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mustacheU2Lift
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Go for it. What's something on your mind...opposing views...
1st date canceled ...would you schedule a 2nd
Man expecting Dutch on a 1st date
Women saying I'm fine when they are not...ya or nay (maybe she was fine till you asked her if she's was fine)
Too many selfies...is there an acceptable amount
Skipping over people in threads ...rude or just having fun
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***these views are not my own nor do I hold any accountability if this thread crash and burns...hard feelings not allowed, play at your own risk, devils advocates welcome
1st date canceled ...would you schedule a 2nd
Man expecting Dutch on a 1st date
Women saying I'm fine when they are not...ya or nay (maybe she was fine till you asked her if she's was fine)
Too many selfies...is there an acceptable amount
Skipping over people in threads ...rude or just having fun
Pick a side
***these views are not my own nor do I hold any accountability if this thread crash and burns...hard feelings not allowed, play at your own risk, devils advocates welcome
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So. I read the post about paying for your half of the date...heres my thoughts
If I know I'm not going to want a 2nd date I offer to pay half...sometimes I will set that agreement up ahead of time ...
One time on the date I said I'll pay for my half and he was shocked...he said wow, yes that would be nice...I go on first date after first date shelling out x amount of $...
I never thought of it like that...
Side note...he did not know the reason I offered was because I didnt want a 2nd date
But yes i am more impressed with a man who refuses and insists on paying...points for him6 -
I try not to skip people...but I also respond to things I relate to or find funny...sometimes our style or personality lends us to react to other posters more...0
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Weirdly enough I'll cancel a first date but if someone cancels on me...no reschedules.0
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tinkerhellraiser wrote: »if u offer to pay and he accepts and u get offended then basically u just set a trap and that means u are prolly the type who will do that all the time saying things like “do u think my sister is pretty?” and then getting mad no matter what the guy says JMO
True. But I didnt say I got offended. I just said there's something about a man who insists on paying...maybe validating that hes truly into me...but I choose to offer so as to not put expectations on either of us in case one of us is not into it. A trap would be intentionally doing this to see how he responds.0 -
Ladies hiding our emotions-don’t, just don’t! I’m a lady myself and I personally value honest yet respectful communication, so that is what I will give and expect unless and until doing so has been clearly stated as a safety threat (such as in the “I’ll give you something to cry about!” threat). You (general you, but especially my close male relatives) will NOT EVEN THINK ABOUT speaking to me that way or striking me, not even in “love” (no-due to my injury, “love pats” to the kitten are actually a fantastic nonverbal way to express “I fully-grown cat HATE YOU!!”), unless you want lifelong court appointed anger management “shrinkage” (therapy) in a setup that will indefinitely separate you from your family and community (perhaps by forcing you to relocate closer to, if not in a clinical house with, your shrink) for their ultimate safety.0
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FeelinFooFoo wrote: »I say 'I'm fine' when I just don't want to get into a big discussion at that point in time. Maybe she isn't fine but just not in the head space to start talking about it. It can be infuriating to deal with someone who won't open up despite its obvious something is wrong. I think that's when it's best to try not to take it 'personally'.0
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If I’m asked on a date, I expect him to pay but I’m always prepared0
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I generally prefer going Dutch, however, I tend to follow the, 'I ask, I pay' and if 'he asks, he pays'0
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ladies dropping some truth bombs in here.
hope the rest of us guys are listening too1 -
If you are canceling a first date it’d better be over an actually phone call and not a text.
I love when a date offers to pay, especially for a first date. To me says that they are interested in dating me and not just sleeping with me. That being said I will try to refuse to allow that as I hate feeling like I owe someone.
Turns out women are impossible4 -
If you are canceling a first date it’d better be over an actually phone call and not a text.
I love when a date offers to pay, especially for a first date. To me says that they are interested in dating me and not just sleeping with me. That being said I will try to refuse to allow that as I hate feeling like I owe someone.
Turns out women are impossible
Oops I'm guilty of canceling through texts...I generally hate getting stuck in a phone conversation.
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mustacheU2Lift wrote: »If you are canceling a first date it’d better be over an actually phone call and not a text.
I love when a date offers to pay, especially for a first date. To me says that they are interested in dating me and not just sleeping with me. That being said I will try to refuse to allow that as I hate feeling like I owe someone.
Turns out women are impossible
Oops I'm guilty of canceling through texts...I generally hate getting stuck in a phone conversation.
Well gals are exempt. We have the goods...we do what we want!
Oh and I’ve done it too. Ooops0 -
I am paying for the date. I think its nice if my date offers but i will not accept. If a woman is adamant about it its annoying to me. In a relationship there is a little more give and take, but with dating call me sexist, old fashioned, whatever, i am paying.7
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If he buys my dinner, I’ll pay for the hotel.
Jk thats sleazy, i usually just take them to my mom’s
Edit: they always seem to know the way 🤔6 -
I went on a date where the guy bought dinner and then we went and played pool and drank. He gave his card to the waitress to start a tab. While he was in the bathroom I gave her my card instead because I felt like I should do my part. The bar tab ended up being $125 😑
Lol...maybe backfired...but I like this.
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1st date canceled ...would you schedule a 2nd
Too many variables, it would be dependent on why or what the reasoning behind it was and how the cancellation was conducted.
Man expecting Dutch on a 1st date
As a man, I have always paid that I can remember, however I would say 99% of the time I asked the woman out, my reasoning is I am asking another person to spend time with me to get to know me better. Time is precious, at least to me it is. If you called up your best friend and asked them to go out to eat because you really need them to talk to or you had a day, or for whatever that reason may be, would you not pay for their meal as well? I sure would. Maybe that's a little different context but the principle still applies, there are hundreds to thousands of things the other person could potentially be doing but instead decided to take an hour or two out of their day to spend it with you.
Women saying I'm fine when they are not...ya or nay (maybe she was fine till you asked her if she's was fine)
Doesn't this ultimately depend on the relationship and personality of the woman? I am sure we all know somebody that say's that they are fine and that's your cue to not push and ask more because you know they don't want to talk about it at the point in time and when they do want to they will come to you and vent about it. Or they are literally fine, life's going ok, nothing extremely good or bad is going on with their life, so they are "fine"
But I will say at the same time, if they are not fine but say they are and also have this unrealistic expectation (unrealistic being that it wasn't something that important like forgetting her bday or anniversary or not being there for her are important, forgetting to get eggs at the store, not so important) that I should know why they aren't fine I did something 247 days ago and they somehow remembered that one incident and still mad about it even though we already were over it, yeah that *kitten* doesn't fly with me.
Too many selfies...is there an acceptable amount
A specific number would be impossible, no? I do think if it were possible to have a study done were people would look at social media pages of multiple people and view it on their own, the majority of people in the study would come to an agreement on those who are little too self absorbed on social media. Bottom line, I think we know it when we see it.
Skipping over people in threads ...rude or just having fun
Not sure what you are getting at here, I am not a huge poster on here so no comment.2 -
Too many selfies? The me of just a couple of years ago would have definitely said most are overdoing it. But, the me of a couple of years ago would have been wrong. Its part of what society is today and i have even bought into it way more than i thought i would. Id like it if a lot of the selfies were a little more realistic.....but what does it matter if i never see any of the people here in real life anyway.....how they look here would be the reality than.....right?
I do notice something though......its only about 25% of the members that take 75% of the selfies. Maybe it means we need even more people taking selfies!4
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