Feeling Frustrated and Hopeless

Mizzd4u
Mizzd4u Posts: 1 Member
edited November 2024 in Introduce Yourself
I have been on this weight loss journey for what seems like forever, many years. I have loss some weight and put it back on but never reached my goal and can't seem to stay committed to the one thing I want so desperately. I'm 5'6, 197 lbs, my goal is 140 maybe 130. Some encouragement, advice and tips on how to stay strong to achieve and maintain my goal finally for once in my life would truly be appreciated.....Denise from Camden

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  • CarolinaRoqueCamarasa
    CarolinaRoqueCamarasa Posts: 1 Member
    Hi, you sound like me 2 months ago. I just learned how to cook with the help of a couple of youtubers and I managed to lose 20 Lbs. I figured out that as long as I manage to find new recipes I am excited about, I stay away from unhealthy food. Let me know if you need some support. Take small goals at a time and reward yourself for each success.
  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    To lose and maintain weight, you just have to eat less (and move more). Everybody wants to be thin, nobody wants to eat less (and move more). It takes discipline as well as a smart plan. Create a diet and exercise regimen you can see yourself be willing and able to stick to forever.
  • katulic
    katulic Posts: 3 Member
    edited February 2018
    Google / Youtube: Dr Stephen Finney and Jeff Volek.
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tC_qBC1EEvw
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8NvFyGGXYiI
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2KYYnEAYCGk


    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wJhNnbRHCbE
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h6aMN6NLOTQ
    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tw8Rf9h0-Sk

    Worked and Works for me for 3 years, since I seem to be Carb intolerant. Lost initially 47 kg (116kg to 69kg), and in-out ketosys I have been +-20kg, but as long ad I'm LCHF everything is clear and fine. Try it out for 10 days and from there on its easy.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    I worry when I hear weight loss and hopeless in the same breath. The journey to health is a long one. Those many years feeling hopeless must be miserable.

    How close to goal have you gotten?

    Could you set some short term goals that are behaviour related rather than a number on the scale?

    In my opinion, behaviour goals are much more under our direct control.
  • Sunna_W
    Sunna_W Posts: 744 Member
    I was that weight in October 2016. I made permanent changes in how I ate and didn't exercise. I lost 40 lbs in about six months. So far I am able to sustain the weight loss...

    Things that have worked for me:
    • I consistently weigh everything and eat only 1 to 1 1/2 portion of dinner. I make a lot of stews, one skillet meals with 1 lb of meat and so most meals I make are 4 servings. I eat 1/4; hubs eats 1/2 (or more) and left overs are his lunch the next day.
    • I eat the calories for my desired maintenance weight... (for me that was / is around 1400 calories b/c I am not exercising)
    • I *try* to keep my sugar at 50 to 60 grams and my carbs at 100 to 150 (this reduces my blood sugar spikes and helps me to control my cravings for sweets; yes this is "low carb" but it's not overly restrictive and I don't really feel like I am depriving myself.)
    • I eat "real food" from home as much as possible (I make the ingredients for my breakfast and lunch on Sundays for the work week):
    • breakfast = 2 HB eggs and 100 g cold steamed potato with skin (243 calories)
    • lunch = 8 oz chopped veggie salad w/ raw vinegar and salt / 3 oz turkey breast (170 calories)
    • dinner = 4 to 6 oz protein (with bones, skin and fat); 8 oz green or mixed cooked veggies (frozen, fresh) with butter; 8 oz of "starchy" winter vegetable (like winter squash, sweet potato) *or* half a serving of rice or pasta or beans that I cook ahead of time and then put into my sauces or one pan stir fry.
    • snack = EPIC meat protein bar or 1 oz peanut butter with hot tea (150 to 190 calories)
    • I "spice things up" with Penzeys spice mixes; they have no added sugar or salt most of the time and it really made the difference in terms of flavoring my food - so it actually tastes better than restaurant food.
    • I do a menu for the week in advance and plan out my grocery list / shopping chores (I use excel for this); this also makes me think about what I am eating because I can see the menu, and this helps to keep me focused on eating whole foods not boxed or frozen meals and helps to keep the added sugar and starch down considerably.
    • I shop the perimeter of the store and only go down the canned / grocery isles for some beans, soups, paper products and cleaning supplies.
    • I do allow myself "cheat days" when I go out to eat (about twice a month) and I try to enjoy my meal and not think about the calories.
    • I also approach each day as a clean slate; I do the best I can and I try to improve; healthy habits take time to become a "habit". It took you a life time of habits to get where you are today. You can't change them over night. Love yourself and keep moving forward.
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    Ref:
    http://www.beneficial-bento.com/2016/12/healthy-8-salad-trader-joes-copycat-recipe.html
    https://www.healthline.com/nutrition/blood-sugar-spikes#section9
    https://www.penzeys.com/
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