Back Tracked w/ Eating & Need Some Motivation

shiflettsgirl2013
shiflettsgirl2013 Posts: 4 Member
in Motivation and Support
Hi all! When I started this weight loss journey and life style change in August 2017 I was at my heaviest - 215lbs. I hadn’t realized I had gotten so heavy on my 5’2 frame.... until I went for my annual check up. I was embarrassed, shocked, angry at myself and overall unhappy with the way I looked. A little back history - I am 36 and had a total hysterectomy in 2009 and gradually started packing on the pounds. After finding out my thyroid was too low, starting medication, starting a low carb diet per my doctor, I cut out all soft drinks and drinking water with crystal light singles and walking my neighborhood I immediately started losing weight. I got the courage a couple of months later to join a gym and get a trainer. It’s been a lot of hard work with moments sprinkled in of crying out of frustration and wanting to throw the towel in. I didn’t give up because I want to be healthier for myself, my son and my husband. I’ve allowed myself a cheat day every once in a blue moon and have gotten down to 169-170.

For the past several weeks I had been in a really good rhythm and dropping about 2lbs per week. Yesterday we had to make the decision to put one of our two dogs to sleep due to cancer. As a family we are devastated and heartbroken. He was my “protector” when my husband would travel for work and was my shadow all the time. We were so upset last night that instead of cooking dinner, we ordered pizza. I ate way more than I should have. Then today I started out really good and ended up eating a brownie and then a small scoop of pasta tonight with dinner. I’m kicking myself in the butt for eating the crap I shouldn’t have. I know it’s emotional eating but I’m scared it’s going to continue. Any help/advice to get over this hump is much appreciated.

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  • ahoy_m8
    ahoy_m8 Posts: 3,053 Member
    Aw. It’s so sad to lose a faithful pet. You never stop missing them and loving them. Hugs to you. Maybe you could cut yourself some slack. There’s nothing wrong with pizza, a brownie, pasta or any other food on occasion and in a reasonable portion. I’m not trying to say emotional eating is ok, but sometimes life throws you a curve ball and priorities change. If you haven’t had a full diet break at maintenance in a while, maybe doing that for a week or 10 days will give you a chance to grieve, recharge , and get back into that groove.

    Btw...great progress so far. It’s normal and healthy for the rate of loss to slow as you approach goal. You could reassess an appropriate deficit for this next stage. 2 lb per week is a lot for someone your height. I could never stick to that.
  • kateowp
    kateowp Posts: 103 Member
    Im so sorry for your loss- I recently lost a much loved pet too. Dont kick yourself about 2 days of eating over calories- put it behind you. The longer you beat yourself up the longer the behavior stays with you. Tomorow tell yourself that you did it yesterday, but thats OK and over- today you are back in rhythm.
  • psychod787
    psychod787 Posts: 4,099 Member
    ahoy_m8 wrote: »
    Aw. It’s so sad to lose a faithful pet. You never stop missing them and loving them. Hugs to you. Maybe you could cut yourself some slack. There’s nothing wrong with pizza, a brownie, pasta or any other food on occasion and in a reasonable portion. I’m not trying to say emotional eating is ok, but sometimes life throws you a curve ball and priorities change. If you haven’t had a full diet break at maintenance in a while, maybe doing that for a week or 10 days will give you a chance to grieve, recharge , and get back into that groove.

    Btw...great progress so far. It’s normal and healthy for the rate of loss to slow as you approach goal. You could reassess an appropriate deficit for this next stage. 2 lb per week is a lot for someone your height. I could never stick to that.

    Sorry for the loss. This lady giving this advice is brilliant! IMHO. She has been at this game a long time. Sorry for the loss of the pet. I know I had a dog for 17 years. When I had to put her down, i cried! I put no credence on a "man card". I am and have learned that food was something I would run to when I was depressed, but it is not a cure for my problem. I think we have to find an outlet for our emotions. I personally like to slam weights when I get angry. They don't hit back, until the next day it is. I believe you will do well. Don't slam yourself hard. It's not a backslide IMHO. It's just a break. I see a lot of post that state, "Starting over" I personally believe we don't have to start over. Just kind of pick up where we left off and move forward. If we fail, we have to just pick up and so what works. Enjoy the losing weight process. Maintanace tends to be harder. Sorry again for the loss. Take a break maybe and get your emotions together. If you maintain your loss or even gain a couple pounds it's not a failure. You have still lost weight, which honestly is something many people try, but throw the towel in after a couple weeks. Bless you.

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