Is it just me?

GoGoSuku
GoGoSuku Posts: 63
edited October 1 in Health and Weight Loss
Or do you never feel like your having fun?

I don't drink, don't smoke, don't do drugs but life isn't as fun no more! Okay, so I done a whole 1 shot of sambuca(horrible stuff) yesterday but that's because someone bought it for me aha!

I just feel like I'm missing out on something, I don't watch tv for more than 2 hours a day or stay on my laptop. I feel like I'm cutting out all the things I love but feel like if I bring them back I'll go back to old ways :cry:

I can't drink anyway because when I taste alcohol now, my alcoholic mum comes to mind and it makes me tear up. What do you do to put the fun back in your life?

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  • dls06
    dls06 Posts: 6,774 Member
    Sometimes I feel, with all that is going on in the world today, screw it we probable won't be here much longer anyway.
  • godroxmysox
    godroxmysox Posts: 1,491 Member
    My father was an alcoholic. I think that may be why I hate beer so much (just the smell makes me sick). You don't have to do those things to have a good time. Just like weight loss, it's about self control. You can have a couple drinks without getting drunk. Have you talked to your doctor about this? It sounds like you might have some depression. I had my doctor put me on antidepressants and they changed my life. I don't really know your situation, but there's so much out there.....go get it!
  • ohwhataday
    ohwhataday Posts: 1,398 Member
    You think Sambuca is horrible?! Dang. I friggin' love that stuff. It sounds like you may want to talk to someone that's a professional because they could really do a lot more for you than anyone on here. Good luck to you and I hope you start to cheer up and feel better in no time!
  • sdiringer
    sdiringer Posts: 1
    I think finding a fitness regime that makes you happy is one of the keys. If you're not liking the exercise you're doing, then find a different one! There are classes, exercise groups, even silly sports to play. So instead of having this annoying exercise *thing* you have to do, you GET to go for a hike or play quidditch (yes, there are quidditch teams surprisingly!). I also got more into cooking when I started really working on my health. Having people over to cook, or cooking classes?

    I certainly miss some of my other life activities, so it's not just you. But finding alternative fun time has really helped my emotional and physical health. It's not just about eating changes or exercise changes, it's about life changes. And in the end, your body will appreciate how you're treating it and reward you. Hope that helps!
  • dayzeerock
    dayzeerock Posts: 918 Member
    Have more s3x.
  • kalelwifey
    kalelwifey Posts: 172
    YEP! i get this way all the time! Im 25 years old and everyday i wake up....Go to work...come home..work out...use the computer...watch tv! i till myself im gonan do something fun or write a book or sumthin! I know fun isnt all about drinking and partying but it seems that way huh!?!?
  • streetnamejim
    streetnamejim Posts: 68
    Killing off bad habits is tough fo sho... but its not just you. :)

    How bout trying some stuff that you've never done before? You know like cocaine, or heroine? HEhehe... I'M JOKING (don't do drugs)!! But seriously, find some stuff to do that you've maybe wondered about or dreamed about but just never felt like you could or would have the chance to do it. I recently started riding my bike because I recall how much I enjoyed doing it when I was a kid. There are days when my brain starts making excuses for why I "can't" but then I just do it anyway and as soon as I start, I'm glad I did.

    Have you ever heard of geocaching? If not, look it up... its good outdoors fun and there are lots of closet cachers out there. If you have kids, they love it too!!
  • JenniferFalasco
    JenniferFalasco Posts: 5
    How much exercise are you getting? Your profile says you love everything, but it sounds like you're hitting some depression and getting enough exercise can really help with that.
  • Amo_Angelus
    Amo_Angelus Posts: 604 Member
    I never did drugs or smoked, I only rarely drink once in a blue moon. I didn't have a tv for five years and only have one now because the fiancé watches it, I still don't really watch it now and my laptop...well I go on it less than I did a few years ago. And I have LOTS more fun than people who do all those things. Why? Because I'm not needing a smoke every few minutes, I don't spend all my money on drugs or alcohol, and my schedual isn't dictated by facebook and tv litings. I can go and do what I want, when I want to. There's so much going on in the world, there's so much to see and do. I do way more than most people because I have the money and freedom to.
  • mjboswell
    mjboswell Posts: 114 Member
    I think this is very individual for everyone. You have to find the things you love, that you are passionate about and do them. I love hiking, horseback riding, and good conversation with interesting people. I love to watch my children play, reading a good book, I could go on and on. So when I have time I go hiking, read a book, take my kids to the park, etc. I don't have a lot of extra time but I make time to keep me happy. A happy me means happy people around me. So you need to figure out what makes you happy and do it!
  • msmandyjo
    msmandyjo Posts: 95 Member
    Are you depressed? You don't have to drink to have fun. I have fun daily, and I only drink on rare occasions. I used to drink almost nightly, but that was before I had kids. Sometimes, but rarely, i miss going out and drinking and dancing, but I can have almost as much fun shaking it in the living room w/ my 3 yr old... and I don't have to care about how I look or if I'm still w/ the music :) but, when I'm depressed, nothing is fun... life is so blah, blah boring. That's why I ask...

