Feeling discouraged

fitmommie2018
fitmommie2018 Posts: 12 Member
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Hello everyone, I've been on and off working on my weight loss journey. I get super excited and pumped and I go for it. It last about two weeks. I don't necessary go hard I work up to a little more as time goes on, but I just give up after about two weeks or so. I know what I'm doing it for some days, other days it's not even a good enough reason. It's like I'm doing it for myself which is the best reason, then I say it's for my family, then it's i don't like the way my pants fit. I have all these excuses to go and not go. So, I guess what I'd like to know here is what helped with everyone's continuing and how did you push passed the point of wanting to quit?

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  • LoveThickOrThin
    LoveThickOrThin Posts: 48 Member
    edited March 2018
    Gym buddies helped me workout but now the gym is an addiction. The food on the other hand is always a struggle for me. I just try to find things I like and stick with that. I still indulge every now and then, just in smaller amounts. Honestly, the biggest thing that got me going was not being able to do anything with my nephew. I wanted to be a good aunt.
  • concordancia
    concordancia Posts: 5,320 Member
    Make a commitment to log for 30 days. No matter what you eat or whether or not you exercise, log it all. Once you have established that habit, develop another.
  • fitmommie2018
    fitmommie2018 Posts: 12 Member
    I think the biggest problem I have is I just cant seem to get myself motivated enough to stick with it for a long period i tell myself every day just make it 21 days and it will become a habit, longest I went to they gym consecutively was 15 days.
  • Redordeadhead
    Redordeadhead Posts: 1,188 Member
    fitmommie2018 wrote: »
    I think the biggest problem I have is I just cant seem to get myself motivated enough to stick with it for a long period i tell myself every day just make it 21 days and it will become a habit, longest I went to they gym consecutively was 15 days.

    You don't have to go to the gym every day. Rest is also important for your muscles to repair, and by trying to go every day may just be setting unrealistic expectations for yourself.

    To lose weight, you just need to consume fewer calories than you burn. If you set up your MFP profile it will give you a calorie goal to stick to.
  • fitmommie2018
    fitmommie2018 Posts: 12 Member
    I didn't go consecutively as in every day that was the wrong choice of word I guess. I went Monday Wednesday Friday and Saturdays. So I'd have Tuesday, Thursday, and Sundays off. When I very first started the gym last year I tried to go every day and it was to hard on me. I was then told never skip a Monday start on a Monday and have three to four days off. To take protine after my workouts to help with muscle repair.
  • sschauer513
    sschauer513 Posts: 313 Member
    It's not the gym that makes you lose weight it's the calories you eat. While the gym helps burn calories it's not necessary per say. If you're not motivated to go to the gym look for other "sudo exercises" hiking, walking around the block, swimming whatever brings you joy. For me I found I used to hike in the woods as a kid and now I found that I still love to hike in the woods but had let that slip away. Find you path of weight lose each person's path is their own.
  • IRON4SLAYER
    IRON4SLAYER Posts: 38 Member
    I can't say I have had this problem, but one thing for sure, you have to set a realistic goal. Such as current weight and goal weight, List how you plan to accomplish it etc...Write it out on a pieces of paper and post it where you can see it daily. I found when people write things down and feel passionate about it they generally follow through with it. All the best!
  • fitmommie2018
    fitmommie2018 Posts: 12 Member
    @tinkerbellang83 what makes me want to quit.... It's a lot of things it's really never one thing I guess the biggest thing would be I do really good about jotting down what I eat and keeping up with mfp and then I may go out to eat and I feel like I just ruined whatever I accomplished and I don't really have a support system at home. So, it's like you look fine I don't know why you are even doing anything. It's not really what others see I know that and I know I need to do this for me and not let others influence me into quitting, but it's a struggle when you don't have people supporting you at home.
  • tinkerbellang83
    tinkerbellang83 Posts: 9,129 Member
    fitmommie2018 wrote: »
    @tinkerbellang83 what makes me want to quit.... It's a lot of things it's really never one thing I guess the biggest thing would be I do really good about jotting down what I eat and keeping up with mfp and then I may go out to eat and I feel like I just ruined whatever I accomplished and I don't really have a support system at home. So, it's like you look fine I don't know why you are even doing anything. It's not really what others see I know that and I know I need to do this for me and not let others influence me into quitting, but it's a struggle when you don't have people supporting you at home.

    @fitmommie2018

    One meal out definitely doesn't ruin anything, if it did I wouldn't have lost a thing, you have to remember that you need to be able to fit the way of eating you choose into your life long term, which means there will be meals out, there'll be drinks, there'll be the kids birthday cakes etc. You shouldn't feel ashamed about having a meal out now and again.

    To gain a pound of fat you would need to eat around 3500 calories above your maintenance intake. The gain we see after eating out or getting a takeaway is mostly water retention from higher carb/sodium intake or the alcohol that goes with it. If you know you have a social occasion coming up you can plan around it, eat a little less during the rest of the week and bank the calories, do a little extra exercise and/or have a maintenance day. In the grand scheme of things as long as it's not an everyday thing it's not going to impact weight loss in the long run.

    A favourite quote of mine from here is "One salad won't make you skinny and one burger won't make you fat" it's the bigger picture that is important.

    You are right you do need to do this for you but you do have a huge support community at your fingertips, add some people who have had similar goals to your own and have achieved their loss and gone on into maintenance and some people who are trying to lose. It's been one of the major differences between me losing 4lbs and quitting, like I had previously and losing 40lbs and not re-gaining.




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