Keeping our *kitten* Together Over the Holidays
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josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Exercise before the social events.
Make the social events active.
Eat reasonably.
Prelog.
I exercise 6 days a week regardless... Our social events are parties, going out to dinner, etc... hard to prelog when you don't know what is being served, how it is made, etc. Most of the restaurants we go to are local and don't have nutritional info on line... The eating reasonably part is one I can and should do but somehow after a few cocktails that falls by the wayside!
Many restaurants do have menus online now, so I will check the menu, and then use the information from restaurants who do post nutrition online, or from recipe sites that have calories, to prelog.
So if I know that I'm going to choose the pumpkin, spinach, and ricotta lasagna, I'll look up pumpkin lasagna, and I might find something like these and take an average:
https://www.taste.com.au/recipes/pumpkin-sage-ricotta-lasagne/93b6977e-8d56-4336-a5f4-253ac22d815d
https://www.bbcgoodfood.com/recipes/67609/roast-pumpkin-and-spinach-lasagne
I also make a point of ordering a plain garden salad (no dressing ... I don't like dressing) to start. That helps fill me up a little so I don't feel like eating quickly or eating a lot.
Plus we only drink diet beverages and water.
Regarding the exercise, I exercise 7 days a week, but the quantity varies ... so some days I might only walk an hour (200 calories) but on a day when I know we're going to have pizza or something, I'll try to get at least a couple hours of cycling or a combination of running and cycling. That can burn 800-1000 calories which will cover most of the pizza I eat.
And I have encouraged the people I'm having dinner with to go for a walk after dinner ... we'll wander through a local park or around the block or something. Walk and talk. If my husband and I are on our own, we'll do that most of the time.
Some people also bank calories ... so they'll come in, say, 100 calories a day, under their total for 6 days, thus banking 600 calories, which gives them an extra 600 calories on a day when they eat more. In a way I did this too by only eating half my exercise calories back.
Yes, it all sounds good in theory but I had some health issues this year and kind of have the attitude that sometimes life is too short to worry about calories. Our social events are a little more "party" type so just hanging out drinking adult beverages... don't think I am convincing anyone to go on a walk with me LOL! That being said, I do cut calories during the week to some degree but need to be properly nutritioned for my workouts. Just hoping not to gain very much if at all and will hopefully stay around where I am at. I am for sure going to work hard not to gain with workouts and making good food choices (staying within cals when I can) but also want to enjoy everything!
It's all about priorities.
yeah, fun with my friends is my main priority... I had a bad year health wise with surgeries and I am just not going to stress too much over diet this time of year or ever, however, still trying to stay somewhat mindful. Life is too short...0 -
wellnesschaser wrote: »I need a place to vent my holiday stress, hope that’s ok here. Why does this time of year put so much pressure on us? I want to avoid booze and be moderate with all the holiday foods this year.
Vent away!
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snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Aww thanks!
Here are two "holiday" themed threads I've written in response to a persistent theme I've seen over the last few years around here...
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10482342/thanksgiving-dont-sweat-it-eat-it-log-it-be-proud-of-it/p1
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10303793/who-gained-weight-during-the-holidays-i-have-a-solution/p1
Hope these tips help some of you.3 -
josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
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I'm in! I think there was one holiday season in my adult life where I maintained my weight through conscious efforts and it felt really good in January! I'm hoping to lose 10Ibs by then!0
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josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
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josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
I’m curious what your goal is with this thread - throughout it people have given you some suggestions on how to focus on other things, navigating the social aspect of the holidays to mitigate weight gain during the holidays which is what the original post said you were interested in, but every suggestion you get you say that you won’t be doing that because these social events and the eating/drinking is just too engrained for you.
So what are you hoping to achieve with this? Just a place to vent about the inevitable weight gain since you seem resigned to the fact that you aren’t going to change your behaviors around eating/drinking this holiday season?7 -
josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.5 -
I usually fall off the wagon around October every year (my birthday month and Thanksgiving here in Canada). There are so many treats between then and Christmas and I struggle to resist. Normally I would be able to get back on track after the new year, but I haven’t been able to in 2018.
Maybe things would be easier with a group of others for motivation.0 -
josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.
LOL! I certainly don't need therapy... I am well aware of what I am doing and chose to say F-it... After 3 surgeries this year, the first one causing complications that could have killed me, my priorities are having as much fun as I can and alot of my fun includes lots of food and adult beverages! I am a total foodie. I have had instances in my life where I used to binge eat (never purged though) and I have not done that in a very long time. This is just enjoying all the food and everything else.
