Should we help Techie Shut-ins or just let them be?
Jonesingmucho
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Talking with a girl friend on the phone who was excited because she works at home now.
Told me how she pre-orders groceries using an app and doesn't even have to get out of her car to get them.
Told me that she never goes to the movie theatre anymore since she can get EVERYTHING online.
Told me she does Pelaton now and doesn't go to the sweaty, smelly gym anymore.
... THEN not even a minute later she said,"No guys approach me ever!"
I said,"FFS! Where could a guy approach you? You are never out anywhere! The only place they can approach you would require home invasion. Give it up. You will never meet anyone."
She said,"Au contraire, ma soeur, I just swiped right on 8 guys on Tinder that I would totally Skype naked with tonight."
I said,"You make me weep for humanity. And when did you start speaking French ma soeur?"
She gushed,"Have you tried the app Duolingo?"
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Seriously!! More and more people I know don't go out....for anything...
Should we find ways to drag them back out into society or just let them be happy in their virtual worlds?
Told me how she pre-orders groceries using an app and doesn't even have to get out of her car to get them.
Told me that she never goes to the movie theatre anymore since she can get EVERYTHING online.
Told me she does Pelaton now and doesn't go to the sweaty, smelly gym anymore.
... THEN not even a minute later she said,"No guys approach me ever!"
I said,"FFS! Where could a guy approach you? You are never out anywhere! The only place they can approach you would require home invasion. Give it up. You will never meet anyone."
She said,"Au contraire, ma soeur, I just swiped right on 8 guys on Tinder that I would totally Skype naked with tonight."
I said,"You make me weep for humanity. And when did you start speaking French ma soeur?"
She gushed,"Have you tried the app Duolingo?"
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Seriously!! More and more people I know don't go out....for anything...
Should we find ways to drag them back out into society or just let them be happy in their virtual worlds?
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Happiness is as happiness does. Their version of happy is not your version and forcing others to believe that yours is right is a pretty dick move in my opinion. If they truly want to get out, then by all means, invite them out and "help" them. But it sounds like you just don't approve of your friends lifestyle and are looking for others to agree with you.10
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BecomingBane wrote: »Happiness is as happiness does. Their version of happy is not your version and forcing others to believe that yours is right is a pretty dick move in my opinion. If they truly want to get out, then by all means, invite them out and "help" them. But it sounds like you just don't approve of your friends lifestyle and are looking for others to agree with you.
You are right! Tech shaming has no place in our world!
FYI...Including "dick" in a rebuttal makes me very agreeable and open minded. js
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Thanks
And we have one vote for "Let it Be" 2 -
BecomingBane wrote: »Happiness is as happiness does. Their version of happy is not your version and forcing others to believe that yours is right is a pretty dick move in my opinion. If they truly want to get out, then by all means, invite them out and "help" them. But it sounds like you just don't approve of your friends lifestyle and are looking for others to agree with you.
I agree & as, a disabled person, I am extremely grateful that these conveniences exist!Jonesingmucho wrote: »Talking with a girl friend on the phone who was excited because she works at home now.
Told me how she pre-orders groceries using an app and doesn't even have to get out of her car to get them.
Told me that she never goes to the movie theatre anymore since she can get EVERYTHING online.
Told me she does Pelaton now and doesn't go to the sweaty, smelly gym anymore.
... THEN not even a minute later she said,"No guys approach me ever!"
I said,"FFS! Where could a guy approach you? You are never out anywhere! The only place they can approach you would require home invasion. Give it up. You will never meet anyone."
She said,"Au contraire, ma soeur, I just swiped right on 8 guys on Tinder that I would totally Skype naked with tonight."
I said,"You make me weep for humanity. And when did you start speaking French ma soeur?"
She gushed,"Have you tried the app Duolingo?"
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Seriously!! More and more people I know don't go out....for anything...
Should we find ways to drag them back out into society or just let them be happy in their virtual worlds?
