Anyone else going through a divorce??

Hang in there, girl! I too am a single mom of two, ages 8 and 6. I've been separated 3 years, divorced for one and half. You have some intense feelings to work through, but trust me, it gets better over time. I wish I had known more divorced people who could tell me that. The anger and sadness are so normal. I highly recommend reading Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert. She wrote a memoir about healing from her divorce (and breakup from a boyfriend after that) that I really found meaningful. After a few years of feeling angry at him and sorry for myself and cheated and all that, I am finally coming through this happier than I've been in MANY years, including most of my married ones. I am focused on growing as a person and helping guide my kids through their childhood.

Everyone here has great advice - You WILL make it through okay, and you WILL be able to select a partner in the future that gives you everything you deserve in a relationship. Until that point, just take it one day at a time and try to focus on the great things you're about to do for yourself and your son, and not on the horrible things your ex did to you. It's not easy, and it is important to grieve the relationship for a while, but this WILL be an exciting time for you! You get a do-over! And you've learned a lot along the way.

I've been divorced from my first husband four years now, and I'm engaged to a man that I never believed could exist.

I split from my ex almost exactly a year ago and the divorce has been final for 3 months. It was really bad in the beginning but then one day I realized how much he had been lying the past 8 years and something in my brain just clicked. I wasn't 100% over it and fully emotionally healed BUT I did feel happy about it and felt good about moving forward.

I bought a really good book on divorce from Chapters called "The Dinosaurs Divorce" and we read it as a bed time story for quite a few nights, my youngest was 5 and this really helped her to understand, and it was written in a fun way that she could understand.

My divorce was final on May 4 so if you need a friend, feel free to add me and yes it does suck but if it is for the best it does get better..I promise :-) :flowerforyou:

As far as your son goes, you probably want to be as upbeat as you can because kids take their cues on how to feel about things by watching their parents. Save your tears and anger for your parents, friends, or whoever else can be supportive listeners when your son is not around.

I told my kids that Daddy was going to live in another house and we weren't married anymore, but that we are always going to be a family. They will always have their Mommy and their Daddy, just in different houses. We both have tried very hard never to argue in front of the kids or get into emotional discussions. It was really hard in the first year or so, but now it's gotten to the point where we are both healed enough to be civil and even joke around and chat sometimes. We try to only talk about the kids. It's not that I like to see my ex; it's just no longer emotionally turbulent and painful. I have to see him twice a week due to the custody, and I'm sure you'll have to get used to that too.

Also, I would try to find an attorney right away who has a good reputation and is a peacemaker. Mine advised me to be firm on things that were important to me, but otherwise to be as conciliatory as possible. I was very happy with how my divorce turned out legally, and being giving where you can gives you credit when it comes to your most valuable resource, time with your son.