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josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.
LOL! I certainly don't need therapy... I am well aware of what I am doing and chose to say F-it... After 3 surgeries this year, the first one causing complications that could have killed me, my priorities are having as much fun as I can and alot of my fun includes lots of food and adult beverages! I am a total foodie. I have had instances in my life where I used to binge eat (never purged though) and I have not done that in a very long time. This is just enjoying all the food and everything else.
So why this whole thread when you actually want absolutely no accountability or responsibility for your behaviour and your 'fun' is overeating and binge drinking?4 -
josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.
LOL! I certainly don't need therapy... I am well aware of what I am doing and chose to say F-it... After 3 surgeries this year, the first one causing complications that could have killed me, my priorities are having as much fun as I can and alot of my fun includes lots of food and adult beverages! I am a total foodie. I have had instances in my life where I used to binge eat (never purged though) and I have not done that in a very long time. This is just enjoying all the food and everything else.
Well now I'm completely confused because just one post earlier you saidjosiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it.
But now you say you know what you're doing, and you don't want to change it.
I guess hopefully my answer was helpful to someone else!
If you don't want to not eat and drink too many calories, then just enjoy yourself and you can lose whatever weight you gain after the festive season is over.3 -
josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.
LOL! I certainly don't need therapy... I am well aware of what I am doing and chose to say F-it... After 3 surgeries this year, the first one causing complications that could have killed me, my priorities are having as much fun as I can and alot of my fun includes lots of food and adult beverages! I am a total foodie. I have had instances in my life where I used to binge eat (never purged though) and I have not done that in a very long time. This is just enjoying all the food and everything else.
Well now I'm completely confused because just one post earlier you saidjosiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it.
But now you say you know what you're doing, and you don't want to change it.
I guess hopefully my answer was helpful to someone else!
If you don't want to not eat and drink too many calories, then just enjoy yourself and you can lose whatever weight you gain after the festive season is over.josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.
LOL! I certainly don't need therapy... I am well aware of what I am doing and chose to say F-it... After 3 surgeries this year, the first one causing complications that could have killed me, my priorities are having as much fun as I can and alot of my fun includes lots of food and adult beverages! I am a total foodie. I have had instances in my life where I used to binge eat (never purged though) and I have not done that in a very long time. This is just enjoying all the food and everything else.
Well now I'm completely confused because just one post earlier you saidjosiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it.
But now you say you know what you're doing, and you don't want to change it.
I guess hopefully my answer was helpful to someone else!
If you don't want to not eat and drink too many calories, then just enjoy yourself and you can lose whatever weight you gain after the festive season is over.
Well perhaps my wording was wrong prior.... and I half want to change it but I am not really that concerned about it. You perhaps took my original statement too literal... I hope to be able to reign myself in so to speak but if not, willing to deal with the consequences. I will just use these extra calories to help put on some more muscle and build my booty...2 -
In reality, I put too much emphasis on the scale and I’m not really sure after seeing the picture of my husband took of me yesterday that I really have much to lose even though the scale tells me another story. It’s the holidays I’m not gonna stress about it I’ll keep it in check when I can!
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josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.
LOL! I certainly don't need therapy... I am well aware of what I am doing and chose to say F-it... After 3 surgeries this year, the first one causing complications that could have killed me, my priorities are having as much fun as I can and alot of my fun includes lots of food and adult beverages! I am a total foodie. I have had instances in my life where I used to binge eat (never purged though) and I have not done that in a very long time. This is just enjoying all the food and everything else.
Well now I'm completely confused because just one post earlier you saidjosiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it.
But now you say you know what you're doing, and you don't want to change it.
I guess hopefully my answer was helpful to someone else!
If you don't want to not eat and drink too many calories, then just enjoy yourself and you can lose whatever weight you gain after the festive season is over.
I'm confused also. So no actual desire to change holiday behavior or create accountability - might as well start with cookie recipes like one of the other holiday threads has morphed into!2 -
Instead of cookie recipes, maybe look at this thread as an alternate?
https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/10706653/6-week-xmas-challenge-12th-nov-to-24th-dec0 -
WinoGelato wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.
