Does dating still exist?

BeamingBadass
BeamingBadass Posts: 1,454 Member
edited 10:20AM in Chit-Chat
I was with my ex husband for a significant amount of time and being back in the dating world is so strange. Do people still date? Like exclusively? Or even enjoy good conversation? Just curious on others experiences
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  • 123tacos
    123tacos Posts: 661 Member
    I'd say take some time for yourself first..depending on how recent the break up was...but there's a range if dating out there..i think there's a lot of hooking up...but there's some who are genuine looking for something more serious ...dating apps I think are mostly filled with marrieds looking to cheat or less serious daters ...just my 2 cents
  • BeamingBadass
    BeamingBadass Posts: 1,454 Member
    123tacos wrote: »
    I'd say take some time for yourself first..depending on how recent the break up was...but there's a range if dating out there..i think there's a lot of hooking up...but there's some who are genuine looking for something more serious ...dating apps I think are mostly filled with marrieds looking to cheat or less serious daters ...just my 2 cents

    Oh its been quite some time.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    The best conversations most of us have are right here on chitchat. Life sucks when everybody has their eyes on a smartphone all the time.
  • orangegato
    orangegato Posts: 6,572 Member
    Yes dating exists
  • BeamingBadass
    BeamingBadass Posts: 1,454 Member
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »
    Dating apps are a joke... took me just a few short minutes to conclude that I'd much rather meet someone by a twist of fate!

    Love it!
  • 81Katz
    81Katz Posts: 7,074 Member
    I honestly would not want to date in this day and age. Too many bs artists out there online. At least face to face hopefully (hopefully...) You can gauge their intentions and sincerity quicker than just reading all the right words online.

    All the best of luck though. Don't ignore those red flags though!
  • dwrightlaw
    dwrightlaw Posts: 804 Member
    No, it does not
  • xFunctionalStrengthx
    xFunctionalStrengthx Posts: 4,928 Member
    BeamingBadass wrote: »
    I was with my ex husband for a significant amount of time and being back in the dating world is so strange. Do people still date? Like exclusively? Or even enjoy good conversation? Just curious on others experiences

    Been there myself. Getting back into the dating world was intimidating, as I quickly realized with changed. But, it also was still the same in some ways.

    Since my divorce, I dated one gal for about 18 months. And another for a couple. Otherwise, I've only been on a handful of dates in the 5+ years since divorce. I've found that most of the women I've dated I'm not compatible with and came to the conclusion that I'd rather be single and happy than in a relationship and miserable.
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »
    Dating apps are a joke... took me just a few short minutes to conclude that I'd much rather meet someone by a twist of fate!

    Agree with you @Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings I had limited luck with dating apps, both free and paid subscription. Some things, I prefer the old fashioned way.
  • jaxxie
    jaxxie Posts: 576 Member
    edited March 2018
    Not in the traditional sense. Trust and commitment all comes into question because most is virtual. How do you know what's real?
  • jaycanchu
    jaycanchu Posts: 265 Member
    I’m single again. I see a lady I met on a dating site, and she was the exception to all the other broken people I met
  • Skrib69
    Skrib69 Posts: 687 Member
    I too have been out of the dating scene for far too long. I have friends who have had success with a dating site after giving up on it. I think it depends on your situation but I prefer the chance meeting. And yes, if I was back on the scene, I would be exclusive.
  • Jenna2315
    Jenna2315 Posts: 614 Member
    edited March 2018
    Eventually...1st there's talking, then there's hanging out, & EVENTUALLY there's dating I suppose...otherwise they suddenly ask your hand in marriage and you're like wait what?!
  • kenlarsen9152
    kenlarsen9152 Posts: 3 Member
    Times have definitely changed , but try to keep an opened mind and heart :)
  • Lucynbailey
    Lucynbailey Posts: 25 Member
    I was with my husband for about 5 years..been over for 3 years n we have a 3 1/2 year old. I've been single for 3 years. I don't really go out n life revolves around my daughter, work n being on my own! So....i had to take the online dating route... omg how dating has changed!...even just how people talk to eachother now n what is with dick pics! Needless to say I'm not online or off line dating. Try to avoid to that if poss! Eye opener for sure
  • jaxxie
    jaxxie Posts: 576 Member
    Lucynbailey wrote: »
    I was with my husband for about 5 years..been over for 3 years n we have a 3 1/2 year old. I've been single for 3 years. I don't really go out n life revolves around my daughter, work n being on my own! So....i had to take the online dating route... omg how dating has changed!...even just how people talk to eachother now n what is with dick pics! Needless to say I'm not online or off line dating. Try to avoid to that if poss! Eye opener for sure

