular poster, I don't think it was irresponsible to say that it's not horrible to eat fat/calories, especially if you took the time to view the posters diary, and take in to account the fact that they're 15 and still learning how to cope with food and nutrition in the proper ways in their life.
Can you read? "Fat eaten excessively is extremely bad for you and 22 gms of fat is excessive"0 -
I'm with you. A bratt, although delicious, is far from healthy especially if it comes from the huge food factories. My son turned Vegan at age 15 and I accepted it and even learned to cooks some darn good vegan recipes. All we ever heard from family and friends was how "unhealthy" it was for him; this coming from smokers, heavy drinkers and obese folks. My take on this is that those that choose not to eat healthy want to justify their actions and rationalize it. You might just ask your family to take your diet in perspective. It's not like you are on drugs or something. There are much worse things than a kid that is exploring a healthy diet. I don't personally believe the Vegan way is the most healthy. However, it's a lot better than the average American diet. I'm sure if you were over 200 lbs you would then hear people telling you to get it under control. Good for your for taking responsibility for what you eat.0
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Your family isn't going to change if they aren't ready. You can only control your actions and reactions. Do you think you could compromise with them and say every 4th time they make brats you'll have one? And then lead by example whenever possible.0
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There are plenty of worse thing than brats out there. Fat and calories are not bad for you, especially if like the above poster said, you are trying to gain weight… eat up. If you are concerned about it, just alter the rest of your day to account for the “unhealthy” dinner.
Are your parents over-weight/obese or have other symptoms of being unhealthy?
Sorry, but I think this is a totally irresponsible post - 'Fat (and calories) are not bad for you' - are you joking? Fat eaten excessively is extremely bad for you and 22 gms of fat is excessive. If the guy needs to put on weight it can be done by eating healthy food. Maybe you would advocate eating McD for breakfast, dinner and tea .......
Fat is not the devil. The body needs fat. The body even needs *gasp* SATURATED FAT. I log nearly 90 grams every day.
And to the OP, I really hope your log is not accurate as your calories are way low.0 -
Well if i wanted to gain weight, id want to at least do it on healthy foods..
Yes, definitely!! You don't need to ruin your health while gaining or losing weight. I can't understand anyone trying to force someone to eat brats?!? That borders on abuse. It's one thing to say "this is dinner and I'm not fixing you anything else" but quite another to try and force someone to eat unhealthy food.0 -
Great advice, and, ha ha, once his family gets brown rice and veggies it would probably give them the incentive to leave him alone.0
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There are plenty of worse thing than brats out there. Fat and calories are not bad for you, especially if like the above poster said, you are trying to gain weight… eat up. If you are concerned about it, just alter the rest of your day to account for the “unhealthy” dinner.
Are your parents over-weight/obese or have other symptoms of being unhealthy?
Sorry, but I think this is a totally irresponsible post - 'Fat (and calories) are not bad for you' - are you joking? Fat eaten excessively is extremely bad for you and 22 gms of fat is excessive. If the guy needs to put on weight it can be done by eating healthy food. Maybe you would advocate eating McD for breakfast, dinner and tea .......
Fat is not the devil. The body needs fat. The body even needs *gasp* SATURATED FAT. I log nearly 90 grams every day.
And to the OP, I really hope your log is not accurate as your calories are way low.
as a matter of fact my diary is very accurate.0 -
There are plenty of worse thing than brats out there.
There are plenty of better foods than brats out there too. But the bigger point is that she doesn't want to eat it. What kind of person forces someone to eat a greasy, salty, processed hunk of junk food?0 -
There are plenty of worse thing than brats out there. Fat and calories are not bad for you, especially if like the above poster said, you are trying to gain weight… eat up. If you are concerned about it, just alter the rest of your day to account for the “unhealthy” dinner.
Are your parents over-weight/obese or have other symptoms of being unhealthy?
Sorry, but I think this is a totally irresponsible post - 'Fat (and calories) are not bad for you' - are you joking? Fat eaten excessively is extremely bad for you and 22 gms of fat is excessive. If the guy needs to put on weight it can be done by eating healthy food. Maybe you would advocate eating McD for breakfast, dinner and tea .......
Actually I eat roughly 80g of fat every day (30% of my daily caloric intake) and am losing weight and have excellent cholesterol and triglyceride levels, so maybe you should check your facts before you call me irresponsible. Saturated, mono fats, poly fats and cholesterol are not bad for you, trans fats, hydrogenation and oxidized cholesterol are what is bad for you. Are brats great? No, but it is one f’ing meal.0 -
There are plenty of worse thing than brats out there.
There are plenty of better foods than brats out there too. But the bigger point is that she doesn't want to eat it. What kind of person forces someone to eat a greasy, salty, processed hunk of junk food?
Well, unless we are all going to band together and stage a coup to overthrow the oppressive tyranny of this 15year old’s household, then that is really beyond our control.0 -
Sorry, but I think this is a totally irresponsible post - 'Fat (and calories) are not bad for you' - are you joking? Fat eaten excessively is extremely bad for you and 22 gms of fat is excessive. If the guy needs to put on weight it can be done by eating healthy food. Maybe you would advocate eating McD for breakfast, dinner and tea .......
Well...fat and calories AREN'T bad for you, by definition. You need them to live. Like everything else, they're bad for you in EXCESS, but it's not irresponsible to say that you need to eat fat and calories. Eating one bratwurst, at 270 calories and 22g of fat isn't BAD for you. It's certainly not advisable to do it every day, no. But I don't think the above poster was making a blanket statement about it being healthy to eat them all of the time or in excess. In the context of this post, and by this particular poster, I don't think it was irresponsible to say that it's not horrible to eat fat/calories, especially if you took the time to view the posters diary, and take in to account the fact that they're 15 and still learning how to cope with food and nutrition in the proper ways in their life.
Can you read? "Fat eaten excessively is extremely bad for you and 22 gms of fat is excessive"
Wow. No need to be rude, I was simply disagreeing with you, which I continue to do. We simply have differing opinions, which is ok. The OP got the opinions they were seeking, so I think we're good here.0
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