My agreeing OP with the post above, doesn't mean that I'm settling for being lonely! I was willing to travel several thousand extra miles literally, to find someone but unfortunately my efforts, weren't worth it to anyone!0 -
_barefoot_ wrote: »Reading this gave me flashback of the movie "The Net "
It's 1, of my favorite movies!1 -
Jonesingmucho wrote: »BecomingBane wrote: »Happiness is as happiness does. Their version of happy is not your version and forcing others to believe that yours is right is a pretty dick move in my opinion. If they truly want to get out, then by all means, invite them out and "help" them. But it sounds like you just don't approve of your friends lifestyle and are looking for others to agree with you.
You are right! Tech shaming has no place in our world!
FYI...Including "dick" in a rebuttal makes me very agreeable and open minded. js
So
Thanks And we have one vote for "Let it Be"
Then why are you tech shaming your friend? Also, that's not what it said the last 3 times I looked, so good job editing that statement 3 times to make it say something different each time.
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BecomingBane wrote: »Jonesingmucho wrote: »BecomingBane wrote: »Happiness is as happiness does. Their version of happy is not your version and forcing others to believe that yours is right is a pretty dick move in my opinion. If they truly want to get out, then by all means, invite them out and "help" them. But it sounds like you just don't approve of your friends lifestyle and are looking for others to agree with you.
You are right! Tech shaming has no place in our world!
FYI...Including "dick" in a rebuttal makes me very agreeable and open minded. js
So
Thanks And we have one vote for "Let it Be"
Then why are you tech shaming your friend? Also, that's not what it said the last 3 times I looked, so good job editing that statement 3 times to make it say something different each time.
Thank you for noticing... I was trying to impress you with my editing skills.
And you are right again! My eyes have been opened and I swear on a stack of iPhones that I shall never Tech Shame again.0 -
I'm fighting my temptation to edit to add more kissy emojis for you0
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Wouldn't bother me one bit. I'm just saying, Julia, that maybe we should let your friend know that not only are you tech shaming them. you're doing it in a public forum.
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I've got too much about me I want to improve to worry about telling someone else how to live their life. Let em be.2
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BecomingBane wrote: »Happiness is as happiness does. Their version of happy is not your version and forcing others to believe that yours is right is a pretty dick move in my opinion. If they truly want to get out, then by all means, invite them out and "help" them. But it sounds like you just don't approve of your friends lifestyle and are looking for others to agree with you.
I agree & as a disabled person, I am extremely grateful that these conveniences exist!Jonesingmucho wrote: »Talking with a girl friend on the phone who was excited because she works at home now.
Told me how she pre-orders groceries using an app and doesn't even have to get out of her car to get them.
Told me that she never goes to the movie theatre anymore since she can get EVERYTHING online.
Told me she does Pelaton now and doesn't go to the sweaty, smelly gym anymore.
... THEN not even a minute later she said,"No guys approach me ever!"
I said,"FFS! Where could a guy approach you? You are never out anywhere! The only place they can approach you would require home invasion. Give it up. You will never meet anyone."
She said,"Au contraire, ma soeur, I just swiped right on 8 guys on Tinder that I would totally Skype naked with tonight."
I said,"You make me weep for humanity. And when did you start speaking French ma soeur?"
She gushed,"Have you tried the app Duolingo?"
***************************************************
Seriously!! More and more people I know don't go out....for anything...
Should we find ways to drag them back out into society or just let them be happy in their virtual worlds?
My agreeing OP with the post above, doesn't mean that I'm settling for being lonely! I was willing to travel several thousand extra miles literally, to find someone but unfortunately my efforts, weren't worth it to anyone!
Your efforts are worth it! You rock! 1 -
Jonesingmucho wrote: »Talking with a girl friend on the phone who was excited because she works at home now.
Told me how she pre-orders groceries using an app and doesn't even have to get out of her car to get them.
Told me that she never goes to the movie theatre anymore since she can get EVERYTHING online.
Told me she does Pelaton now and doesn't go to the sweaty, smelly gym anymore.
