Does this happen to anyone else?

TrishJimenez · August 2011

It is the honey's day off or we have the day off together. And even though he should totally be on this fitness kick with me, well he is a guy and not even 30 yet so he thinks all he has to do is eat a regular bacon cheeseburger instead of a double and he will loose weight. Anyways.....I noticed that when we have days off together or just a night off together that it is SOOO much harder to stick to my meal plan. I am not saying I get derailed every time but maybe 1/4 times I make a poor choice or decide to indulge myself a little bit. It is true that he and I both put on this 30 lbs together while we were dating. What with the tuesday nights at the bar with peeps from work and late late sunday night movies after we got off work and then stoping for apple pie a la mode and coffee at blueberry hill and talking until the sun came up, not to mention the huge barrel of popcorn and large sodas we would drink during the movie. So for us dating is about food. And not just regular food but well DATE food like frozen yogurt at the swirl. And he gets all debbie downer when I dont want to go get frozen yogurt or ask if we can go to the salad bar instead of getting sushi. He is entirely supportive of my efforts. And the time I spend at the gym and my own little cheer leader when I loose a lb or go down a size. But I told him the other day that spending the day together when we are off is totally killing my new lifestyle habits. I need a mantra to keep me on track. A good one. Not something like "well just order something that will work for you off where ever he decides to go" cuz i know I can do that. But my solution to having good will power is to avoid what is going to make it to difficult. Its just to easy to eat off his plate (lol) and even though I know those calories shouldnt count I know that they do.

thenewkarisa · August 2011

I have the same trouble... kinda. We can't really afford to go eat out or anything so that helps but as far as eating at home, I make the list and tell him what to get and he gets it.... so I can eat what I want to stick to and he can either follow me or starve cause I do most of the cooking LOL It's hard.... I gained 50 lbs since I've been with him and he gained 100+ lbs

meggers123 · August 2011

Yeah, my man is guilty of this. He's been home for a week and a half, and killing my eating habits. Also, he was complaining about my choiced affecting him, but he's getting better about it. And I'm trying not to force my choices on him (even if he could stand to eat more veggies).

Good Luck!

Michelle_M2002 · August 2011

I TOTALLY feel your pain. My husband has an insatiable sweet tooth. The other day he asked me if I would stop at Dairy Queen and get him a blizzard. I "fell off the wagon" and got myself a mini blizzard. It wasn't until I got home and checked the nutritional info online that I found out the MINI had over 400 cals in it!!!

Then one day he calls me to ask me if I want a blizzard from Dairy Queen or a Frosty from Wendy's.

If he goes to the store for me, he comes back with a bunch of junk food.

What has really helped me.... if you can afford it, get a Bodybugg. It'll run you about $200, but it's SOOO worth it. You wear it on your left tricep, and it measures how many calories you are burning. And then you know how many calories you need to eat in order to stay on track. Example.. tonight I had a sweet tooth. And because I knew how much I had burned today, I was able to have a small piece of chocolate loaf cake. I knew that I would have to work off an extra 160 calories to maintain my 1,000 calorie deficit (eating 1000 calories less than you burn each day will give you a 2lb loss per week). It's a really great little tool.

If you can't use one..... set your calorie goal. If you plan your date night ahead and know where you are going, then you can plan what you are going to eat. THEN you can work that calorie number into your plan for that day... you get your splurge without it severely impacting your goals.

If you're at a restaurant, ask your waitress to box half your food when she brings it out to you. The biggest key to eating is to knowing your portion sizes and your calories. If you keep track of that, you can eat almost anything and not feel guilty about your little splurges.

Or... if you're going to splurge, order a healthier dinner and then have the frozen yogurt for dessert. Or order a rich meal, but skip dessert. These are things that help me.

Good luck.
God bless!

Incunabulum · August 2011

That used to happen with me and my ex. We got on a fitness program together, SWAT Fitness here in Tucson, and paid thousands of dollars to be trained by a personal instructor. He's the best one I know, by the way. He taught us (or me) so much about nutrition and proper workout techniques to build lean muscle. Anyway, after we finished our last session, I wanted to keep going with my exercising habits.

She seemed down for it at first, too. We bought kettle bells and did a few sessions together. Eventually, though, I continued and she didn't. She also reverted to old eating habits. I was a little sad because we had spent all this money, time, and effort to get fit, and only I continued making the effort to walk that walk. But I didn't grill her about it. I just kept going and would occasionally ask if she would like to join me in a workout session, but most of the time she was too tired from her job as a healthcare professional and her 12-hour night shifts. Yes, of course, I could understand that. How could I not? But I kept walking my walk, even if I occasionally faltered.

Eventually, we got comfortable with our respective habits. If I asked her to exercise with me and she declined, I would simply exercise alone. If she asked if I wanted her to get me a slice of New York style pizza at her favorite joint and I declined, she would simply buy pizza for herself. I suppose, if you want a mantra, mine would be, "Stick to what you know is right for you. Stay steady and maintain." Only you can choose for you. No one else holds that power over you. Best regards to you on your journey.

TrishJimenez · August 2011

thanks you guys, and even just venting seemed to make me feel a little better. Like you suggested plan for it and leave room in my calorie budget for the treats he wants to indulge in. Eat less of the same foods we like to enjoy together and just be strong. And well he wants to loose 20 lbs before the wedding too so I guess eventually he is going to jump on the train with me. But even if he doesnt.

oh and michelle I used to have a bodybug a few years ago. And I totaly loved and it and so much miss it. But my ex stole it and I cant really afford to get one right now with the wedding expenses and all but Hopefully some day.

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