What has to happen?
Lou66Sar
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What has to happen to me for me to finally say "enough is enough"?
Am I the heaviest I've ever been? Yes. Am I unhappy with myself? Yes. Are ALL my clothes becoming too tight? Yes. Do I catch a glimpse of myself in a shop window and shake my head in disgust? Yes.
So why oh why do I continue to eat crap?
Am I the heaviest I've ever been? Yes. Am I unhappy with myself? Yes. Are ALL my clothes becoming too tight? Yes. Do I catch a glimpse of myself in a shop window and shake my head in disgust? Yes.
So why oh why do I continue to eat crap?
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Have to tried logging the food you eat everyday! In a weeks time, see if you can shave off some calories. Try diet soda instead of regular soda. Or grilled instead of fried. Just trying to guess what you mean by crap.1
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Most of it is just plain old habit...It is very hard to change around how much we eat and how little we exercise.3
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I agree with the above comment. And I also felt the way you describe before I started.
The thing for me was that I had to be mentally ready to change- while I was still listening to all the “But it will be hard (it’s not that hard)/ I’ll have to give up foods I love (no, you don’t)/ What if I get hungry?” statements/ questions and other negative reasons why I SHOULDNT start in my head, it was easier to keep putting it off, despite feeling miserable about my weight.
I had to get in the right frame of mind and find my “why”. And I had to change the negative self talk into positive. Once I get as able to do that, I was ready.
Now nearly 6months down and over 20kg gone, I’m feeling so much better about myself, and it’s not as hard as I feared it would be- in fact, I’m actually enjoying the process because I get to watch the weight come off!!!4 -
Add me girls!!1
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Add me!!0
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Great discussion!! I need my to find out my why!!0
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You need to decide which do you want more. The crap or a happy and healthy life. Wanting to see my kids grow up and be healthy and active was my why. You will find yours.2
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find an easy but effective exercise that you enjoy. eat what you're eating currently and adjust your diet slowly. eventually your body will reject oily or salty food as your progress. i remember when i first started diet and exercise it wasn't easy. first i found out i liked cycling and it was easy enough to do almost daily so i continued with it. my diet was still poor at the start of things. i ate a lot of carbs oils. what happened later was pretty interesting to me. what happened was that as i continued what i was doing i realized for cycling the lighter you are the better performance you get especially up hills. i started to change my diet slowly and began seeing weight loss. of course i couldn't just quit junk food all together it took time. over the course of time my body didn't want all the oily and salty foods that i craved before. so find something active that you enjoy and stick to it and adjust your diet as needed. you can do this don't let yourself or anyone tell you that you can't. remember when it hurts the most or when you crave certain foods more than ever you're doing something right.
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I think you will continue to "eat crap" until you connect the dots.
You don't "eat crap" in order to become overweight.
What is the alternative to "eating crap"? Why don't you do that?1 -
For me, it is a mixture of habit and addiction. I can tell myself all day 'no', but as soon as the thought crosses my mind I fold like a napkin. I am slowly but surely getting better, but I still have a long way to go.0
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What has to happen to me for me to finally say "enough is enough"?
Decision. Read this.
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/818701/the-myth-of-motivation-and-what-you-need-instead/p12 -
I think different people are moved to take action by different things. I've never been overly concerned about how bad I look, but when I started feeling awful all the time (and spent over $1000 in testing to find out there was no major medical issue going on), I decided I should try getting some of the weight off and see if that helped. Well, duh. Within 40 lbs, no more reflux, no more indigestion, I got my mobility back, etc. While that initially motivated me, I had to take the simple step of committing to logging and staying within the calorie allowance MFP gave me. I wasn't thrilled about it, but I didn't make it any harder than it had to be by going with a very low calorie allowance or eliminating all the foods I enjoyed. I slowly developed good habits that helped me to stay within my calories (at least maintenance calories when I wasn't feeling up to being in a deficit) and those good habits stuck when the motivation left (and it always does). I do suffer from depression and go through periods where I just can't bring myself to care enough to take care of myself, so I am dealing with a recent regain, but I still weigh 50 lbs less than I did 10 years ago, and I consider that a success (of sorts).
I would encourage people not to think for weight loss to work that you have to completely overhaul your diet overnight, eat like a bird, and force yourself to do some exercise you hate. You likely gained weight by eating a few hundred more calories a day (if that) over a long period of time. You can lose weight by eating a few hundred less a day over a long time. It's very doable. 5 -
hippysprout wrote: »What has to happen to me for me to finally say "enough is enough"?
Decision. Read this.
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/818701/the-myth-of-motivation-and-what-you-need-instead/p1
Yes, I like this thread too. Motivation is a starting point, but decision & habit get the job done.2 -
What has to happen to me for me to finally say "enough is enough"?
Am I the heaviest I've ever been? Yes. Am I unhappy with myself? Yes. Are ALL my clothes becoming too tight? Yes. Do I catch a glimpse of myself in a shop window and shake my head in disgust? Yes.
So why oh why do I continue to eat crap?
Even small actions can add up to big changes. Pick one thing and start there. Want to stop eating potato chips or cookies? Stop bringing them into the house. Track and log every single thing that passes your lips. And then review it to see where you can make changes Don't eat anything that you hate just because it's supposed to be healthy. Find stuff you like to eat and just make it fit within your calorie goals.
Good luck! You can do this!
