Hard Day Today

bnicoletti22
bnicoletti22 Posts: 23 Member
edited November 2024 in Motivation and Support
Bear with me, this is gonna be a LOT of information.

I absolutely hate my job. I feel good about myself and my life when not at work, but as soon as I step back into work I feel like a failure, that I have no forward momentum, that I'm not going anywhere with my life. This causes me to snack while I'm here because it makes me feel better (at least temporarily).

I started this really intense 80 day program with Beachbody and I was killing it with my workouts. I would say food was 60/40 (toward the healthy side). I was feeling so great, and then at the end of Phase 1 I took my measurements and pictures and NOTHING had changed.

I feel like I have nothing going for me right now, and I just feel disappointed that I'm entering my last year of my 20s and I feel like I don't have much to show for it. I have an amazing husband, but I thought by now I'd be pregnant, and I don't feel comfortable getting pregnant at the weight I'm at, so no babies for me. I don't have an exciting career path. I don't really feel like I have any hobbies that excite me. This weight is hanging on for dear life. I just feel totally stuck and disappointed in myself.

I know there are so many other people in the world going through far worse than I am right now, but I feel like every day is a mental battle and I feel so blocked and frustrated that I don't know what to do.

Anyway, that's my rant today. Any advice or kind words would be much appreciated <3

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  • quiksylver296
    quiksylver296 Posts: 28,439 Member
    Sending hugs. Exercise is a mood booster, so don't stop your workouts. I would suggest buying a food scale, and start weighing and logging your food. If you do this honestly, you'll lose.

  • JorrunFulhelm
    JorrunFulhelm Posts: 42 Member
    You got this! The important thing to remember is that when you feel like giving up, you gotta keep going because even if you feel like you haven't made progress-you really have! You are working on yourself, and it isn't easy. Hang in there!
  • kommodevaran
    kommodevaran Posts: 17,890 Member
    In line with suggestion above - just eat a little less, consistently, which probably means you'll have to stop snacking at work - and you'll lose weight.
  • tensquaredlives
    tensquaredlives Posts: 47 Member
    Can you make a career move? What are your passions?
  • tulips_and_tea
    tulips_and_tea Posts: 5,746 Member
    tensquaredlives wrote: »
    Can you make a career move? What are your passions?

    This is what I was going to ask as well. What things DO you enjoy? Is it possible to change your career path?
  • JaydedMiss
    JaydedMiss Posts: 4,286 Member
    i found a very important part of my weight loss was internal reflection and putting some seriosu effort into finding hobbies and being social and overall just trying to improve my mood in other ways. Cleaning my house for example to give myself one more thing to be proud of and one less to stress me out. You need to take care of your mental health to. You deserve to be happy, Find what you need and do it.
  • JeromeBarry1
    JeromeBarry1 Posts: 10,179 Member
    Productive self-criticism is when you use the self-criticism to identify the root cause of your performance which you criticise. To keep it simple, remember the 7 P's. Piss Poor Planning Preceeds Piss Poor Performance.

    Planning to perform better, to be living a life you choose to be proud of, is hard work. Do it.
  • wellthenwhat
    wellthenwhat Posts: 526 Member
    I know a little how you feel. I worked at a bank for a year and a half after working on a turkey farm. Everyone told me this was such a step up and so on. I hated it. Every day I felt myself slowly dying inside. I went from being happy 89% of the time and decent 9% of the time, only being really sad 2% of the time to being in the dumps 89% of the time and only really happy once or twice a week. I watched my body get fat and weak, and I ate more cause I was unhappy. I sat all day at work and got home exhausted, the last thing I wanted to do was exercise. So finally I decided it wasn't worth it and went back to the farm. I catch turkeys for a living now. I freaking love it. I work from 4am to 12pm or so most days, I have the rest of the day to do as I want. It is very physically demanding, yet I get home with more energy than ever. I dont have the opportunity to snack at work like I used to, I am away from food and there is no food there except what I bring, so I can decide exactly what I want to eat each day before I go. My body is stronger than it ever has been, and is getting back to being as lean as I ever have been. I'm happy again. That means so much to me.
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