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Doubt you’re going to like it, but start a food diary. Years ago I read somewhere that keeping a list of what you eat was the #1 weight loss tool. Not even sure if it’s true, but that stuck in my head and it sure worked for me.

If you’re tempted to do it, don’t worry about macros, just a list, computer or paper, of what you eat and the calories. Use a food scale whenever possible. Try to hit your calorie target. But keep logging your intake no matter what. Even when you go over your number. Even if it’s way over your number.

It’s a pain in the neck at first, but as you gain awareness of what you’re doing, it gets easier. Set up a system of official weigh ins. Control as many factors as you can and keep a chart of your weight. You are seeking a long term downward trend and satisfaction with your life while you are doing it.

A plan that is making you miserable is not a good plan. Losing 100 lbs takes a lot of patience. Good luck.

Well, so far I've lost 185lbs....

How I did it. Eat less, move more. Very simple, but not necessarily easy.

Details of how I am doing it

1. A food scale. Absolutely essential. I need to be able to know how much I'm eating, to know how much I'm eating. The more calorie dense a food is, the more important it is to weigh it. (A few spinach leaves on a sandwich - eyeball method is fine), avocado on a sandwich - that gets weighed.
2. Realistic goals. I didn't gain all my weight in a month, it's not coming off in a month. Setting a weight loss rate too aggressive gets old fast. If you set a very aggressive goal, and are frustrated by how little you can eat; that goal is not realistic.
3. Patience. So long as you're in a calorie deficit you will lose weight. But, it takes time, a lot of time. Yes, I lost 185lbs, but it's taken me 3 years (170lbs in 2 years, 1 year body recomp, 4 months for another 15).
4. Don't overcomplicate things. If you need a specific diet (keto, vegan, Paleo, IIFMM....whatever) to help you get started, do it. If you are miserable on it, stop, do something else. There isn't one diet that works for everyone. I can do IIFMC (if it fits my calories), because I am the person that can be happy with one cookie, 6 chips, or 1/2 a candy bar. Some people need volume (there's a whole thread on volume eating). Do what works for you, there's a lot of trial and error.
5. Exercise is not required. While everyone should exercise: cardio for cardiovascular health, strength training for musculature. It isn't required to lose weight. Again, do what works for you. Find exercises that you enjoy doing, try something and if you like it GREAT! If not, try something else.
6. Bad days happen. Everyone has bad days, weeks (I had a very bad, but fun month in London - basically ate and drank my way through Southern GB for 3.5 weeks). It's okay. When you have a bad day, all it means is that your human, so congratulations on being human there are 8.5Billion of us. When you have a bad day, accept it, and move on.
7. Weight loss is not linear. Plateaus happen, water retention happens. I recommend setting two types of goals. 1. Weight. Set small weight loss goals of 5-10lbs at a time. 2. Activity goals. When water retention happens and the scale refuses to budge, look at your activity goals. If one month you can do 2 push-ups, and the next you can do 10, that's called progress.
8. Lots of goals. Set yourself a lot of smaller goals. Set a goal, then achieve it. Repeat. Smaller goals are easier to achieve and each small goal achived is proof of your progress.
9. Master Yoda was right. There is no try, there is do or do not. Don't "try" to lose 10lbs, lose 10lbs. Work on it everyday, one day at a time, and do it. It doesn't matter how long it takes, just that you keep going
10. Don't quit. That's the big one. The only time you can truly fail, is when you quit. As long as you keep going, you will get there.

You got this.