I've lost 45 pounds and no one has noticed or commented
myboa
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Hi, I have somewhat quickly gone from 200 lbs to 155. not one, and I mean not one person seems to have noticed and if they have no one has commented. what gives?
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I wouldn't want comments about my body and find it rude when people do.
Congratulations on your weight loss, your health will be better for it.
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Have you noticed? That's all that really matters. Congrats to you doll.6
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Many people are so worried about offending any one they never say anything at all. Or it could be jealousy.12
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I don't think it's cool to comment on people's weight one way or the other. Would you want comments if you had gained 45 pounds?
Congratulations on the new, healthier you!8 -
Congrats and well done. I wouldn't expect anyone but pretty good friends to comment, for anyone else I would assume that they don't want to risk offending. Weight is such a sensitive issue. For close friends ... IDK?4
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Congrats. Weight loss or gain makes people uncomfortable sometimes. One of those do I/don't I say something 'things'.
Way to go though!1 -
Weight loss comments are touchy, as people mentioned. They are a double edged sword for the speaker.. "Oh wow, you look great!" Suggests, maybe you didn't look so good before. "Have you lost weight??" The response could easily be, "I was diagnosed with ________" Close friends, family, those that know I'm trying to lose weight, they notice and comment, but even then they are careful with it and I appreciate that. It means they care about my feelings.4
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It took a 37 pound loss before 1 person (and I mean just one) said my "face looked a little thinner" even though I am down 37 pounds, have lost 26.5 inches and am down 4 sizes! I don't understand either. Even my best friend has not even commented on my weight or look at all. I have reminded myself that I have not done it for anyone else. Just for myself and my own health and satisfaction. I just wanted a little support and affirmation. But that's okay. I move forward and diet on. I am only glad that stayed a part of my life even as I gained weight and never thought less of me then. I've been dieting since early January. Rock on! You are doing fantastic and you will find all the support you need right here on mfp.8
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I have a friend who was really big got cancer and lost a tone of weight due to surgery and nearly not making it at some point and a tone of treatments. When people ask him wow you have lost weight how did you do it the conversation become awkward so sometimes people don't always lose weight by choice and that's why some people may not comment if they do not know you are actively trying to.
Congrats on your weight loss.
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thank you all for your nice comments. I know I am doing this for me but sometimes would like the affirmation but I know what you mean about people being afraid to offend
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That's weird. I would think people that know you and your health would shower you with compliments. Are you notoriously sensitive and hostile to feedback? lol Congrats on a great achievement!3
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Hi, I have somewhat quickly gone from 200 lbs to 155. not one, and I mean not one person seems to have noticed and if they have no one has commented. what gives?
Commenting on someone's body or weight is pretty taboo. A lot of people can't take a compliment and interpret something like, "hey, you look great...have you lost weight?" to mean, "wow...you used to be a big fat ugly piece of *kitten*."
Just do a search here and how many people hate it when someone comments on their weight loss.
The only people that ever made comments about me losing weight were family members and one other female friend who I hadn't seen in months when I ran into her at the gym.4 -
Are you still wearing the same clothes? Sometimes too large clothing can make you look bigger.6
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kimothyschma wrote: »Are you still wearing the same clothes? Sometimes too large clothing can make you look bigger.
I came to say this! I think if before you were stuffed into your clothing (I was) some of that weight just means that you have shrunk into better fitting those clothes. If they are now baggy, people might not be able to tell whats happening under them5 -
Congratulations on your success! I would be perplexed, too, if nobody mentioned seeing a change. Maybe they don't want to discuss such a sensitive topic as weight, though. I bet you look terrific!!0
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Send a before and after photo here and we will shower you with everything you need
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I also say it takes new proper fitting clothes for people to notice. Too big clothes makes you look sickly or sloppy.0
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Congratz!!0
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Agree with all the others saying get better fitting clothes.
And show us some pics! We'll be your biggest fans Congrats! 1 -
I agree that it’s nice to hear how great you look after your hard work!0
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People can be hesitant to bring up such things so as to avoiding hurting or embarrassing the person. Also, if you lost it super fast, they might think you have some illness that you don't want to talk about.
Or they're just jealous!0 -
No one said anything to me until I was down more than 50 pounds! I realized that people are afraid of offending you, as other have said. I'm sure people have noticed. You're doing great!!0
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When I lost weight years ago, it was the same thing. No-one ever said a word until over 40 pounds. I was feeling so frustrated, yet determined not to say anything. Then someone commented, and the flood gates opened! People were uncomfortable bringing it up, but when I responded positively they relaxed. Interestingly, I'm repeating the process. I'm down 29.5 pounds and not a word, though it is clearly obvious. Human nature...funny stuff!0
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When I lost weight years ago, it was the same thing. No-one ever said a word until over 40 pounds.
^^Ditto this 6 years ago for me. Never bothered me much though. I was pretty uncomfortable when people commented on my weight loss.
Just today I was at the grocery store. There is a man that works in the dairy/frozen foods department. He was very obese, but has lost a huge amount of weight over the past year. I have debated with myself about commenting on his success for the past few months, and almost congratulated him today, but chickened out at the last moment again.
I guess I have always refrained from commenting on others weight loss for fear of offending. Perhaps I should make the effort as everyone feels differently, and maybe for some, it would make their day!
Congrats to you OP! Well done!
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Hi, I have somewhat quickly gone from 200 lbs to 155. not one, and I mean not one person seems to have noticed and if they have no one has commented. what gives?
I don't know if it's appropriate to ask someone if they lost weight or tell them they look like they lost weight.. . Kind of a touchy subject and borderline rude... maybe thats why no one is saying anything.1 -
I work in a building that is 98% female. As a male there is no way I will comment on a woman's body unless she were to bring up the weight loss first.2
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There's definitely some trepidation about asking unless there's positive knowledge that a person isn't dealing with an illness.1
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