... THEN not even a minute later she said,"No guys approach me ever!"
I said,"FFS! Where could a guy approach you? You are never out anywhere! The only place they can approach you would require home invasion. Give it up. You will never meet anyone."
She said,"Au contraire, ma soeur, I just swiped right on 8 guys on Tinder that I would totally Skype naked with tonight."
I said,"You make me weep for humanity. And when did you start speaking French ma soeur?"
She gushed,"Have you tried the app Duolingo?"
***************************************************
Seriously!! More and more people I know don't go out....for anything...
Should we find ways to drag them back out into society or just let them be happy in their virtual worlds?
You're friend sounds smart.0 -
If your friend is happy let them be. It sounds like they are just enjoying their new situation and maybe rubbing it in a bit. Just reply to each their own. If she complains about not dating just say that is too bad and say where you have had success meeting people. Invite her out with you.
If your friend is unhappy, complaining a lot about lonliness, anxious about going out, refusing to be social in person I might talk with them about how they are feeling and if they want help. (Like agoraphobia type stuff) Help them get to a mental health professional.0 -
I truly do not see what is wrong with any of this. I've been working from home for years, very comfortable with my choice and many perks. I work better in this environment, I also work in 'tech'.
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I also agree to let 'em be. They're probably much less likely to catch the virus that starts the zombie apocalypse.1
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WorkerDrone83 wrote: »I also agree to let 'em be. They're probably much less likely to catch the virus that starts the zombie apocalypse.
Halftime Report and the Let 'em be option is the majority! #TechLife
Bonus points awarded to @WorkerDrone83 for highlighting the advantageous zombie apocalypse avoidance of the TechLife....1 -
Jonesingmucho wrote: »BecomingBane wrote: »Happiness is as happiness does. Their version of happy is not your version and forcing others to believe that yours is right is a pretty dick move in my opinion. If they truly want to get out, then by all means, invite them out and "help" them. But it sounds like you just don't approve of your friends lifestyle and are looking for others to agree with you.
I agree & as a disabled person, I am extremely grateful that these conveniences exist!Jonesingmucho wrote: »Talking with a girl friend on the phone who was excited because she works at home now.
Told me how she pre-orders groceries using an app and doesn't even have to get out of her car to get them.
Told me that she never goes to the movie theatre anymore since she can get EVERYTHING online.
Told me she does Pelaton now and doesn't go to the sweaty, smelly gym anymore.
... THEN not even a minute later she said,"No guys approach me ever!"
I said,"FFS! Where could a guy approach you? You are never out anywhere! The only place they can approach you would require home invasion. Give it up. You will never meet anyone."
She said,"Au contraire, ma soeur, I just swiped right on 8 guys on Tinder that I would totally Skype naked with tonight."
I said,"You make me weep for humanity. And when did you start speaking French ma soeur?"
She gushed,"Have you tried the app Duolingo?"
***************************************************
Seriously!! More and more people I know don't go out....for anything...
Should we find ways to drag them back out into society or just let them be happy in their virtual worlds?
My agreeing OP with the post above, doesn't mean that I'm settling for being lonely! I was willing to travel several thousand extra miles literally, to find someone but unfortunately my efforts, weren't worth it to anyone!
Your efforts are worth it! You rock!
Thank you, immensely!
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Catfishes, everywhere!1
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This is why I ended up taking up social dancing. Bookstores and the living room are not particularly good places to make friends, much less meet a proper guy.0
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People seem to complain about anyone not like them.
Stay in doors more than them makes them a cooky shut it.
Go out more than them and your a irresponsible wild one.
So what the op likely has friends who not only think they go out too much, but also not enough.
Like people complaining about someone gaming for 3 hours when the complainer just watched 3 hours of tv.
So my opinion is let people be themselves.0 -
concordancia wrote: »This is why I ended up taking up social dancing. Bookstores and the living room are not particularly good places to make friends, much less meet a proper guy.
Shouldn’t your father find you a proper guy and pay the appropriate dowry to secure marriage
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