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From a quote:
Losing weight is hard.
Being fat is hard.
Pick your hard.
You have to decide what you want more, to be the same or to change.2 -
Pictures! Lots of pictures of yourself! I have been on Keto sin January and I don’t think I would have made it if it weren’t for looking at all the pictures. I would see suttle differences in each photo and that is what kept me going. Pictures don’t lie. Good luck! You can do this!1
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I'm guessing you continue to eat crap because you're the heaviest you've ever been, you're unhappy with yourself, you shake your head in disgust when you see your own reflection....
I went on a low-cal faddish diet (Scarsdale) for two weeks to jumpstart my weight loss. It's tough - black coffee, protein bread for breakfast, half a grapefruit, etc. But every single meal is prescribed and enough weight came off in those two weeks that I felt a lot better about continuing on the journey! This was a version of "Motivation *follows* action."
In my experience, I didn't start exercising until I'd lost a significant amount of weight. Lugging the extra 35 pounds around was just too much - it would be hard for me to carry a German shepherd puppy or a mid-size microwave on my back even just walking for 15 minutes. BUT, to each her own.What has to happen to me for me to finally say "enough is enough"?
Am I the heaviest I've ever been? Yes. Am I unhappy with myself? Yes. Are ALL my clothes becoming too tight? Yes. Do I catch a glimpse of myself in a shop window and shake my head in disgust? Yes.
So why oh why do I continue to eat crap?
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You have to detach yourself from behavior. You can be disgusted with your behavior, but being disgusted with yourself is unhealthy, unhelpful, and untrue.
We invest time, energy, and all manner of value into things we love. Any act of self improvement is an inherent act of love.2 -
I lost 100lbs between my Junior year and Senior year in high school. I just woke up one day and decided that I was tired of being the fat kid at school. I was like, "I have one year left, I have to make it count!" So at the end of my junior year, I started the push, lost a lot of weight during the summer, came back to my Senior year a little chunky, but not obese, by Christmas break that year I was 210, I graduated at 185lbs.
My daily goal was 1200 calories, and I lost anywhere from 4-6lbs a week.
It was not healthy, but it worked at the time. However, that was 20 years ago and i pushed myself all the way back to 284. My wife and I both have a weight problem and she has pushed me to diet with her multiple times in the last 10 years. But I couldn't find that motivation, until my son was born a year and a half ago.
I wanted to lose weight for him. I wanted to be able to run around with him and chase him without passing out. But, it turns out even that wasn't enough for me to stop eating garbage. It wasn't until Kevin Smith had his heart attack, that I realized, I could die and my son would be without his father.
So I listened to how Kevin handled it. He recommended Penn Jillettes book, Presto! So I picked it up on Audible. I listened to Penn describe the same crap that I went through. He is self deprecating in a funny way that applied to me in all the right areas. So there it was, my motivation! It wasn't just being able to chase and play with my son, I realized I needed to be alive for him! I moved to a plant based diet, I stopped eating processed food, and I'm losing weight.
More importantly I'm losing weight at a healthy and manageable level!
I've changed the way I eat for the rest of my life. Which I hope is long, because my son needs a father!1 -
I found thinking about starting harder than actually doing it. Start easing into it.1
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I found thinking about starting harder than actually doing it. Start easing into it.
I've lost over 100 lbs twice in my life.... people have asked me if losing all that weight was hard.
No it wasn't hard.
Committing to do it was the hardest thing for me.... took me years.... I wish I had an easy answer to what flips the switch inside my head cause I'd be rich.
Being able to trust in the process is crucial.
It's also knowing that if I can ride out those days that feel like a month and the weeks that feel like a year I'll come out the other side healthier and happier.
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I am so with you! The app has really opened my eyes to the hidden calories. I have tried low or no carb diets and I have tried the whole food plant based diet. Neither worked for me. Turns out it was all the CALORIES. Now I faithfully record everything I eat. I plan ahead and always have a healthy snack nearby in case I am stuck somewhere with no food. I have been tracking my intake and exercising often for just over two weeks and I have lost 4 pounds. YES THIS WORKS. I will stick to it and I hope everyone else finds what works for them! AND drink LOTS of water. I thought I drank a lot of water before. I now drink nearly a gallon at work and this has made a huge difference. Good luck!0
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From a quote:
Losing weight is hard.
Being fat is hard.
Pick your hard.
You have to decide what you want more, to be the same or to change.
I love this!!!! Thank you.1 -
Step one was me getting more active on a daily basis.
Step two I stared logging food and I realized I was eating way more than I needed to so I cut back. It was hard at first but as it became habit it was no big deal.
Step three is to reduce the bread and potato carbs that I was eating out of habit.
Step four is when I was seeing results I got carried away and very disciplined. I ate at deficit daily, went to the gym every other day and ran 30 miles a week.
Step five I lost my beer gut of 50 pounds.
Step six I slacked off and put 25 pounds and my gut back on.
Step seven started last week. I started running again.0 -
It is just too easy to find crap fast food on every corner. I am trying to make our meal plan as exciting as possible - tasty, colourful and healthy.0
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I'm gonna get woo'd for this but you've got to love yourself. When you love yourself the way you may love others, you start to want the best for yourself. So it might be hard to do the work, but you'll grit down and get it done because you care about yourself. Just like I make my kids eat well and go outside because I love them.1
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