    If you don't think it's depression, then find something you enjoy doing that fits into your new lifestyle. You can go to a club and dance and not drink, you can just be the DD. You can take cooking classes, or some other class of something you think you'd enjoy. Just because you aren't drinking, shouldn't mean you aren't having fun, and not watching as much TV should mean you have more time for fun.. TV fills time, and makes folding laundry bearable, but I wouldn't call it FUN.
  • Pineapples
    Pineapples Posts: 246 Member
    Read The Power of Now. "happiness is not in doing, but in the stillness of it all"
  • Mirabilis
    Mirabilis Posts: 312 Member
    Volunteer for worthy cause. It doesn't have to be working in a soup kitchen. Try spending time with seniors who have nobody else, for example. If you have spare time, join a local charity club like Rotary. They'll find things for you to do and you might just find some friends with similar lifestyles and views!

    I do lots of volunteering now (not something I learned growing up btw) and it really changed my life and how I look at it.
  • bluemist248
    bluemist248 Posts: 207 Member
    There's plenty of stuff you can still do! I don't drink any more (apart from the odd glass of wine on occasions), I've never smoked or done drugs so I'll never have to miss them. But I can honestly say my fun hasn't declined. I go on loads of day trips to safari parks, theme parks, or the seaside. I go cinema usually once a week plus I'm out for dinner with friends/boyfriend/family 4 times a week, I'm in the pub every weekend with my friends (I drink lemonade instead of alcohol). I even have 'Come Dine With Me' (UK TV show) nights at university where we cook different healthy meals to impress each other with :laugh:

    There's no need to cut out TV or laptop, it can provide a couple of hours of relaxation at the end of a busy day and doesn't make you lazy (providing you still get out each day of course). You could also try making workouts a social thing do, like have a running buddy or take a Zumba class for example.
  • bcattoes
    bcattoes Posts: 17,299 Member
    It is possible to work alcohol into a weight loss plan, but at 18 yo I don't recommend it. Maybe join or take a class. It can be, but doesn't have to be, and exercise class. It can be anything that you are interested in. Find something you are interested in and then join a class or group so you will make friends with similar healthy interests.
  • superdrood
    superdrood Posts: 129 Member
    As a recent quiter of smoking and alcohol I honestly think it's the mind telling you you're not having fun because it's been programmed to have fun while imbibing. Being creatures of habit coupled with addictive properties of drugs and alcohol has a profound and powerful effect on the psyche for quite sometime after you begin abstaining. It just takes time and some self inflicted distractions to get past this.

    My advice is find new activities. Try something, if you don't like it move to another. Be an explorer of what life has to offer. For example I've started volunteering at a museum near me and have had wonderful time with fellow volunteers and patrons. Maybe try hiking, join a photography club, learn to macrame, take a wood shop class, the list goes on.
  • HappyLuna
    HappyLuna Posts: 112
    I did used to feel like this, so I am finding other ways to have fun.
    Most of the time I do just look after my son, go to work, cook, clean, wash, iron, watch tv and go to bed. Life gets a bit like that, but I have found fun is my exercise. I love running and yoga. I got to a yoga class once a week and I run 3 times a week. I have set myself goals and entered events. Its a great motivator. When I started running it was painful and I disliked it, but now I love it!
    Reading is good too. I have been buying two books a month so I have something to read. I find this helps me switch off sometimes and gives me things to talj about with other people.
    Me and my partner try and go out for a meal once a month, and to tbe cinema maybe.
    If you have a boyfriend/girlfriend/husband/wife then see if there are things you can both do together. If you are single join some clubs and meet new people. Find new interests :)
    Hope that is helpful xxx
  • happydeer
    happydeer Posts: 10
    I had similar issues throughout most of my early 20s. It may be an age gap issue -- if a lot of people close to your age are used to having fun in very specific ways, it can seem harder to relax. You might want to look for clubs, unusual hobbies, anything else that can put you in touch with a diverse group of people who engage in activities that generally don't allow for alcohol/drugs. Maybe regular exercise -- a fun class or two -- but also think about things that demand precision. I made an unusually large number of friends in a book repair class I took a couple of years ago; it was quite a party, but no one was going to be wasted around sharp tools and precious old volumes! You'll find something!
  • GoGoSuku
    GoGoSuku Posts: 63
    Thinking about it, it definitely is a age gap issue!

    Most people are out drinking, smoking, doing drugs around my age whilst I used to be one of the best people to bring out and do that with! I'm a fun person without it and a extremely fun person with it, but now I just want to read, find out about life and have real discussions about things that aren't *****ing about some silly girl.

    I do need to find new friends, different friends and I have maybe one? I'm going to a new college in September so I think I'll make some different friends then! I've really been a different teenager and everyone always seems surprised when they learn things about me.

    Whilst I used to drink, do drugs and smoke I also meditated, researched religions, tribes and other things. I have a way of solving other peoples problems and the majority of the time my own but I do tend to go into one of these moods every month or so...but I just call it my man period ;')
  • mjboswell
    mjboswell Posts: 114 Member
    I have a way of solving other peoples problems and the majority of the time my own but I do tend to go into one of these moods every month or so...but I just call it my man period ;')

    If you continue to feel like this or if it gets worse you should talk to your Dr. There is a condition that is similar to Bi-Polar only the swings, in either direction, are less pronounced. So you will have the "mood swings" only people won't think much about them because they are not as severe as those seen in people with Bi-Polar disorder. Not that this is the case for you but just providing information that might help you out.
  • streetnamejim
    streetnamejim Posts: 68
    "my man period" -- LOL!! Good deal... :)

    I suspect there is bit of an age gap here... I recall my late teens and early 20's to be much like your own. Like many have mentioned, see a counselor if this feeling goes on and on. It helps... :)

    The new college experience will be a good change if you make it one. Attitude is everything!!
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