help...I cant motivate myself!
planetmog
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Ive tried...I have horrible photos to remind me how unhappy I am with my weight, I have a wedding dress to get into (not a traditional one) and I just cannot get motivated to exercise and eat well. The ice cream holds me hostage, snack bars jump into my mouth uninvited and I literally dream about eating all the time. HEELLLPPPPPPPP!!!!!
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Take some responsibility for your own actions.
You choose to sit instead of go for a walk, you choose to eat ice cream that doesn't fit in your calories...
You don't need motivation, you just need to eat a bit less and move a bit more.8 -
Sorry but if you can't motivate yourself you're destined to fail.6
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Can't motivate you to do anything, that needs to come from you. Maybe you can start with one thing, such as eating either ice cream or a snack bar or pick one thing to start doing such as logging. Feel free to add me if you want, but you'll have to do something or find a better reason to start if you really want to2
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You have to take things seriously. Stop expecting to be motivated, and start taking control of what you can control. Food does not jump into your mouth. Being unhappy with weight and appearance is not always enough to change habits. Eating well does not mean only salads and protein shakes. Exercise doesn't have to be in the gym.6
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Maybe you need to lose the photos of who you were and start believing in who you can be. Stop beating yourself up for where you are and have been. Focus on where you want to go. When it comes to the ice cream and treats don't absolutely deny yourself but cut back on the amounts reminding yourself of your goals. This is what is working for me. My office job has me surrounded by food my officemates share. It's a mine field but I remind myself of where I want to be. That being said my self control fails sometimes and I just have to remind myself one failure does not mean complete failure. When you stumble just smile and tell yourself you'll do better next time and you willl.You can do this! Stay positive.3
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Remember that any progress, even a small accomplishment is still progress. Go into this with a positive attitude and believe you can make it happen.
I don’t keep junk food in the house so my mind doesn’t wander to it. My boyfriend used to bring me home candy or treats almost every night so I had to have a serious conversation with him about being supportive. Now every time he goes to the store he brings me a bottle of water, simply because he feels the need to bring something back for me. Having a close support is very helpful.2 -
I agree you need to take responsibility. You are an adult person. Bars don't jump into your mouth. You choose to eat them.
The sooner you realise you have the control the sooner things will start working for you.2 -
Motivation is a trap. Don't depend on it. Make real, sustainable changes, form new habits, and stick to them. Sometimes it's a grind, but that's life. I'm not motivated to brush and floss my teeth every day but I still do it because it's healthy for me.5
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im currently regaining by a chocolate "addiction" I lost 110, But suddenly i cant stop buying bags of chocolate and im up 15 pounds. I ave sexy lean cut pictures where i look amazing after all the work i put in, And i watch that me get further away day by day. I literally dream about chocolate, i manipulate my day and people in my day in order to go and get more. Iv even went as far as to put my debit card at a friends where i cant touch it because i cant stop. Not really sure i understand my weird obsession but its happening. But no. Its not jumping into my mouth. It feels like its out of my control, But its not. Its me grabbing my money, Its me walking to the store, Its me not controlling myself or my portions. No one is forcing me, Sure it may be a hormonal thing my body likes the fat and sugar, But im still the one doing it. I cant blame anyone but me. Even the rediculously strong pull and seeming obsession cant be blamed. Its me. And its you. Take your responsibility for what your doing. If you cant motivate yourself no one else can. And if you cant stop yourself you cant be upset at the results your not getting. Sorry but its as simple as that.6
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Ive tried...I have horrible photos to remind me how unhappy I am with my weight, I have a wedding dress to get into (not a traditional one) and I just cannot get motivated to exercise and eat well. The ice cream holds me hostage, snack bars jump into my mouth uninvited and I literally dream about eating all the time. HEELLLPPPPPPPP!!!!!
I feel like a lot of the above messages are kind of harsh.. People can motivate each other. And i understand that you were romanticizing by saying that snack bars jump in your mouth, I'm not sure why that was taken so literally.
I've been struggling too. In my mind I'm still the sexy thang I was just a few years ago... I'm over 50lbs up.. And whenever I am stressed all I crave is chocolate and I can totally understand what addicts feel like because I'm dying to have it.