    I. Totally get that. Hard to tell those that want an irl relationship or online. Even then trust is huge because if it begins online. You really have no gauge on what's real vs what you believe to be real.
  • Lucynbailey
    Lucynbailey Posts: 25 Member
    jaxxie wrote: »
    Lucynbailey wrote: »
    I was with my husband for about 5 years..been over for 3 years n we have a 3 1/2 year old. I've been single for 3 years. I don't really go out n life revolves around my daughter, work n being on my own! So....i had to take the online dating route... omg how dating has changed!...even just how people talk to eachother now n what is with dick pics! Needless to say I'm not online or off line dating. Try to avoid to that if poss! Eye opener for sure

    I. Totally get that. Hard to tell those that want an irl relationship or online. Even then trust is huge because if it begins online. You really have no gauge on what's real vs what you believe to be real.

    Totally. From my experience they all lie which is sad cos there will be some good ones out there but I'm too put off to look anymore!
  • _pi3_
    _pi3_ Posts: 2,311 Member
    Not for me

    It seems like we hang out for a few hours and end up in bed together
  • jaxxie
    jaxxie Posts: 576 Member
    _pi3_ wrote: »
    Not for me

    It seems like we hang out for a few hours and end up in bed together

    This is bad why? Lol.
  • BeamingBadass
    BeamingBadass Posts: 1,454 Member
    Thanks everyone! I definitely am not giving up hope but it's amazing how much I appreciate good conversation so much more!
  • huntersvonnegut
    huntersvonnegut Posts: 1,177 Member
    I hope I never have to find out.
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  • CaliMomTeach
    CaliMomTeach Posts: 745 Member
    I left my ex-husband in 2011, and have not had a date since. Don't feel bad for me though. I like it this way. :) It was hard at first, and I did feel lonely, but I think it was mostly not having the person there to share in the big moments of parenting. Once I got comfortable in my own skin in my life (maybe took me 2 years), I am quite content to remain single for now. My life is full, and I am not lonely. I also don't let being a single mama stop my kids and I from doing anything. When my kids are almost grown, I think I will be open to having someone in my life, but I can't see internet dating in my future. It all seems creepy and strange to me. If anyone ever tries to send me a gross picture, I don't know if I'll die laughing or what. I just don't understand all of that. For now, I just don't feel there is any room in my life to meet another person's needs. When my kids are asleep and the house is quiet, I feel such so calm and content. When it's just me and my kids on a road trip to Lake Tahoe or getting ready to fly to Jamaica later this month, I am content and happy. I am happy on a Friday night coming home with my kids after work to watch a Disney movie and eat popcorn and to get up on a Saturday morning to go to soccer. Dating doesn't exist for people like me. And I wish people would understand that it's not a sad thing at all. :wink:
  • kam26001
    kam26001 Posts: 2,794 Member
    I've read that the PM system on here is not working at this current time. Hang tight, OP... things will pick up.
  • jaxxie
    jaxxie Posts: 576 Member
    edited March 2018
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »
    CaliMomTeach wrote: »
    I left my ex-husband in 2011, and have not had a date since. Don't feel bad for me though. I like it this way. :) It was hard at first, and I did feel lonely, but I think it was mostly not having the person there to share in the big moments of parenting. Once I got comfortable in my own skin in my life (maybe took me 2 years), I am quite content to remain single for now. My life is full, and I am not lonely. I also don't let being a single mama stop my kids and I from doing anything. When my kids are almost grown, I think I will be open to having someone in my life, but I can't see internet dating in my future. It all seems creepy and strange to me. If anyone ever tries to send me a gross picture, I don't know if I'll die laughing or what. I just don't understand all of that. For now, I just don't feel there is any room in my life to meet another person's needs. When my kids are asleep and the house is quiet, I feel such so calm and content. When it's just me and my kids on a road trip to Lake Tahoe or getting ready to fly to Jamaica later this month, I am content and happy. I am happy on a Friday night coming home with my kids after work to watch a Disney movie and eat popcorn and to get up on a Saturday morning to go to soccer. Dating doesn't exist for people like me. And I wish people would understand that it's not a sad thing at all. :wink:

