Fat b***ard of a partner!!
CarlsbergLewis
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Anyone else got a partner who can just eat and eat and eat and put on no weight?
My fiancé is STICK THIN, she does nothing but eat and has never exercised before
Anyone got a partner like this and what do you do to combat how much crap they eat? So you don’t end up going down the same path!
My fiancé is STICK THIN, she does nothing but eat and has never exercised before
Anyone got a partner like this and what do you do to combat how much crap they eat? So you don’t end up going down the same path!
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Give it time... Lol, seriously though, my husband used to be like that but it has caught up with him now. I try to have alternatives that I CAN eat around. If he's having potato chips I'm having light popcorn. If he wants pasta for dinner I have spiralized veggies. Yes I get tired of cooking different meals but I was more tired of being fat. If you want it bad enough you will find ways to live with their endless snacking.3
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(Cut short because you used a phone emoji most likely)
Self discipline. My flatmate eats a lot of junk, but he doesn't gain because he barely sits down and is always walking places, he doesn't work out, he is always ordering takeway or buying stuff in, when he offers, 9/10 times I decline.
You are responsible for what you put in your mouth, you're going to be living with your fiancee for a long time (hopefully
) so you're going to have to learn to say no and eat right for yourself. 3 -
Unless your partner has a problem with it then I don’t really think you should be doing anything to ‘combat’ it.
I get you’d probably want to encourage them to eat healthier foods, so maybe you could prepare healthy foods to eat together sometimes. Or if you’re finding that having junk food in the house inhibits your weight loss efforts than you should probably discuss that with them, but they’re an adult and if they don’t wanna then I guess that’s that.6 -
Don’t get me wrong I do say no all the time.. it just pisses me off haha!
My will power is shocking, just don’t know how to get her to see that even tho she doesn’t put in weight, it doesn’t mean she’s healthy7 -
Thankfully I don't have this problem! My fiance has been along the weight loss road for me for a long time, he's lost almost 100lbs since we started dating 10 years ago. We manage our weights together and support each other. Very thankful for him.
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You can only lead by example my friend.2
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Yeah, my other half can eat a lot of junk food and barely gain an ounce, but I have to avoid that carp like the plague because every chip or cookie shows up on the scale.2
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CarlsbergLewis wrote: »Don’t get me wrong I do say no all the time.. it just pisses me off haha!
My will power is shocking, just don’t know how to get her to see that even tho she doesn’t put in weight, it doesn’t mean she’s healthy
A subject best left unsaid unless you have genuine serious concerns for her health, if you value your relationship. People are best left to come to their own conclusions, pointing them out, in my experience does little to push people in the right direction. Worry about yourself and some of your good habits might rub off on her.5 -
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I’m not bitter I swear8
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I am the person that eats more than my partner. I try to eat more when they are not around, I also tend to buy things my partner doesn't like or I store it away. I buy lower calorie options he likes so after dinner we can both enjoy a snack. Otherwise you just have to focus on yourself and your own goals. Fit some treats into your day, substitute or keep busy and stay away from them.1
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Willpower and moderation? Is your fiance forcing you to eat?
You're food shaming her, because you perceive her as being able to eat more than you can, without putting in the work. But you don't know what she doesn't eat when she's not with you, and you have no clue what her other activity looks like. And considering CICO, it really doesn't matter *what* she eats, does it? Obviously, considering that you call her stick thin, and call yourself fat, it's working for her.
I'm glad I'm not in a relationship where my boyfriend thinks that I'm going to be fat because I'm active when I'm not with him, and thus get to eat more within my own sets of rules.10 -
Wow you are being mean to your partner.
You eat for your goals. Don't blame them. Don't use them as an excuse. Don't shame them. You do you, let them be them. If you don't want to be with them break up but stop being so mean.8 -
CarlsbergLewis wrote: »I’m not bitter I swear
I'd be careful with that. Resentment is an ugly thing and she will pick up on it no problem. I recommend you compartmentalize these thoughts and feelings and work on what they mean for you, and leave her out of it.2 -
My husband and I eat different things since... Well, since the beginning (8 years ago). He doesn't put on weight for the life of him, and can down a pizza and two chocolates in one sitting. The amount of fries he eats is astounding. And he's going to be 40 in a few years.
But I take care of what I eat, he occasionally cooks, and with so little time on our hands we usually go to the store together and take our own separate picks. I don't crave what he's eating because I make sure to have my alternatives (85-90% dark chocolate against his Milkas, salads for fries, meat is not a problem). We just enjoy eating together, even if it's completely different things.2 -
My thin husband, who is in very good shape (better than me), eats what he wants when I'm not cooking for him. (I would never call him names though.) He eats Little Debbie's, Oreos, Ice cream, Peanut butter crackers, or Chocolate Milk before he goes to bed. I only ask that he doesn't ask me to serve it to him. This morning he gained 4# and he was like No Way, This Can't Be, What? ... hhe hem! What can I say?3
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heart attack waiting to happen
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CarlsbergLewis wrote: »Don’t get me wrong I do say no all the time.. it just pisses me off haha!