LOL! I certainly don't need therapy... I am well aware of what I am doing and chose to say F-it... After 3 surgeries this year, the first one causing complications that could have killed me, my priorities are having as much fun as I can and alot of my fun includes lots of food and adult beverages! I am a total foodie. I have had instances in my life where I used to binge eat (never purged though) and I have not done that in a very long time. This is just enjoying all the food and everything else.
Well now I'm completely confused because just one post earlier you saidjosiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it.
But now you say you know what you're doing, and you don't want to change it.
I guess hopefully my answer was helpful to someone else!
If you don't want to not eat and drink too many calories, then just enjoy yourself and you can lose whatever weight you gain after the festive season is over.
I'm confused also. So no actual desire to change holiday behavior or create accountability - might as well start with cookie recipes like one of the other holiday threads has morphed into!
Wow, you look at things so black and white... sure I have desire to reign it in but I don't live a rigid life in any aspect.. Sure I would like to count every little bite that goes into my mouth but unrealistic. Good for you if you can and do. And no, don't need to start with cookie recipes..... but I could if I wanted to because no food is off limits and I could eat a cookie a day if it fit my macros when counting my macros which I normally do 6 days a week.0 -
TavistockToad wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
So this is going to sound blunt, but if you honestly have no control over your actions at social events,, you might want to consider therapy. Not having any control of your own behavior is not normal or something you have to accept.
Otherwise this is a conscious choice you're making. In which case, you just need to accept the consequences which is that you will gain a few lbs over the holidays, and re-losing those lbs will slow you down a bit. If you want to avoid that, you need to tweak your priorities. Sometimes we get stuck in a rut where we tell ourselves we aren't capable of something and it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. So if you really want to change it, you almost certainly can. If it's not that big a deal, just do the best you can and get back on track as soon as you can.
LOL! I certainly don't need therapy... I am well aware of what I am doing and chose to say F-it... After 3 surgeries this year, the first one causing complications that could have killed me, my priorities are having as much fun as I can and alot of my fun includes lots of food and adult beverages! I am a total foodie. I have had instances in my life where I used to binge eat (never purged though) and I have not done that in a very long time. This is just enjoying all the food and everything else.
So why this whole thread when you actually want absolutely no accountability or responsibility for your behaviour and your 'fun' is overeating and binge drinking?
Wow... who said anything about binge drinking.... Was looking for support from those who experience the same thing... did not realize it would be a bunch of no fun food and drink nazi's... Maybe you don't belong on this thread?? Most people understand the struggles and want to do better but we get too involved in having fun with family/friends and don't worry about it because life is too short sometimes to worry about calories all the time.4 -
WinoGelato wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »josiereside1 wrote: »snowflake954 wrote: »Read the thread "Who gained weight during the holidays? I have a solution". By winogelato. It's a classic.
Great read!! But when you have social events every weekend through New Years it is tough not to gain more than just a pound or 2 and yes tracking consistently would help but I know when I am spending time with friends/family, I am not sitting there with my phone taking the time to log.
Not saying this will work for you, but it did for me so maybe it will help! When "special occasions" become too frequent, I had to decide that some social events would have to still stay under my calorie goal. So I would decide ahead of time which events were worth the calories. Then at the other get-togethers, I wouldn't drink, I wouldn't sample everything, I wouldn't mindlessly eat everything in front of me. If anyone asked why I wasn't doing any of those things, I simply told them I'd been doing so much eating/drinking this holiday season that I needed to pace myself a little and laugh it off. Most of the time, no one actually noticed.
One of the things I had to do to lose the weight and keep it off was to make a conscious decision that I could enjoy myself without drinking all the beverages and eating all the foods at every single social event. And if the people I knew didn't want that for me, they could go jump in a lake
It all sounds good in theory but I just have no control in social events. I go with the best intentions and blow it. It really seems I need to avoid social events but I won't do that. No one would judge me for not eating all of the food or not drinking but to me that is what social events are all about.
I’m curious what your goal is with this thread - throughout it people have given you some suggestions on how to focus on other things, navigating the social aspect of the holidays to mitigate weight gain during the holidays which is what the original post said you were interested in, but every suggestion you get you say that you won’t be doing that because these social events and the eating/drinking is just too engrained for you.
So what are you hoping to achieve with this? Just a place to vent about the inevitable weight gain since you seem resigned to the fact that you aren’t going to change your behaviors around eating/drinking this holiday season?
Perhaps it is to vent.. talk about successes, failures.... I did not realize things need to be so black and white here... Seems like a few of you are very rigid in your thought processes.0
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