best friends really NOT helping . .bless her!!

benodie
benodie Posts: 231 Member
edited October 1 in Health and Weight Loss
me and my best friend took our kids down to the sea front today to watch a small airshow . . .we had a lovely time and being british, decided to treat the kids to fish and chips for lunch. We are both dieting in various different ways so we both decided not to eat with the kiddies. Because I had my puppy with me she went off with my daughter to get something 'healthy' from the mall for us to eat . . .she came back with a chicken and bacon sandwich laden with mayonaise for me!! HOW in that situation do I say I don't want to eat it?? She thought she had chosen the right thing bless her . . .I ended up eating half of it and sneaking the other half in my bag when she wasn't looking, so I could chuck it in the bin! I tried to log it on here but because she bought it from a local bakery I had to guess . . .at best it was 300 cals just for the half that I ate!! Days like this are so hard :grumble:

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  • misslissa555
    misslissa555 Posts: 135 Member
    what did she get for herself??? :brokenheart:
  • fatgirlslove
    fatgirlslove Posts: 614 Member
    keep you're head up! My family and friends always try to force their junk on me lol
  • soknurdy
    soknurdy Posts: 74 Member
    Can't trust people to make those choices for you. I'd be a wreck though and probably would have done the same.
  • FairyMiss
    FairyMiss Posts: 1,812 Member
    i would of eaten the 'innards' and chucked the bread
  • Bakins929
    Bakins929 Posts: 895 Member
    what did she get for herself??? :brokenheart:
    I wondered the same!
  • shesblossoming
    shesblossoming Posts: 426
    Some people aren't very aware of what foods are good or bad. Anyone would think that a chicken sandwich is a great choice, but then I have to ask, "Does it have any type of spread? What kind of bread is it? How is the chicken cooked?" People think chicken sandwich and automatically assume it's good! Maybe talk to her about it? Not in a serious way but just let her know that you feel it's important to eat healthy. Or if you're in a situation like that next time, make a small request... something with extra vegetables or with no mayo.
  • benodie
    benodie Posts: 231 Member
    what did she get for herself??? :brokenheart:
    a ham egg and mayo sandwich and a HUGE flapjack (I love her but she has NO idea lol!!)
  • hbmcracer
    hbmcracer Posts: 105 Member
    i would of eaten the 'innards' and chucked the bread

    yup yup!!
  • TripleJ3
    TripleJ3 Posts: 945 Member
    what did she get for herself??? :brokenheart:
    I wondered the same!

    Fish and chips
  • Andee08
    Andee08 Posts: 147 Member
    I totally understand. My best friend really is clueless as well. On occassion when we go to one of our favorite places, she orders the quisch because she thinks its healthy. Little does she realize the cream, cheese, crust, and bacon are actually really bad! Just because it comes with a side of fruit does not make it healthy. I am hoping that eventually she gets on board for her health since she is 29 and now prediabetic with a BMI of 47%! I don't know your friends personality, but mine is way to sensitive to even bring it up to her.
  • benodie
    benodie Posts: 231 Member
    i would of eaten the 'innards' and chucked the bread

    yup yup!!
    ok good idea for the next time . .thanks :)
  • TripleJ3
    TripleJ3 Posts: 945 Member
    Chicken, bacon and mayo from a bakery? I'd say half would more be like 500 calories.

    But I'm from The States so maybe our portions are bigger:wink:
  • hbmcracer
    hbmcracer Posts: 105 Member
    I totally understand. My best friend really is clueless as well. On occassion when we go to one of our favorite places, she orders the quisch because she thinks its healthy. Little does she realize the cream, cheese, crust, and bacon are actually really bad! Just because it comes with a side of fruit does not make it healthy. I am hoping that eventually she gets on board for her health since she is 29 and now prediabetic with a BMI of 47%! I don't know your friends personality, but mine is way to sensitive to even bring it up to her.

