I feel like I will never move on from this toxic relationship

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  • SaraJ429
    SaraJ429 Posts: 50 Member
    spanish_liza wrote: »
    Sounds like your ex is an only child




    But my advice would be remove and block from all media’s
    Even phone numbers erase and just start new

    It’s hard cause he’ll still be in your mind but eventually he willl disappear from there too

    He is not an only child, he has a younger sister, but I am pretty sure his mother is narcissist. Not a flown blown narcissist but definitely has strong traits of narcissism. Father is sober and a good husband/father now but was an alcoholic for most of his childhood. It's not a mystery why he turned out this way.
  • SaraJ429
    SaraJ429 Posts: 50 Member
    FeelinFooFoo wrote: »
    Pour_Decisions wrote: »
    Salemss1 wrote: »
    jjpptt2 wrote: »
    What's at the crux of your feelings towards him? That you were hurt so deeply, but he (seemingly) wasn't? And that he's now moved on without any of the hurt and scarring and resentment that you feel?

    Yes :( I would say that's the exact feeling I have. At the risk of sounding like a toddler, but it all seems very unfair.

    It's understandable but take comfort in knowing that what goes around comes around. You may never see him hurt and he might always appear happy on social media etc. but Karma is abitch. Forget about him and be happy. His hurting days will come although you might never see that. Everyone feels (at some point or another) the results of their actions good or bad.

    True. The guy I had the misfortune of being in a relationship with had a new gf lined up within weeks. Was probably stalking the poor girl online already on Facebook and thought she'd make an easy catch. She was much younger than me too. Easily impressed and taken in. Easy to manipulate and control.

    But back to your point. I believe these people are already damaged and broken already, so it spills out into their relationships and warps everyone around them. But that's why I think they need a 'victim' in thier midst. They can't stand to be alone cos they would just be alone with their demons and that's no fun is it ? Karma is always on their tail and I think deep down they are afraid. People like that hurt so many people so they must worry about someone taking revenge.

    Yes, so true. I need to put my faith in karma and hope it all comes back to him.
  • nooshi713
    nooshi713 Posts: 4,877 Member
    Stop worrying about him or what he is doing. Like others have said, defriend him on social media, block his number, and don't concern yourself with him. Therapy would probably help a lot. When you look back, you will feel a weight has lifted. I have been through this, and recently. Trust me. Narcissists may use people but they are never truly happy. He will get his but thats not in your hands. You seem to have the self awareness to recognize the gaslighting and his tactics so dont blame yourself.
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