Feeling hopeless. 😔
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missskinnieminnie
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Last night while laying in bed with my husband. I felt like a giant cuddling up next to him. Sex is the worst I feel disgusting he doesn’t say a word ever about weight. I’m sure he thinks it.. I know he loves me But.. I don’t love me 😞 i started my app back up today Here I go again.. wish me luck.
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Making the first step is usually the hardest. You have all the tools at your disposal, you know what to do, and I'm sure you can do it. You'll find a lot of great advice and support in this group! No need to feel hopeless! Take a good long look at the success stories - they are so inspiring, and there are a lot of people there, who once felt exactly like you do now.3
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Good luck!1
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Good luck..feel free to add me I'm on every day1
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Most of us have had a moment like yours, or a scare. That's what pushes us to change. Just plug in your stats. MFP will give you a daily calorie goal. Try and stay within it everyday. Weigh and measure everything you eat and drink with a digital food scale. Try to move more--walking is great to start. Take your measurements and keep a weekly journal. This will help you later when eventually the scale doesn't move. You can see your progress and it will help you keep going. Read the "success" threads when you feel down. Lastly read the "Sexy Pants" thread (it's a stickie) since you want to look better. It will help you get on your way.6
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Thank you to all that left me a message it’s an encouraging start to my day.5
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I got to my tipping point yesterday. We have very similar stories. Let's do this!2
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As a man I go through this as well. Its the dysmorphia hijacking your rational brain. You are taking a good first step. So lets try to get away from the irrational to the rational. Set small goals, weekly or monthly. He loves you, all of you. If you're really worried, open up a discussion with him. Don't imagine what someone is thinking when you can let them tell you themselves.3
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I feel the same way, I’m sick of feeling fat, sick & tired but I know nothing is going to change unless I’m willing to step up to the plate. I’m sitting here overwhelmed because I had my breakfast only two and a half hours ago and I want to eat already, I choose to get on here instead, wising you all the best!2
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I've found that when I feel that rough, it often helps to look at everything as if it were a dear friend of mine going through the issue I am.
It's at that point I start to argue against the negativity -
"You're not a bad person, you're a good person who hasn't made the right choices - YET. That can change."
"Why wouldn't you love yourself? You're awesome. Yes, you have faults and flaws, don't we all?"
Sometimes we have to forgive ourselves, even just a little, before we can start making real progress - because when you falter and have a setback (note, not *if* but *when*) you can be more forgiving and understanding - and that goes a long way towards healing.
And when we start to heal, forgive and love ourselves, then we can start making change for the better - until that point, we often don't feel we deserve to be better and become our own worst enemy.
Source: Sufferer of PTSD for over 20 years, dealing with anxiety and depression on an almost daily basis.7 -
I remember feeling like that. Just take your time and get your eating habits sorted out. You can do it! If I can lose 100 pounds and keep them off, anyone can. I second the success stories suggestion. It always helps to see that others have done it. You can do it and then you will inspire someone else down the road.1
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When I started, I just disconnected myself from anything but the process. Didn't weigh myself, just logged food and tried to get moving. About 10 weeks later, I realized that my jeans were falling off
. THEN, I weighed myself. 4 -
I want my jeans to fall off! I wanna feel better about myself. You have no idea!2
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misskinnieminnie In March of this year I saw a photo of me at my fattest and I was shocked. I had a moment of disgust and then began the work one step at a time one day at a time. You are so much more than your weight and that is who you need to get back to loving. Just track everything and don't be so hard on yourself.2
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Nothing is ever hopeless unless you stop working at it. MFP is great if you use it. Buy a food scale and weigh everything you eat. Honest logging is key to success. You can do this!0
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