    she should probably be eating the bacon and cream cheese and ditching the fruit.
  • d2footballJRC
    d2footballJRC Posts: 2,684 Member
    I have to deal with a 6 foot 4 skinny guy who is my best friend, unfortunately we share an office... all day he eats candy, drinks dr. peppers and is snacking 24 -7 and he is as skinny as a rail. Just enough to make you want to give up somedays.
  • MuffinMan25
    MuffinMan25 Posts: 110
    diet saboteurs!!!!! My Family does the same thing ALLLLLLL the Time!!! No one wants to be the fattest in the room, right?
  • JENIFER_AZ
    JENIFER_AZ Posts: 235 Member
    Gotta love BFF's. Lesson learned though. Don't trust anyone, including your BFF to get your food when you're on a diet.
  • benodie
    benodie Posts: 231 Member
    I totally understand. My best friend really is clueless as well. On occassion when we go to one of our favorite places, she orders the quisch because she thinks its healthy. Little does she realize the cream, cheese, crust, and bacon are actually really bad! Just because it comes with a side of fruit does not make it healthy. I am hoping that eventually she gets on board for her health since she is 29 and now prediabetic with a BMI of 47%! I don't know your friends personality, but mine is way to sensitive to even bring it up to her.
    THANKU . .glad someone undersatands lol! My friend is considerably smaller than me . .but also considerably shorter than me also. We are completely different . .she has horses and gets regular exercise sorting them out! I swear she thinks if something has chicken in it you are guaranteed to lose weight! :S
  • benodie
    benodie Posts: 231 Member
    Chicken, bacon and mayo from a bakery? I'd say half would more be like 500 calories.

    But I'm from The States so maybe our portions are bigger:wink:
    REALLY?? well today is well and truely buggered then lol!! x
  • sekeitheswingdreamer
    sekeitheswingdreamer Posts: 31
    I know what you mean. My best friend shovels down pound after countless pound of deep fried food, chips, soda, and the like and if anything he just seems to get skinner! Life is so unfair sometimes. :grumble:
  • jg627
    jg627 Posts: 1,221 Member
    Ouch! Gave up fish and your friend hands you a gut bomb? Sounds like your friend is a bit competitive.
  • chubbychristianchick
    chubbychristianchick Posts: 217 Member
    Here is a tip for the future: When offered something or put in a situation where you feel must take something... I always say no thank you I don't want to feel guilty later. This will make the person you are with stop and think as well as help you hold yourself accountable! In the mean time don't beat yourself or your friend up. It's easy to feel peer pressure and eat what we should when other are indulging!
  • MuffinMan25
    MuffinMan25 Posts: 110
    Just because our friends and family eat whatever they want and stay skinny dosn't mean their healthy. There heart and arteries need a break from that junk food.
  • eileenstevens
    eileenstevens Posts: 8
    I have this friend and i've been exercising with him and ha always trys to get me to eat something bad! He'll be like you can eat these french fries or this brownie we're going to burn it off. It's a little hard to deal with sometimes I haven't the best track record with sticking to healthy eating. I told him that I was trying to burn off the fat already on my body not the fat as im eating it, lol. I try to have a good attitude about having to say no all the time, it's frustrating but later I feel proud of myself for resisting the temptation.
    But I know alot of people who have no clue about nutrition, most of my friends will tell you I have tried to educate all of them at some point. They are nice about it because they know I love them. Maybe you could help your friend?
  • wendybird5
    wendybird5 Posts: 577 Member
    I get friends who, for some reason, expect me to eat any leftover food after a meal. "Here, why don't you finish this?" Um, I'm not your trash can...
  • whitelaurel
    whitelaurel Posts: 162 Member
    I have to deal with a 6 foot 4 skinny guy who is my best friend, unfortunately we share an office... all day he eats candy, drinks dr. peppers and is snacking 24 -7 and he is as skinny as a rail. Just enough to make you want to give up somedays.

    Haha, I have some guy friends like that. (I don't have any girl friends like that...) It makes me wonder! Seriously! Never give up, he's just one of those lucky *kitten* who was in the right place at the right time when God was giving out limited edition "Never Have To Worry About Your Weight In Your Life" passes. :)
  • d2footballJRC
    d2footballJRC Posts: 2,684 Member
    I have this friend and i've been exercising with him and ha always trys to get me to eat something bad! He'll be like you can eat these french fries or this brownie we're going to burn it off. It's a little hard to deal with sometimes I haven't the best track record with sticking to healthy eating. I told him that I was trying to burn off the fat already on my body not the fat as im eating it, lol. I try to have a good attitude about having to say no all the time, it's frustrating but later I feel proud of myself for resisting the temptation.
    But I know alot of people who have no clue about nutrition, most of my friends will tell you I have tried to educate all of them at some point. They are nice about it because they know I love them. Maybe you could help your friend?

    I would have to tell the friend if you keep trying to get me to eat bad stuff I am going to have to find another exercise partner. Losing weight is hard enough without extra outside temptations from someone else!
  • BlutAura
    BlutAura Posts: 97
    Luckily all my friends know to ask for exact instructions.
    If they know your aims and your ambitions they should not get offended if you reject their trash off hand, after all I'm assuming they want a healthy best-friend for years to come.

    Also beware the saboteur! There is always one... You know who they are! Always trying to sneak that cookie or flapjack into your lunch and make you feel guilty if you don't eat it!
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