Please help, feeling discouraged & hopeless

SeriouslyKari
SeriouslyKari Posts: 2 Member
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Hi, I'm new to this as of 24 hours and I'm already down. I have always been a curvy girl, and I like it. Even though I wasn't ever "skinny" I actually preferred my hourglass shape. In the past year I have gained 40 pounds though. And before that I was 20 pounds heavier than usual. So I'm 60 pounds from my confident curves. Now I have a serious belly, jiggly arms, huge thighs, and I can see the chub in my face. My mom died last year and it was the biggest blow to my life you could imagine. I was her caretaker. She was my everything. I have never turned to food for comfort and had self control, until this happened. I now desire food in a way I never had before. I don't like how I feel or look, for me, not for anyone else. As much as I want to change I can't seem to do it. My sister and best friend have tried doing health challenges with me. I've tried therapy. But I still can't stop from just eating what makes me happy... Because in every other way I'm so sad. I'm scared that losing weight and getting healthy won't fulfill me as much as eating comfort food does. I feel completely defeated. Does anyone have any advice to get me started? I feel lost.

(I also have a rare genetic disease where I can't do any impact activities. No walking long distances, zero running, no lifting... Basically I just stretch and some crunches)

Thank you. And good luck to everyone on their journey ❤️

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  • bmclavin
    bmclavin Posts: 9 Member
    edited October 2018
    I know how it feel to lose someone so close to you I loss my 4 year old son to brain cancer. After he died I ate to make the pain to go away and it did for a while . I just started my weight loss journey . only been on this journey 3 month now . If you need support I am here to talk or whatever . You can lose weight without touching weights or going to the gym I lost my first 20 pound just cutting things like pasta and bread I know sometime it feel hopeless but there is light at the end of tunnel <3<3
  • SeriouslyKari
    SeriouslyKari Posts: 2 Member
    Thank you so much. My heart is with you for the loss of your son. I can't imagine. I appreciate you and your offer to be here for me... And I hope you know it goes both ways. No matter what you may need- I'm here. (((HUG))) and congrats on losing weight! Good luck as you continue forward
  • serindipte
    serindipte Posts: 1,557 Member
    bmclavin wrote: »
    I know how it feel to lose someone so close to you I loss my 4 year old son to brain cancer. After he died I ate to make the pain to go away and it did for a while . I just started my weight loss journey . only been on this journey 3 month now . If you need support I am here to talk or whatever . You can lose weight without touching weights or going to the gym I lost my first 20 pound just cutting things like pasta and bread I know sometime it feel hopeless but there is light at the end of tunnel <3<3

    A sweet lady at WalMart the other day asked how I was and I was honest with her. I told her life sucked. She mentioned that there was always someone else worse off... I told her my dad had just died from brain cancer. Now, I see your post... I can't imagine the pain you face at having lost your young son. One expects to lose parents, but not children.

    As far as OP.. I second what she's said. You don't have to exercise at all to lose weight. I lost 50lbs without doing any countable exercise. Weigh & log your food, stay within your calorie goals and you will lose weight. For activity, do what you can as you are able if that means walking for 5 mins or doing seated exercises. Any movement beyond what you're already doing will improve your calorie burn.

  • bmclavin
    bmclavin Posts: 9 Member
    <3<3:) Thank you
  • snowflake954
    snowflake954 Posts: 8,399 Member
    It's true that you don't have to exercise to lose weight, however you might just feel better with some movement. Do what you can--everyday. Can you swim? That might help you. Going from helping someone everyday, to dealing with their loss leaves a void. Look into new activities, even volunteering can give you a lift. Try to stay within your calorie goal everyday and use a digital food scale to weigh and measure everything. Good luck and sorry for your loss.
  • Bridget758199
    Bridget758199 Posts: 4 Member
    SeriouslyKari wrote: »
    Hi, I'm new to this as of 24 hours and I'm already down. I have always been a curvy girl, and I like it. Even though I wasn't ever "skinny" I actually preferred my hourglass shape. In the past year I have gained 40 pounds though. And before that I was 20 pounds heavier than usual. So I'm 60 pounds from my confident curves. Now I have a serious belly, jiggly arms, huge thighs, and I can see the chub in my face. My mom died last year and it was the biggest blow to my life you could imagine. I was her caretaker. She was my everything. I have never turned to food for comfort and had self control, until this happened. I now desire food in a way I never had before. I don't like how I feel or look, for me, not for anyone else. As much as I want to change I can't seem to do it. My sister and best friend have tried doing health challenges with me. I've tried therapy. But I still can't stop from just eating what makes me happy... Because in every other way I'm so sad. I'm scared that losing weight and getting healthy won't fulfill me as much as eating comfort food does. I feel completely defeated. Does anyone have any advice to get me started? I feel lost.

    (I also have a rare genetic disease where I can't do any impact activities. No walking long distances, zero running, no lifting... Basically I just stretch and some crunches)

    Thank you. And good luck to everyone on their journey ❤️

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