:( can't do it.

you will look beautiful no matter what size you are. and slumps suck. start slow. track your calories, even if you aren't on here every day, get the app on your phone so no matter where you go, you can enter your calories. get your calories in check, and then add in some small exercise, an extra 20 minutes of cleaning, 1 mile walk, some wii games for exercies. it takes time, but you can do it!

trust in yourself that you are strong enough to make it through this!

I have known this feeling! It's still hard to eat right sometimes. You can do this! It helps to have friends who can motivate you...here and in "real" life. Also, pick exercise you love, not things you hate. Like if there's a sport you like, focus on that. If you like to run, do that. Or find an exercise video you like. Swimming is great if you love the water. Same with foods, pick healthy stuff you like and be creative with them. Instead of pizza crust, add the topping to salad or brown rice. Use greek yogurt in place of a multitude of things like sour cream. Use salsa instead of dressing. Lots of little substitutions like that can still make eating enjoyable but give you much less calories. I love to find different flavored protein bars. They give me protein but I still get that yummy sweet taste I crave. Give yourself a cheat day too, in moderation of course. You can do it!

I was a junk eater too. Nothing satifies me more than carbs. So I just stopped buying it until I could control it. I would eat the whole bag of chips, but now I will have the one serving as a treat. That is my best advice to you just to get going. Do one thing at a time!

You know, I have been in the same situation for at least 6 months. I had gotten down to 164 but now I'm back at 177 (or at least I was, been too afraid of the scale to check the past couple of days). But, I just can't get my mind in the right spot. I know when I eat bad food that I will gain weight and yet, I do it anyway. It's so frustrating (when I get on the scale that is).

For you, all of those new changes you mentioned (congrats on the job and the bf by the way!) are probably not helping your situation. When I first started dating my bf, I put on 10lbs easily because we would go out to eat all of the time.

What I suggest (and am trying as of today) is to look at each day as it's own and to pay attention to my body. Since you've gained and when you eat bad, you notice it right? Maybe feel more tired, sluggish, sore, etc? I am attempting to eat well and if I screw up, try again the next day. And, do what I know makes me feel better such as making time to exercise because after, my body always feels better. Try to focus on how awesome you felt when you were at your smallest. You can do it!

just walk. kick yourself out the door. Or, just put on the walking shoes-today. tomorrow put on the wlaking shoes and walk to get the mail. Wednesday, put on your walking shoes, walk out to get the mail & walk around where you live - around the house, the apt building - wherever. back in, get a drink of water. Is it sunny where you live? make yourself get 5 minutes of sun. you are the boss of you. I did this - I cannot believe that now i can bend over & tie my shoes! amazing. still only at 20 minutes, 3 times a week - but that's something!
good luck!

I've found that if it's in the house, I'll eat it. So....I just don't buy it. If it's not available I can't have it. Then make sure that you do buy healthy food to replace it. Try fruits and veggies for a snack instead.

step one: stop saying "can't." Lose that word from your vocabulary.

step two: do not allow the mirror to define how you feel about yourself.

step three: start small. exercise for 20 minutes. doesn't matter what you do; jog in place, walk around the block, just do something. if you don't want to do 20 minutes, say, "ok, 10, and if i really want to stop, i'll stop." you won't want to stop.

check out hussman fitness and mindless eating. both have websites; mindless eating is a great book. take what you want and leave the rest.

gather information. research. breathe, move, and sweat.

good luck.

There's really not a whole lot that any of us can do to motivate you, it has to come from within yourself. Maybe you're putting too much pressure on yourself? I struggled with my weight for years, starting around the age you're at now and after many attempts I realized that I had to be realistic. Low carb, diet pills, low fat/high fiber, etc just didn't work for me. I love food so I would make myself crazy trying to deprive myself of the things I loved thinking that would make me skinny.

