Feeling miserable

hippycrossstitcher · September 2018

Recently discovered intuitive/mindful eating & it seemed like the answer to my prayers. I’ve done weight watchers loads of times & tried to lose weight via mfp too but it always came back on. I’m following the Beyond Chocolate approach but I’ve gained even more weight. Should I keep following it or should I go back to traditional diet methods & just put up with restrictions & feeling miserable again?

TavistockToad · September 2018

or try eating food you like, but in a deficit so that you can lose weight. you don't really need to restrict that much at all, just get more clever about how you use your calories.

kommodevaran · September 2018

I smell some resentment. We all like to eat. We also lose weight by eating less/movng more, but not by trying to do it. Even if you're following an intuitive approach, you still have to be mindful, and that means accepting limitations. Exactly what limitations, is up to you. MFP has great, free tools that work if you use them correctly.

88olds · September 2018

Life has limits. We may not live as long as we’d like, enjoy good health as long as we’d like. Maybe we’d like to have more money or career success. Maybe more love. It’s just how it is.

Weight loss is about learning to live with some reasonable limits. A plan you won’t follow is not a good plan. But plans can be made better.

The remedy for weight loss misery seems to be patience. Patience in weight loss is one of those things that lots of folks talk about but few actually practice.

Give up the idea of beating yourself into following the most radical austerity eating plan. Think about finding some reasonable limits. It’s ok to spend some calories to be satisfied with your plan.

hippycrossstitcher · September 2018

Thank you both. I think my problem is the all or nothing mentality

mulecanter · September 2018

Eat what you like but put it on a small plate. Sweat everyday. Take the stairs. Before you open those chips have a glass of water and see how you feel about the chips then. Small modifications to behavior can make a difference. Listen to @88olds and be patient.

TavistockToad · September 2018

hippycrossstitcher wrote: »

Thank you both. I think my problem is the all or nothing mentality

Hows that worked out for you so far?

1BlueAurora · September 2018

Eat the foods you like and stay within your calorie budget every day. I lost 30 pounds by logging on MFP and having a dessert (slice of pie, 2 cookies, small portion of cake) nearly every day. I don't feel happy when I feel I have to give up everything I enjoy. I did start drinking a lot more water between meals, which kept me feeling fuller. The key for me was to decide I wasn't depriving myself, I was treating myself to better health, more energy, and a more attractive body.

VUA21 · September 2018

To lose weight:

1. Eat less
2. Repeat step 1 as necessary.

No special diets are required for weight loss. There are no magic foods that cause weight to increase or decrease (you don't have to eat stuff you don't like, nor give up stuff you do like). Simply eating at a calorie deficit is enough to lose weight.

countcurt · September 2018

Well, you’ve got a couple of options here.

You could just get rid of your scale. Your weight never goes up if you don’t weigh yourself.

OR

You could figure out a way to consume fewer calories than your body requires and implement that strategy. Which will undoubtedly lead to restrictions and possibly feeling miserable again. (Note- eating less than you want to, whether by specific design or by ‘mindfulness’ is, by definition, living with restrictions.).

OR

You could change your goals related to weight management.

You might be thinking I’m not being very sympathetic here. More that I’m trying to provide a little reality check. Which can also be useful in the process.

lorindariess · September 2018

Why don't you try a little of both? For example when eating weigh your food when possible for a week and write everything down with no judgement. Then input everything in after and see how many calories you consumed. Then you can look back on it and say did I have maybe a larger serving of mashed potatoes than I thought or maybe I need to add more vegetables to my day.

ITUSGirl51 · September 2018

I’ve lost over 70 lbs. I’ve maintained my loss since April 1, 2018. Some days I’m really hungry, even in maintenance, but most days I’m so happy I’m not fat anymore. I didn’t ever get to “miserable” when losing the weight or maintaining the weight. You can’t do extreme changes, but you do have to count your calories to eat in a deficit.

There was A LOT of misery with being obese and overeating. I fight the battle to maintain every day, but it’s so worth the fight! I refuse to go back to misery!

lacatgirl · September 2018

I've done the whole eat what you want mindfully thing so many times! It really makes sense but honestly I just gain and gain! I have given up on that snd now count calories allowing myself to make some of them unhealthy but needed! I will have a carvel cone 1x a week for lunch! It keeps me sane! Also I save calories si I can have a treat (usually halo top) at night! This keeps me honest all day... Good luck hope that helps!

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