Would you let your spouse weigh you in?

Yes. We're closing in on 18 years together, there is nothing to hide.

Emily3907 wrote: »

Here is the situation:
Both DH and I are motivated about losing weight. I have much more to lose than he does, but he still wants to lose about 25-30 pounds (he has already lost 65). We are both very good about supporting one another, giving each other a little slack and neither of us is trying to guilt, control or manipulate the other about weight loss or appearance, etc. We both have more success when we have a little bit of accountability and so far, we have not really set up a way to be accountable, other than just discussing our highs/lows. Neither of us have anything to hide and we both already know approximately what each other weighs.

So, my question is, would you let your spouse witness your weigh in number, with the goal of having an accountability factor? I know I would probably push myself a little more, if I knew I was weighing in with my spouse once every so often (we are considering every two weeks).

My husband thinks this is an awesome idea and I do to, I just have more of a concern about this crossing some codependency boundary or creating a weird relationship dynamic that could lean unhealthy. I have no reason for concern as it stands right now regarding our relationship health. I know he would be nothing but supportive, as I would be for him.

Just wondering if you think it is weird, or if you would do it yourself.

Weighing in with my sibling with old family friends as witnesses benefitted me greatly when I was freight-weight heavy, for it forced me to maintain my calorie deficit to not disappoint "the community." Now, years later, presently on my cut, friends privy my weigh-ins, on the daily (AM), since we'd started our Dinner Group (where we take turns preparing and hosting a dinner, rotating from house to house, within our neighbourhood), committed to the same eating plan (dietary choice), readying ourselves for a sorority sister-friend's nuptials.

Weighing in together as a couple, as each other's accountability partner, in your fitness & good health pursuits is a far cry from what is weird. Throughout these processes, we sometimes are our harshest critics. I have buddies who are equally accessible to my progress, for they're worrywarts - scrutinising my calories, my splits, my hydration, my workout(s) and my weekly weigh-in average. When committed to - Calorie Deficit + Resistance/Strength training + Other workout preferences, your weigh-ins should prove to be something you look forward to doing, with those who love you looking in.

I don't care who sees my weight anymore. I freely post it on here and talk about it. Now, 2 years ago was a different story.

I blurt out my weight numbers to anyone who asks, be it loss or gain, even random strangers. I also know people who consider their weight number too personal to share even with the closest to them. It would depend on the person I guess? From your OP it looks like neither of you would feel violated, so I say go for it. If it starts causing too much pressure, you could always change the dynamics by simply telling him that it's not having the effect you hoped it would.

It honestly never occurred to me that anyone would hide their weight from anyone, let alone their spouse, until a friend recently told me her partner refused to tell her how much she weighed. We talked about it quite a bit because my friend and I are both on the same page, and wouldn't think twice about sharing that information. In my mind, it generally isn't a surprise, even if you think you look lighter/heavier than you really are than the number shouldn't actually matter. It's like a clothing size, 200 pounds can look super different on so many different bodies. Even when I was a good deal heavier, I didnt mind telling people what I weighed, it was just another fact like giving out my height. My wife and I have talked about weights a few times, and we help each other take measurements. It's so much easier to measure yourself with help, and knowing each others measurements has it's bonus when you want to surprise each other with clothing gifts.

Not sure why this would be considered weird?!

I don't think that weighing in with my husband weekly would really motivate me that much, but it works for you go for it! I already tell him what I weighed in at every week and he tells me when he happens to weigh...but me and my husband are REALLY competitive. It would become a competition quickly and we have completely different goals. He wants to bulk and cut a little and I have over 100lbs to lose, so yea. We don't need to be comparing ourselves to one another.

I don't see why it would be weird. it's your husband. He sees you naked. You can't hide from him.