I know it's wrong but

dls06
dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
edited October 1 in Chit-Chat
Why do people beg for friends. I could see if someone post something that inspires you but.
Are they just seeing how many they can get? I understand if someone is asking for friends who are the same age or have the same weight loss goals, eating habit ( low carb, Vegan, Vegetarian) or seniors and mothers... But just to make a blank statement. It just seems odd. I also notice when someone post "I need friends", not a lot of people comment so I don't think I'm the only one who is suspicious. If someone needs support I totally understand. I was just wondering.

Maybe I should have asked how did you obtain your friends?:flowerforyou:

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  • helloiloveukitty
    helloiloveukitty Posts: 448 Member
    I don't know or really care but my guesses would be....they want / need support or they just like to have a big list or they feel like they need to just jump into the mfp community.
  • whitejessamine
    whitejessamine Posts: 166
    I would guess that these are people who don't have a strong support base at home, but really need to feel like there's someone in their corner. While it's not my approach, I applaud their courage to ask directly for what they want.
  • koosdel
    koosdel Posts: 3,317 Member
    I like talking.
  • goron59
    goron59 Posts: 890 Member
    What I find disturbing is posts like "I NEED MORE FRIENDS" (yea, usually in caps) - that's a bit harsh on the person's existing friends!

    Maybe there are people out there that are motivated by quantity and shallowness rather than quality and sincerity?

    :indifferent:
  • Suzay
    Suzay Posts: 60
    There's nothing negative about this so stop moaning. What's bad about looking for friends? Nothing.
  • Chairless
    Chairless Posts: 583 Member
    There's nothing negative about this so stop moaning. What's bad about looking for friends? Nothing.

    This, the community is probably the best thing about mfp, why does it matter how people go about recruiting support?
  • whatshesaid
    whatshesaid Posts: 53 Member
    I did this when I was new here, just thought it would be nice to have some likeminded people for support and inspiration on MFP, I tried the going it alone route and figured it might be beneficial to try it the other way. I didn't consider it begging though, just a call for some people with similar goals, like a support system. aren't we all here to help each other out? If you ask me, that's part of the experience, but then again, maybe I'm just desperate! Excuse the lack of proper grammar and punctuation, I'm on my iPad.
  • Carl01
    Carl01 Posts: 9,307 Member
    I am sure there are many reasons and each person has their own.
    My friends here are awesome and always like to have more,several are now "real" life friends so it is doubly a good thing.

    Remember,it is up to each one to decide how to use MFP for themselves and best to adopt a live and let live attitude about it.
    Seems to make life easier to navigate. :smile:
  • homeport51
    homeport51 Posts: 198 Member
    I'm guessing that friends drop off and/or flake off. Not everyone on here is here for the long haul. I like to have positive, motivated people around me. People that will hold me accountable and I will do the same for them. I live alone... so, this is my support system. People in the real world (here anyway) get real sick, real fast of hearing about what I am doing. I can talk about it as much as I want here and no one rolls their eyes and wishes I would find something else to talk about... lol
  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    Thank's for the comments.
  • Qarol
    Qarol Posts: 6,171 Member
    What I don't understand are friend requests with no message. Umm, why are you friending me? What made you seek ME out? I usually turn down those requests.
  • voluptas63
    voluptas63 Posts: 602 Member
    I'm personally going for the "Tila Tequila of MFP" award. Thanks.


    Geez. Way to crush a dream.
  • staceyGO
    staceyGO Posts: 376
    I did this when I was new here, just thought it would be nice to have some likeminded people for support and inspiration on MFP, I tried the going it alone route and figured it might be beneficial to try it the other way. I didn't consider it begging though, just a call for some people with similar goals, like a support system. aren't we all here to help each other out? If you ask me, that's part of the experience, but then again, maybe I'm just desperate! Excuse the lack of proper grammar and punctuation, I'm on my iPad.

    Smart cookie, similar goals, similar age, similar struggle.. there is strength in numbers my friend!
  • SkateboardFi
    SkateboardFi Posts: 1,322 Member
    I don't know or really care

    this
    There's nothing negative about this so stop moaning. What's bad about looking for friends? Nothing.

    This, the community is probably the best thing about mfp, why does it matter how people go about recruiting support?

    and this
  • writtenINthestars
    writtenINthestars Posts: 1,933 Member
    ...As long as people are finding the support and motivation they need, it doesn't really matter how they go about it. :flowerforyou:
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