But take a look around at your friends and family that don't have weight problems - I bet they pretty much eat what they want, right? Sometimes they're just blessed with wondeful metabolisms but most of the time, at least in my experience, the difference is that most of the time they're making really good food choices and being really active. It's just that when you see them at functions they're enjoying whatever because they know it's not a big deal since they're eating right most of the time and exercising.

So I guess the lesson here is, don't be so hard on yourself. Take baby steps and try to improve one thing a week. Like, this week, start tracking consistently. Next week, try to meet your calories at least 5 of the 7 days. Then the next week, start getting active. Get your boyfriend involved too - go for walks with him and try to get him to choose more healthy choices when you guys go out for dinner or whatever. Plan as much as you can and pack your snacks and meals for when you're at work.

Hope that gives you a good start... You can do it, just believe in yourself and get going!

You can do it!! But the only person who can is YOU! No one can make you...

If your heart isn't in it - it's difficult, but the one thing I would say is take it one small step at a time. Try and do everything at once and you'll give up after a couple of days because you'll feel tired, hungry and miserable.

For example...I adore food...so I know I'm never going to be able to starve myself, or stick to 1,200 calories - so my main goal is epic workouts! Sure, now I am in the MFP mindset, I eat well too...but to start with - I continued with my regular diet and just made sure I worked out so hard I had enough calories to "stay under." Perhaps this will work for you, or perhaps the reverse - you can't be bothered or don't have the time to exercise but are happy to control your eating?

Once you start to see small changes you will get the motivation you need and then you will want to do everything right!!

It sounds like your life is pretty amazing at the moment...so don't let your weight be a downfall. It's easy once you take that first step! Good luck!

Totally agree. YOU need to WANT to do it. Try visualise what you see yourself looking like, maybe stick a picture on your fridge or in your purse of when you didn't like how you looked to remind yourself what you want to move away from. Try not to cut any foods out or you will end up binging, just portion control and exercise (I'm sorry but that needs to be a significant part of your weight loss)

Good luck I'm sure you will fly once you get your head in the right place to start xx

You CAN do this! I have been in a slump lately too! As of TODAY I am tracking my calories again and I am GOING to get the rest of this weight off!! You have plenty of support on here, talk with your boyfriend and tell him you need his support too. Find something that you really want and make that your treat when you get to your goal! It is hard, I have a difficult time too. Make sure to give your self a cheat day every now and then, it is actually good to have a cheat day once in a while. You are not alone and tell yourself you "CAN"! Telling yourself you can't makes it harder.

Good Luck!

I know how you are feeling but you have to shake it off. Start small, take the dog for a walk, walk in place between shows (during commercial). I turn the wii on and walk on my board during two shows. Remember who you are doing this for (yourself)!!!!!!!!!!!!!


Have a great day because you look great!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! :flowerforyou:

thanks guys.

starting a healthier lifestyle tomorrow. i used to LOVE going to the gym, hitting the elliptical and stairmaster. now i just feel like i can barely get out of bed.

new mentality, new behavior. i AM doing this. i went from 236 to 180 before, I can go from 210 to 180, or hopefully 165.

have a wedding on september 10th w/ the boyfriends family, i want jaws to drop.

this is a reality check, need to change my habits.

That's exactly what you have to do!! You have to make the decision to live a healthier life. This can't just be a faze or a "diet" this is a life change and then hold yourself accountable. Yes, you will have set backs. But it's all about what you do when one hits you....You persevere and you keep going.

It's not easy, it takes work. You and I have a lot in common, I was 185lbs, I didn't like the way I looked or felt. I had zero energy, I had zero motivation to change anything...Then I had a long talk with the fat girl in the mirror. I told her to take a hike and that I was once again in control. She wasn't and the food wasn't....not any more. I started working out on the Wii Fit along with lifting light weights, plus some doing lunges, butt kicks, and jumping jacks through out the day. I soon joined a gym and now I am down a lil over 20lbs, I have lost I don't know how many inches and then gained inches back in muscle. (I have before and after pics posted on my profile). If I can do this (the girl that never stuck with anything in her life) you can too!! YOU are worth it and YOU can do it!!