My will power is shocking, just don’t know how to get her to see that even tho she doesn’t put in weight, it doesn’t mean she’s healthyCarlsbergLewis wrote: »Don’t get me wrong I do say no all the time.. it just pisses me off haha!
My will power is shocking, just don’t know how to get her to see that even tho she doesn’t put in weight, it doesn’t mean she’s healthy
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I used to be stuck thin. Ate chocolate,cakes, fry ups and drank 30 pints of ale a week.
Lean genes are in our family.
Now I'm 50 plus I have to watch it big time.
Looking back I wish my partner had encouraged me to eat healthily and excercise! I would have achieved a great physical form as any excercise I did back then was instantly noticeable.
Now it's hard work.
Keep incouraging her but remain focused on your own health. Lead by example.
Get in the best shape of your life. I'm sure she will be inspired.1 -
It might be helpful for you to really think about what she is doing differently from you to have the different weight experience. Metabolism usually accounts for a lot less of the difference in weight gain than people think. And quality of food doesn’t really matter for weight gain either. The laws of physics apply to everyone, so clearly she is balancing the amount of calories she’s consuming with the amount she’s burning. Does she snack all day but never very much at one time? Is she eating foods that might be higher volume but lower calories? Even if she doesn’t go to the gym, does she walk a lot? Is she twitchy or restless? It can certainly be frustrating to have to spend a lot of effort on something that comes easy to someone else, but it’s not a good idea to become resentful over things like this.6
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My husband is bulking while I cut... he eats tonnes of stuff that I just can't fit in my day... such is life...1
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It’s no surprise that all the Americans have taken this as me having a go at my girlfriend.. no sense of humour you lot!11
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CarlsbergLewis wrote: »Anyone else got a partner who can just eat and eat and eat and put on no weight?
My fiancé is STICK THIN, she does nothing but eat and has never exercised before
Anyone got a partner like this and what do you do to combat how much crap they eat? So you don’t end up going down the same path!
When I was younger I could eat whatever and not exercise and not gain much. I did however walk places, sit less, had a job that had me on my feet all day. When my lifestyle changed I gained weight eating the same food.
If I want to lose or maintain weight now I have to watch my calorie intake.
It may catch up with her and she may always just be good at eating the right amount for her activity level.
If you want to eat exactly like her you need to be more active than you currently are I guess.
I would work out your resentment and come to peace with being different people when it comes to weight management before you marry. If you are going to be so upset that she eats different or views health differently than you maybe you need to have a rethink about a life together.2 -
If these forums are 'pathetic' as you say, then why are you here?
BTW this is the internet, absent of tone. Expecting people to tell the difference between whether you're serious or joking is an exercise in futility. Also your attitude kind of stinks.7 -
CarlsbergLewis wrote: »My fiancé is 5’10 and about 9 stone hahaha I’m not fat shaming her you bunch of morons.. it’s so clear the people who understand what I’m talking about.
You think I’m being genuinely serious that she pisses me off?
I simply asked is anyone else in that situation..
Once again these pathetic forums showing up all the boring miserable keyboard warriors haha
So basically: You didn't get the response that you wanted, and it's the forum's fault. Got it.11 -
Why didn't you post in "Chit Chat" if this wasn't a serious post? Me thinks someone hit a nerve.8
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CarlsbergLewis wrote: »Anyone else got a partner who can just eat and eat and eat and put on no weight?
My fiancé is STICK THIN, she does nothing but eat and has never exercised before
Anyone got a partner like this and what do you do to combat how much crap they eat? So you don’t end up going down the same path!
I would work out your resentment and come to peace with being different people when it comes to weight management before you marry. If you are going to be so upset that she eats different or views health differently than you maybe you need to have a rethink about a life together.
Jesus Christ .. I resent her now because she eats donuts and cheese more than I do .. you lot are a laugh8 -
CarlsbergLewis wrote: »Anyone else got a partner who can just eat and eat and eat and put on no weight?
My fiancé is STICK THIN, she does nothing but eat and has never exercised before
Anyone got a partner like this and what do you do to combat how much crap they eat? So you don’t end up going down the same path!
When I was younger I could eat whatever and not exercise and not gain much. I did however walk places, sit less, had a job that had me on my feet all day. When my lifestyle changed I gained weight eating the same food.
If I want to lose or maintain weight now I have to watch my calorie intake.
It may catch up with her and she may always just be good at eating the right amount for her activity level.
If you want to eat exactly like her you need to be more active than you currently are I guess.
I would work out your resentment and come to peace with being different people when it comes to weight management before you marry. If you are going to be so upset that she eats different or views health differently than you maybe you need to have a rethink about a life together.
Anecdotally, it seems like the “stick-thin, eat whatever they want” types have extra trouble if they switch to a job that keeps them tied to a desk all day. My husband was one of those. He was convinced it was a late twenties metabolism thing until I pointed out how much his daily movement had decreased when he went from full time student with summer janitorial job and no car to full-time desk jockey. Not to mention the fact that long hours plus disposable income meant a lot more delivery than before, when he previously often just skipped a meal if he was too busy.4 -
Your fiancée drives you nuts that she can eat anything, you are whinging on a pathetic discussion board, and you are hoping for company?
Misery deserves to be alone.8
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