Around 3pm at work, I'll have chocolate cravings. I just had to stop and right this moment I'm as stressed as can be but somehow I am not having the craving.
I know what you mean that even though you know you need to fit in that dress and you don't like the way you look you still can't motivate yourself..
I just had a big birthday party for myself and I look like the red queen from Wonderland in the pictures instead of a hula girl per carribean theme.
I'm throwing a Halloween party next and plan to be a fairy... I just don't want to look like Cinderella's fairy god mother instead of a fairy and at that point it hit me.. My life is not going to ease up, I'm always going to be busy, always going to be stressed.. Question is am I willing to invest in myself to make a change?
I'm still struggling to go ride my bike right this minute.. Last night I went out dancing with friends just so I could get some exercise and it be fun!
It helps to have mfp friends that push you... I did it before with the help of mfp friends thats the only way Mfp worked for me. Add positive people that will share tips.. That post about their struggles and their workouts.. Watching how much others are working out pushed me to go previously.
The last but not least thing is... Are you depressed? Because that could be a reason that's keeping you from getting up and going and instead just eating.... Also is your fiance happy with the way you look so he keeps telling you you're fine the way you are? You Need to tell him to stop saying that and go work out with you!1 -
Since in my mind I'm still 50+lbs lighter when I see my pictures I can't recognize myself.0
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I've been at this weight loss thing for a long time. The only time I've ever been successful and lost 40lbs was when I didn't rely on motivation. Discipline, structure, and routine is everything.
It's a lot harder to give in to temptation if you stop bringing food you 'can't' resist in to your home. It's easier to get your workout done even when motivation is low if you make it a nonnegotiable in your schedule/routine.
Another thing to consider is what you think the real problem is. Are you eating enough protein, enough real food? Are you an emotional eater? Are you eating too few calories? Being too restrictive? Drinking enough water? Answering those questions might help you figure out the underlying issue. They could make you feel hungrier than normal and lead to excessive snacking.
Be honest yourself.5 -
Good news. You really don’t need motivation beyond the first step. But you do need determination.
As a first step, why don’t you quit exaggerating? I believe you when you say you dream about food. So what? I dream about stuff that is completely goofy. Dreams don’t render us helpless.
If you’re saying you can’t control yourself with ice cream in the house, get rid of it. Run water on it and it will melt and be go in a minute. The snack bars can go it the trash.
Weight loss is a set of things to do. Do you want to pursue weight loss or do you just wish you weighed less? Start by exercising some control over your environment. Try to set yourself up to succeed, not fail. You can.6 -
Good news. You really don’t need motivation beyond the first step. But you do need determination.
As a first step, why don’t you quit exaggerating? I believe you when you say you dream about food. So what? I dream about stuff that is completely goofy. Dreams don’t render us helpless.
If you’re saying you can’t control yourself with ice cream in the house, get rid of it. Run water on it and it will melt and be go in a minute. The snack bars can go it the trash.
Weight loss is a set of things to do. Do you want to pursue weight loss or do you just wish you weighed less? Start by exercising some control over your environment. Try to set yourself up to succeed, not fail. You can.
True story.. I threw away all the sweets and tish from my birthday 🎂 in the garbage today.2 -
Ive tried...I have horrible photos to remind me how unhappy I am with my weight, I have a wedding dress to get into (not a traditional one) and I just cannot get motivated to exercise and eat well. The ice cream holds me hostage, snack bars jump into my mouth uninvited and I literally dream about eating all the time. HEELLLPPPPPPPP!!!!!
Another thing that helped me in the past was I would not come home from work unless I had gone to the gym first... That was how I forced myself to go. Whether it was just relaxation Yoga.. I went and did something2 -
Wanting to be an ideal size to fit in to a dress is different from wanting to make different choices from the pantry.
You need to acknowledge the connection. Is depriving yourself for a few months worth it?
If the answer is yes, find ways to treat yourself that doesn’t include high calorie foods.
I think a simple solution would be to resolve to weigh and log everything EVERYTHING that goes in your mouth.
If the answer is NO, then get a different dress you will be comfortable in.1
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