    I'm glad to hear you are comfortable in your life now. It took me quite a while to settle into my new reality as well, especially when it came to handling all the responsibility and holding it all down for myself and my son. I was in a pretty bad mind space for a long time but now I sleep like a star fish in my king size bed and until the day someone comes and sweeps me off my feet I'm totally cool with being a solo act :)

    My son is in university and I just moved back to Canada from Atlanta. It was a nightmare for months and a big change. I'm slowly getting back to myself, regaining and reclaiming my life.
    Good for you to finding your own strengths and happiness. Kudos.
  • Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings Posts: 5,545 Member
    jaxxie wrote: »
    Bullet_with_Butterfly_Wings wrote: »
    CaliMomTeach wrote: »
    I left my ex-husband in 2011, and have not had a date since. Don't feel bad for me though. I like it this way. :) It was hard at first, and I did feel lonely, but I think it was mostly not having the person there to share in the big moments of parenting. Once I got comfortable in my own skin in my life (maybe took me 2 years), I am quite content to remain single for now. My life is full, and I am not lonely. I also don't let being a single mama stop my kids and I from doing anything. When my kids are almost grown, I think I will be open to having someone in my life, but I can't see internet dating in my future. It all seems creepy and strange to me. If anyone ever tries to send me a gross picture, I don't know if I'll die laughing or what. I just don't understand all of that. For now, I just don't feel there is any room in my life to meet another person's needs. When my kids are asleep and the house is quiet, I feel such so calm and content. When it's just me and my kids on a road trip to Lake Tahoe or getting ready to fly to Jamaica later this month, I am content and happy. I am happy on a Friday night coming home with my kids after work to watch a Disney movie and eat popcorn and to get up on a Saturday morning to go to soccer. Dating doesn't exist for people like me. And I wish people would understand that it's not a sad thing at all. :wink:

    I'm glad to hear you are comfortable in your life now. It took me quite a while to settle into my new reality as well, especially when it came to handling all the responsibility and holding it all down for myself and my son. I was in a pretty bad mind space for a long time but now I sleep like a star fish in my king size bed and until the day someone comes and sweeps me off my feet I'm totally cool with being a solo act :)

    My son is in university and I just moved back to Canada from Atlanta. It was a nightmare for months and a big change. I'm slowly getting back to myself, regaining and reclaiming my life.
    Good for you to finding your own strengths and happiness. Kudos.

    That must have been a terribly difficult adjustment for you. It's a process to disentangle from someone you made a life with... It's been a soul crushing experience but I'm so much better for it now, although no one could have convinced me at the time that I'd stand where I am today. Im glad to hear you're getting back to yourself and reclaiming your life. All the very best from a fellow Canuck :)
  • littlebrittlifts
    littlebrittlifts Posts: 225 Member
    jaxxie wrote: »
    Not in the traditional sense. Trust and commitment all comes into question because most is virtual. How do you know what's real?

    You don’t!
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